What to think?

DUTR

Right then folks, I'm a he and the other person is a she, we live 10 miles apart knwn each other 4 years, there is no wooing or chasing or intent on bedding or being in a relationship in that way with that person. So I put in the post that she is an aquaintance as opposed to friend.

When the text at 6hrs later arrived initially I had not thought anything of it straight away.

but then after the following texts , and I had gone to bed , I thought was the message about the CC and pin was a cue to 'loan' the £££s :eek:

As to me the finance for the repair work £2k would have been arranged before getting the car to the technicians for an engine replacement.

Kayalana99

Tbh its not that hard to access money if its in her account even without the bank card/pin number...

An excuse for a loan that perhaps she doesnt actally have the funds with even in her account...

paulineb_2

Is it possible shes sent other texts which didn't get through/went to spam as the conversation doesn't look like its flowing?

Did she have a couple of drinks before sending the upset text? All she needed to do was phone you if she needed help and to be honest, unless she lives in the middle of absolutely nowhere with nil bus service, being without a car is hardly a hardship and if you aren't a close friend Im sure she probably does have closer friends of family who could have helped her.

marisco_2

I agree with you. Before instructing a garage to carry out that level of work, finance should be in place and be easily accessible for when the job is completed. Quite understandably the garage who have repaired the car are now probably piling on the pressure for this acquaintance of yours to pay up. It is unrealistic of her to expect anyone to sub her 2K at a moments notice.

If she is having problems common sense would suggest, that she should pick up the phone and be really clear with friends about what she needs in way of assistance. Only then can people get a full picture of what her needs are and offer any practical help. To text and fly off the handle means she may lead herself to become cut off from those who could support her. She is not behaving logically at the moment.

angeltreats

Maybe the text was meant for someone else? Wouldn't be the first time a text was accidentally sent to the wrong person.

DUTR

paulineb wrote: »

Is it possible shes sent other texts which didn't get through/went to spam as the conversation doesn't look like its flowing?

Did she have a couple of drinks before sending the upset text? All she needed to do was phone you if she needed help and to be honest, unless she lives in the middle of absolutely nowhere with nil bus service, being without a car is hardly a hardship and if you aren't a close friend Im sure she probably does have closer friends of family who could have helped her.

As mentioned , I didn't want to include too much of the background before some responses , basically we are not friends or enemies (as such)
My opinion on her which I have stated to her in the past , is that she presents herself as if the world revolves around her and her drama's. But that's ok as everybody is individual.
Perhaps she was annoyed that I didn't offer to loan (give) the money for the return of the repaired car (how many of you would give a few £k to friend let alone an aquaintance) .
I know there is the old saying a friend in need is a friend indeed, but the word friend is used by her when it suits, (if all that makes sense?)


She lives 10 miles away but in a location to walk to all facilities supermarket schools etc. it's not countryside.

DUTR

marisco wrote: »

I agree with you. Before instructing a garage to carry out that level of work, finance should be in place and be easily accessible for when the job is completed. Quite understandably the garage who have repaired the car are now probably piling on the pressure for this acquaintance of yours to pay up. It is unrealistic of her to expect anyone to sub her 2K at a moments notice.

If she is having problems common sense would suggest, that she should pick up the phone and be really clear with friends about what she needs in way of assistance. Only then can people get a full picture of what her needs are and offer any practical help. To text and fly off the handle means she may lead herself to become cut off from those who could support her. She is not behaving logically at the moment.

Ooh Marisco, it's like you have met her in person.
Her female friends seemed to have vanished over the years and family cut off (twin sister included). Flying off the handle is a common trait , People or at least I do offer practical logical advice, but she is a person that will run to the person that tells her what she wants to hear rather than what she needs to know.
Yes I understand people do have non perfect lives etc but it gets to a point where you just cannot help as the person is not going to at least try.

An example of flying of the handle texts is for instance...
1015: Why not come over for tea later?
1016: I take that as a no then, don't talk to me again goodbye

peachyprice

DUTR wrote: »

Right then folks, I'm a he and the other person is a she

Enough said.

You were expected to read between the lines (as she obviously would have been able to), by not realising that she was asking for help you've deeply offended her.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

DUTR wrote: »

An example of flying of the handle texts is for instance...
1015: Why not come over for tea later?
1016: I take that as a no then, don't talk to me again goodbye

'Is this a real goodbye or a 'woe is me, someone didn't text me within one minute I hate everyone and must go and eat worms' goodbye?'

smartpicture

Considering the number of texts going backwards and forwards in a single week between you, I suspect the other person would be rather miffed to be called a mere 'acquaintance'. I don't text most of my friends that much!