Cousin sold her house and now unable to get mortgage to buy another

kingstreet

zaksmum wrote: »

I hope so too. The housing office is in a rural area which is also quite affluent...maybe there is not as much demand for council property?

Certainly, council property in outlying areas is less well taken-up, particularly by the elderly where there are few amenities and difficulty in obtaining home care when its needed.

It's one of the issues we have in rural Staffordshire.

The_Magnificent_Spoon

I live in very close to my town centre, and sometimes have jobs in the town centre so walk in.

Almost every day I do, I see a middle aged man, white stick and dark glasses, walking out the town centre at about 3pm. One day I said hello and we got chatting.

He's completely blind, has been for over thirty years. Yet every day he walks to work, then walks back home in time for his daughter returning from school. Who he looks after by himself.

And your cousin thinks she is excused from working, why exactly...?

J_i_m

I accept that this blind man is a remarkable individual, I also accept that from the description that the woman is a waste of space and in all honesty there will be few reasonable reasons why she can't work.

But be wary, everyones different. A blind man coping with his own disadvantages and caring for a dependant as superb as it may be doesn't qualify as a reason for this woman or anyone else for that matter to "not work".

We should judge people on their own circumstances, not someone else's.

The_Magnificent_Spoon

J_i_m wrote: »

I accept that this blind man is a remarkable individual, I also accept that from the description that the woman is a waste of space and in all honesty there will be few reasonable reasons why she can't work.

But be wary, everyones different. A blind man coping with his own disadvantages and caring for a dependant as superb as it may be doesn't qualify as a reason for this woman or anyone else for that matter to "not work".

We should judge people on their own circumstances, not someone else's.

I'm not referring to everybody. I'm referring to one specific person, to the OP's cousin. Who she admits doesn't want to work (only!) because she wants to look after the kids. Kids don't need looking after 9-3, school does that.

My post was meant to point out that there are very few legitimate reasons why somebody would not be able to work. I understand everybody copes differently, but if a blind single parent can work and care for his daughter, there is little hope that the benefits office will look upon her favourably.

From the posts, the op knows her cousin is a bit of a nutjob, who seems to expect everyone to bail her out of her ridiculous, irresponsible, lazy life choices. Maybe not being bailed out and getting a big scare would do her some good. It's just a shame the kids have to be involved in the mess.

zaksmum

The_Magnificent_Spoon wrote: »

I live in very close to my town centre, and sometimes have jobs in the town centre so walk in.

Almost every day I do, I see a middle aged man, white stick and dark glasses, walking out the town centre at about 3pm. One day I said hello and we got chatting.

He's completely blind, has been for over thirty years. Yet every day he walks to work, then walks back home in time for his daughter returning from school. Who he looks after by himself.

And your cousin thinks she is excused from working, why exactly...?

Basically because she's doing fine without bothering to work. She has few skills, little education - the only job available to her would be a minimum wage job which loads of people would be more than happy to take.

But it would leave her with pretty much the same money as she has now, so she has the attitude that it's not worth the bother.

She says in the school holidays or if they were ill there'd be nobody to look after them. So she's chosen to make motherhood a career like many others would dearly love to be able to do.