Do you tell someone you love them

Tropez

I told someone I wasn't with that I loved them once. She shot me down. We were 14 and in high school at the time so perhaps it isn't the best example, but you know something, she could have been my soul mate and we could have lived happily ever after so it was worth a shot, right?

Now, okay, I don't think blurting out "I love you" when you're discussing the hot weather is the way to go but heck, make a move. A friendship will survive that. It might make things a bit awkward for a bit but you'll know either way, any awkwardness will subside and you'll get back on to joking about. I'm still friends with the girl from high school.

System

If it's a relationship you're looking for, I wouldn't go in with "I Love You" as an opener - they could run for the hills!

How about something a little more subtle to begin with. Start seeing them a little more and a little more intimately.

Rather than telling a friend that I was in love with them, I would tell them how important they were to me. Things can and do develop between friends. You don't have to go in with a hacksaw!

You learn something new every day.:mad:

Alikay

Also, I have been on the receiving end of one of those declarations of love from a friend. He's been my husband now for 26 years. I didn't take it particularly seriously as his behaviour towards me was quite inconsistent and the "I love you's" were generally alcohol-fuelled or at some other time of heightened emotion .

I took more notice some years later when he calmly said "I want you to be my girlfriend", and it all went swimmingly from there onwards .

Dunroamin

Judi wrote: »

I always tell people I love them when I do. However, not everyone is comfortable hearing it.

The best three words in the whole wide world for me are 'I love you'.

They can also be the three most embarrassing if the feeling isn't reciprocated.

System

Dunroamin wrote: »

They can also be the three most embarrassing if the feeling isn't reciprocated.

Yes but at least i'm being honest. There aint that many people I love anyway.:rotfl:

Dunroamin

Judi wrote: »

Yes but at least i'm being honest. There aint that many people I love anyway.:rotfl:

Honesty can be very overrated.

System

Dunroamin wrote: »

Honesty can be very overrated.

Depends on whether its used to destroy or build up.

marisco_2

I have only told someone that I love them when I have been in a relationship with them for a long time. Loving someone as a friend and loving someone you are involved with is slightly different to my mind. Do you think your friendship with this person could develop into anything more? Have you tried to approach this with him?

fawd1

blackbetty wrote: »

For 8 years I have loved someone, they are a good friend and we get on really well. they are on their own now and have been for a while and i am too. we joke that we hate each other and we laugh about times we have had together. i am nearly 60 now and too old to play games i think but i am so scared that i will wreck the friendship so i will probably never tell them that i love them. i also live with a friend who they might think was a partner but they arent and never were. anyway have you ever told someone you loved them when you werent together? when you werent in a relationship? how did it work out?

Ok, I've been on the opposite side of this, where I had someone tell me they'd been in love with me for 4 years. Actually, it was such a wonderful thing to hear, that I then genuinely considered our relationship. It was only because he admitted it 4 years too late that we never started a relationship

Dunroamin

Judi wrote: »

Depends on whether its used to destroy or build up.

I'd think that suddenly declaring love to a friend was a pretty destuctive thing to do - almost passive aggressive.