Advice leave or stay?

CH27

She isn't his ex! You are his other woman.

paulineb_2

I dont think you are even involved in this mans life enough to be asking the question leave or stay, he lives with someone else and you hardly see him.

nicmccor

I told him last night I thought we should forget about it till he is ready to make the break as I am getting nothing but stress from this relationship we both want the same thing as in marriage and starting a family but I think he really does not know why he can not break away as he is too stressed with all things going on but I have a lot of things to deal with also I just get on with mine? Feel like I give too much and get nothing back

paulineb_2

Hes living with someone else, how on earth can he want to marry you when you have a home he could move into today? Hes made his choice and it doesnt seem to be you.

paulineb_2

How often you do see this man, not email or facebook or text, how often have you seen him since you got together?

kelpie35

I think you need to move on in your life.

If I was you I would make your own arrangements regards social activities and not make contact with him.

You will then have your answer.............as I don't expect him to either contact you or bother about what you are doing.

nicmccor

first two months we was together all the time its just the last few I was not aware of the situation of him living with ex when we met and if I knew this was how it would be I would have never got with him. I think the general response is to stay away until or if he wants to continue leaving the past behind I really still believe she is a ex but it still does not make it right. x

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Hard as it is move on....
I wouldn't get involved with anyone that has an ex in the background let alone living with one.unless the contact its for a very good reason, ie children are involved, then no way if he was still living there.
Hes had a year......If he wanted to be with you....it wouldn't of taken this long.
Shes not his ex, he still lives there. Hes having his cake and eating it..

tea_lover

There doesn't seem to be much in this 'relationship' for you, and tbh it doesn't really sound like a relationship at all. From what you've posted it sounds very much like he's living with his gf, and you're a nice distraction for him when he has some spare time. Cut your losses and walk away.

Forget what he says about future plans, marriage etc. Look at his actions - they don't seem to be screaming commitment do they? At least, not to you I'm afraid.

paulineb_2

I bet if you turned up at his door and asked to speak to her, this ex might have a very different story to tell

She could be his wife for all you know