Can you wear black to a wedding?

Torry_Quine

paulineb wrote: »

Everyones definition of bigger will be different, to me size 14, which is the size Im most comfortable at isnt big, some people will think it is

I dont hide behind or wear black because Im not thin, I wear a black dress because I like it

But if someone invited me to a wedding and said please dont wear black then Id wear something else, if they were ok with me wearing a black dress then I would.

People can look good and awful in every single colour under the sun, its not just about colour, its about what you are wearing and how you wear it and that doesnt mean how expensive something is either.

Wear something that suits you, something you are comfortable in and yes if necessary something that wont upset the bride 30 years on.

Wedding invites don't usually come with information on what colours to not wear so unless you are really sure it's always a good idea to check if wearing colours not normally associated with wedding guests.

paulineb_2

candygirl wrote: »

Pammy Anderson;)

Knew there had to be someone.

gingin_2

melanzana wrote: »

We always think people are looking at us, and as a consequence, we stress about how we look to others..

But fact, they are too caught up in how THEY look to be even bothered how WE look!

That's so true. It took me many years of hating and punishing myself to work that one out. Wish I'd known earlier

paulineb_2

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Wedding invites don't usually come with information on what colours to not wear so unless you are really sure it's always a good idea to check if wearing colours not normally associated with wedding guests.

Some peoples do, someone posted earlier on about it

Ive never worn black to a wedding btw, just that if someone was ok with it, then Id be happy enough to do it

Its hypothetical anyway for me, all my mates got married 20 or so years ago, some of them divorced and remarried or living with people, Im not from a large family with cousins, aunts, uncles and my brother is happily living with someone so theres no one I know of in my life whose planning to get married.

Delphinum

My bridesmaids wore black at my wedding 7 years ago. They were kind of like this, but the lighter colour was in baby pink and had a pink layer under the skirt...

http://www.ecrater.co.uk/p/6001434/unique-black-bridesmaid-dress-home?gps=1

The girls had pink peonies as their flowers and sparkly shoes. I think they looked nice.

All but one of the female guests (my Granny) wore white to my wedding. I felt this was a bit off to be honest but I guess they don't know the etiquette and it didn't spoil the day so I'm happy they were there.

oldnewhand

You are the person (along with your OH) that's been invited to the wedding not your outfit; that shouldn't matter. It seems to me that you are a kind hearted sensitive person that worries (possibly too much) about doing the right thing and not upsetting others. Wear what you feel physically comfortable in with a smile and be good company.
On a practical note a darker shade and complimentary cut with vertical lines will help to slim along with good well fitted comfortable underwear and confidence with which you wear it.
Enjoy the occasion.

adouglasmhor

I agree with oldnewhand except the juries out on the vertical lines thing.

Alice_Walls

Thank you. It helped me too. :beer: Cheers! Black is not so bad.

stokeliz

I wore a black trouser suit to a wedding and one of my friends had black bridesmaid's dresses as her bridesmaids were both in their 20's and she wanted something they could wear afterwards

neverdespairgirl

adouglasmhor wrote: »

That sounds like the code for women and men here, but for high court for Advocates, black lounge is, grey wedding striped trousers, black suit jacket (or dark navy aka midnight blue), grey waistcoat (basically a morning suit but with an ordinary black suit jacket), and tie or bands - I think they all wear soft collar though. The guy caught my attention as he was wearing a light grey suit with bands.

High Court here is the same - this is all for juniors, though, when robed, Queen's Counsel wear a silks' jacket, instead of their waistcoat and normal suit jacket. We all wear high court collars, though.