Facing disciplinary action - HELP!

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MissDVL wrote: »

Just thought you all might like to know (especially those who I'm sure hoped it would go further) that the company I work for have agreed to terminate my employment with immediate effect and avoid any disciplinary proceedings based on the fact I have already worked my notice period.

Thank you to those who actually gave me solid, non-judgemental advice, you are a credit to the forum for those who need it.

Those who sat on their high horses and looked down their nose at what I have done - let's hope you never come into a situation where you need similar help and experience the snide, rude and belittling comments I've received.

MissDVL wrote: »

They have agreed to give me a factual reference which is that I worked my notice period and left. Nothing will be mentioned about why.

I don't feel undignified in my response - I came here looking for advice and not judgement, if I wanted that I would have consulted colleagues. No one else has the right to voice their opinion on my personal life when they know nothing about me, especially questioning my parenting.

I'm glad it worked out for you, it must be a huge relief! I'm sure it won't be a mistake you'll ever make again.

scooby088

OP glad everything has worked out for the best and good luck in the new job.

irishjohn

MissDVL wrote: »

They have agreed to give me a factual reference which is that I worked my notice period and left. Nothing will be mentioned about why.

I don't feel undignified in my response - I came here looking for advice and not judgement, if I wanted that I would have consulted colleagues. No one else has the right to voice their opinion on my personal life when they know nothing about me, especially questioning my parenting.

Glad to hear about the references - hopefully a chance to make a fresh start.

What matters in this big bad world is not how you feel about your response but how your responses make other people feel. The world is full of opinionated people who will have their say - and say just whatever they want - regardless of your setting out limitations on how they should respond. Just as elsewhere this forum has its share of them and by letting their comments pass without reference is the best way to take the wind out of their sails, I think!

Dimey

Hello - I've followed your thread with interest. Now that the employment reference matter is resolved. I wonder whether you should turn your thoughts to whether you see the prisoner when he leaves prison.

I'm not asking for a reply but just want to urge you to be careful, especially for the sake of your son's stability.

You don't really know whether the prisoner wants to go back to his old drink/drugs life and all the chaos & heartbreak that surrounds that lifestyle. He might need a home and persuade you to let him move into yours. He might offer lots of excuses as to why he can't get a job and you'll have to support him. He might ask you to pay off debts or to invest in a new business.

If you want this man in your life, given that you've risked so much for him already, then at least don't live with him and don't give him money. Wait a year to see that he can build a safe & secure future for himself before you and your child get too involved.

If he's a decent chap, he'll want to prove he can stand on his own two feet first and he won't take advantage of you.

Make sensible decisions for you and your son. Good Luck.

MissDVL

Dimey wrote: »

Hello - I've followed your thread with interest. Now that the employment reference matter is resolved. I wonder whether you should turn your thoughts to whether you see the prisoner when he leaves prison.

I'm not asking for a reply but just want to urge you to be careful, especially for the sake of your son's stability.

You don't really know whether the prisoner wants to go back to his old drink/drugs life and all the chaos & heartbreak that surrounds that lifestyle. He might need a home and persuade you to let him move into yours. He might offer lots of excuses as to why he can't get a job and you'll have to support him. He might ask you to pay off debts or to invest in a new business.

If you want this man in your life, given that you've risked so much for him already, then at least don't live with him and don't give him money. Wait a year to see that he can build a safe & secure future for himself before you and your child get too involved.

If he's a decent chap, he'll want to prove he can stand on his own two feet first and he won't take advantage of you.

Make sensible decisions for you and your son. Good Luck.

Thanks, I appreciate the concerns, but can assure you he comes from a very stable background, his family have been very welcoming of both me and my son and I have no worries about the future.

EmmaHerts

Good luck. I believe people deserve a second-chance in life, personally.

jacques_chirac

I'd thought of several different scenarios here but did not expect it to be that! No judgement from me, these things happen, and you're certainly not the first person to meet someone in less than ideal circumstances.

Glad you got things sorted with your employer. Best of luck for your new role