Advice leave or stay?

nicmccor

Thank you for all your comments I know what is right to do I just hope its that easy

paulineb_2

I know what its like to be involved with a practised liar and useless chancer. I met one last summer. He lived a long way away but convinced me he was offline due to "depression" and that he was too low to be online even to talk to me. Nonsense, he was online all the time on dating sites and changed his location but hadnt changed his status to say that he was seeing someone.

Its not a nice feeling when you feel you have been conned and I was upset, for about 5 mins and then I booted him to the kerb and got on with it.

He can spin his walter mitty lies to other people and I know Im not the only person he lied to during that time.

Get rid, no excuses, I wouldnt even bother telling him its over, just leave him to go his own way.

tizerbelle

If he wanted to live with you - he'd be living with you.

Irrespective of all his excuses about stuff going on in his life - if you were the one for him, he'd be living with you now and you'd be dealing with things together.

maman

nicmccor wrote: »

I make alot of time for friends and family so I am not just waiting around for him.

Good for you!:T

nicmccor wrote: »

Thank you for all your comments I know what is right to do I just hope its that easy

It's NOT that easy but a damn sight easier than staring a family and then finding out.

Get out there and kiss a few frogs!!

Saturnalia

Sorry to say I'm with the others on here - yer man's a chancer and his ex isn't an ex.

aileth

Definitely loud sirens about you being his mistress. I have known people that have had to live with ex's for financial reasons and they couldn't get out of the house quick enough when the opportunity arose.

He contacts you when it suits him, when he wants something. He has all the power, the control, and I bet he bloody loves it.

If you know his address, I'd go around and introduce yourself as X's girlfriend if the 'ex' answers the door. I'd bet that'd be very telling!

Sorry OP, I hope things work out for you and you meet someone deserving.

SandC

One thing I've learnt recently OP..... actions speak louder than words. Whatever he says, it has to match up to what he does. If not then he is not being straight with you.

lindsaygalaxy

Ok, a few questions....

1. If you are both on facebook, has he added you, are you listed as his gf?
2. Have you ever been to his ex and seen him with his own room?
3. Why would money stop him living with you, surely he has the same problems where he is at the moment?
4. Why haven't you just turned up where he lives? Do you know in your heart that you are scared of the truth?

If i'm honest, and as someone who has lived with a liar, this is what I think the real situation is.
He split from his ex, met you, they decided to give it another go by which time you had the house etc, he didn't know/ want to tell you and stayed with her. He see's you enough to keep his options open.

You need to face what is really going on, if you have faith in him and believe he is telling the truth, pay a surprise visit. It doesn't sound like you have a relationship to me, you sound like the other women hoping that he will leave his wife/girlfriend. I would put money the dads illness is also fictional.

swingaloo

Did he spend Christmas with you?

Did he spend his birthday with you?

Have you met any of his family?

Do you know any of his friends?

Has he met any of your family?

I expect the answer to all those questions will be NO!

Get out fast, you are worth more.

tinkerbell28

You've got nothing to leave. he lives with his wife, you are the mistress.

I'm sure she very much thinks they are together.