what r her rights

joeblack066

Good grief OP- its like this:

You have booked a holiday out of school hols to get it cheaper.
At the time everyone could go.
Now they can't, as things change.
Disappointing, yes. Earth shattering, no.
Suck it up.

Southend1

hone123 wrote: »

So it would be ok for a 13 year old to stay home alone I would have thought no parent in their right mind would allow that

I wouldn't leave a 13 year old alone for 2 weeks but leaving them during the day e.g. when going shopping or out to work would be fine.

Slowhand

A holiday for 30 family members...I'm surprised it's only one person who can't be there. It's like the 70/80/s series of Bread and "family"...weird.

My Mum died last year and not everybody in the family could be at the funeral. Afterwards I wrote a thank you to ALL of my family as I knew if they could have been there they would have.

This is no big deal in the scheme of things.

Coraline

Maybe I'm old fashioned but a 17 year old is not an adult. In this country they can't even buy liquor. Speaking in an anecdotal sense, we had a situation where the 18 year old in our house wanted to be left alone whilst my partner and I went on holiday.

No bloody way.

A 17 year old is a still a child, full stop. I can't imagine my step-children running the house for a week or two by themselves.

Of course these things differ depending on circumstances so it's up to you to make the judgment call, but it seems odd to me. Nobody but yourself can judge the emotional maturity of your own children and if they'd be able to handle it.

But I'd seen enough Judge Judy episodes to the point I'd be damned to let teenagers have run of my household whilst we were away. And I say that from the stunts I pulled being a teenager when my parents left me alone.

Never again!

notanewuser

Coraline wrote: »

Maybe I'm old fashioned but a 17 year old is not an adult. In this country they can't even buy liquor. Speaking in an anecdotal sense, we had a situation where the 18 year old in our house wanted to be left alone whilst my partner and I went on holiday.

No bloody way.

A 17 year old is a still a child, full stop. I can't imagine my step-children running the house for a week or two by themselves.

Of course these things differ depending on circumstances so it's up to you to make the judgment call, but it seems odd to me. Nobody but yourself can judge the emotional maturity of your own children and if they'd be able to handle it.

But I'd seen enough Judge Judy episodes to the point I'd be damned to let teenagers have run of my household whilst we were away. And I say that from the stunts I pulled being a teenager when my parents left me alone.

Never again!

I left home at 17 and fended for myself perfectly well. I finished my A levels, worked, paid my bills and saved enough to buy a house of my own at 19.

Tarring all 17 year olds with Judge Judy's brush isn't really appropriate.

Dimey

Love Judge Judy!

Coraline

notanewuser wrote: »

I left home at 17 and fended for myself perfectly well. I finished my A levels, worked, paid my bills and saved enough to buy a house of my own at 19.

Tarring all 17 year olds with Judge Judy's brush isn't really appropriate.

That is great for you and I'm glad you accomplished that, but 17 years old is not adult. This is a subjective issue that the parent needs to sort out, if their child is mature enough to maintain a household by themselves.

Not all children are.

hone123

Coraline wrote: »

Maybe I'm old fashioned but a 17 year old is not an adult. In this country they can't even buy liquor. Speaking in an anecdotal sense, we had a situation where the 18 year old in our house wanted to be left alone whilst my partner and I went on holiday.

No bloody way.

A 17 year old is a still a child, full stop. I can't imagine my step-children running the house for a week or two by themselves.

Of course these things differ depending on circumstances so it's up to you to make the judgment call, but it seems odd to me. Nobody but yourself can judge the emotional maturity of your own children and if they'd be able to handle it.

But I'd seen enough Judge Judy episodes to the point I'd be damned to let teenagers have run of my household whilst we were away. And I say that from the stunts I pulled being a teenager when my parents left me alone.

Never again!

I quite agree with you, thanks for taking the time to post

hone123

Slowhand wrote: »

A holiday for 30 family members...I'm surprised it's only one person who can't be there. It's like the 70/80/s series of Bread and "family"...weird.

My Mum died last year and not everybody in the family could be at the funeral. Afterwards I wrote a thank you to ALL of my family as I knew if they could have been there they would have.

This is no big deal in the scheme of things.

It's my 40th birthday that's why we are all going, perhaps it seems weird or a complete nightmare to others, but to us it's great, love getting together with our whole family, even my 17 year old, I'm sorry to hear of your loss x

t0rt0ise

hone123 wrote: »

It's my 40th birthday that's why we are all going, perhaps it seems weird or a complete nightmare to others, but to us it's great, love getting together with our whole family, even my 17 year old, I'm sorry to hear of your loss x

It's not at all weird, we did the same one year.

What's more I've just had my request for a week's leave in September refused.. sigh.