What to think?

DUTR

justme111 wrote: »

Folk
Beware , we do not have a complete transcript of their communication. There might well been stuff in it that could been interpreted as asking for help /opening the door for it to be offered. I do not imply that op consciously avoided mentioning it . I mean op' s question can not be answered because we have only editited texts and I understand we can only be guided by info in op in this case there seem to be insufficient one.

I ask you how can I post a full transcript of the conversation ? I can screen dump the phone screen, however there is contact pics and numbers, names etc to block out, it is as is, and of course there was no offer of a loan, I don't know how well you know me as a poster, but I'm a NRP pay my CSA and no more (PS this person is not the child's Mum), I wouldn't loan out money to very many people even family and sometimes especially family, as mentioned earlier, the purpose of the post was to see if others thought the texts I included were a hint of a donation to finance the repairs? Nothing more and not to side with my thoughts.

DUTR

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

'Is this a real goodbye or a 'woe is me, someone didn't text me within one minute I hate everyone and must go and eat worms' goodbye?'

Sorry FBR, that was texts from another day, so the goodbye's etc come 'often'.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

DUTR wrote: »

Sorry FBR, that was texts from another day, so the goodbye's etc come 'often'.

Yeah, I know...that's what they would get from me if they continually posted woe is me goodbyes.

Are you really honestly getting anything out of this relationship?

DUTR

smartpicture wrote: »

Considering the number of texts going backwards and forwards in a single week between you, I suspect the other person would be rather miffed to be called a mere 'acquaintance'. I don't text most of my friends that much!

See that is why I love this forum sometimes, I'm a bloke so if I want to learn or understand something about women I ask here as women read the forum, it would be next to pointless asking my mates.
But to follow on from your post why would you be miffed? The texts we exchange come in leaps and bounds and there is nothig to 'progress' in the relationship.

marisco_2

DUTR how sad that your acquaintance cannot see that her approach to relationships makes her life that much more difficult. Only listening to people that tell you what you want to hear is a mugs game and serves no purpose whatsoever. Logic would tell someone with an ounce of common sense, that people who do that are just trying to pacify a person and they have no real interest in showing them another perspective, or helping them out of whatever dilemma they are facing. Sometimes hearing what you need to and not what you want to, is necessary to put things right and help someone to move on positively.

As for the 1 minute response time or I blow up and tell you where to go, well..... :rotfl: That doesn't take into account that someone may be otherwise engaged and unable to respond immediately. Does that mean they deserve to be cast aside as if they don't matter a jot. Oh dear I probably have met your friend, years ago in the playground at school :cool: Some of us mature others don't, your acquaintance seems to fall into the latter category.

DUTR

marisco wrote: »

DUTR how sad that your acquaintance cannot see that her approach to relationships makes her life that much more difficult. Only listening to people that tell you what you want to hear is a mugs game and serves no purpose whatsoever. Logic would tell someone with an ounce of common sense, that people who do that are just trying to pacify a person and they have no real interest in showing them another perspective, or helping them out of whatever dilemma they are facing. Sometimes hearing what you need to and no what you want to is necessary to put things right and help someone to move on positively.

As for the 1 minute response time or I blow up and tell you where to go, well..... :rotfl: That doesn't take into account that someone may be otherwise engaged and unable to respond immediately. Does that mean they deserve to be cast aside as if they don't matter a jot. Oh dear I probably have met your friend, years ago in the playground at school :cool: Some of us mature others don't, your acquaintance seems to fall into the latter category.

Spooky, as some of the words and phrases you have used I have too,
I'm not going to fully fall out with her, and I won't rub it in at a later point to say 'I told you so' .

**Patty**

Depends how impish you feel

I'd text:

Sorry if you feel i havn't been very helpful or sympathetic to your current plight. I really didn't mean to offend you.
How would you like me to fix this?


Or:

Sorry? The cambelt broke. Your car is knackered & shouldn't have been repaired in the first place. Would you like me to assist you in finding a new one?

Of course, if you want to repair the relationship...maybe not the second one :rotfl:

balletshoes

DUTR wrote: »

A brief summary , an aquaintance's car had failed a couple of weeks back (expensive repair cam belt fail) ,

now then on Monday I sent a text asking

Me: When do you get the car back?
Reply: Get the car back this week

other texts occasional texts until Wednesday, then on Saturday I sent a text which included

Me: Have you had your car back?
Reply: Car was ready Wednesday, but haven't had pin number or card yet.

then 6 hrs later
Reply : Thanks for a reply. When you need a friend there is no one. Don't text again goodbye!


After that a couple of too-ing and fro-ing texts, but what puzzles me and hence my question is the text 6hrs later.
Is there something I may have missed?

and this is all a perfect example of the potential dangers of keeping up a friendship by text. Phone your friend, and ask what you have done to upset them.

eta - or don't - having read your other posts and drama llama nature of your text friend, I couldn't be a**ed annoyed with all that malarky and I'd have cut off text contact yonks ago.

the_pink_panther_2

balletshoes wrote: »

and this is all a perfect example of the potential dangers of keeping up a friendship by text. Phone your friend, and ask what you have done to upset them.

I don't know... her behaviour is dramatic and attention seeking, and if she sees this method works then long term you can probably expect more of the same sort of treatment. Depends how you feel about this.

Gigervamp

I'd be tempted to send a text back and say "Oh, OK then. Bye." And then don't contact her.

Bet she'd be texting you straight back though.