school holidays 15 year old drinking alcohol

laurajane1

Hi everyone, my two boys have just broken up for the summer holidays, lucky them. Last night my eldest went out with some mates hes only just started going out in evenings due to sunny weather. He normally stays in on his x box, if he goes out he normally is home by say 9.30, ive never given him an exact time to be back as he rarely goes out. When it was about 9.45 i just texted him and asked he if he was ok and where he was. He told me down the quay with same year 10's and year 11 sat outside enjoying the weather. He came back at just gone midnight but we kept in contact by messages and he got back home and went to bed. Now in the morning i did speak to him about how late it was and that he is only 15 (16 in december) he said he was just chilling with some mates, i asked him if he had any alcohol and he said yes, some cider. I told him i wasnt happy about it he said all his mates do it, i asked him where they get it from he said their parents. Now im quite a young mum had him at 20 and know what teenagers can be like, on one hand shocked by him drinking and not happy, but then again i know it happens. What do people think about this?

jacques_chirac

A glass of wine at a family dinner - fine.

Drinking cider in a public place - not acceptable.

ailuro2

It's against the law, you're not happy about it, so it has to stop - and if he lived here he'd have been home before midnight too, though I realise mums of boys can feel a bit more secure than mums of girls.

Don't tell him off, but make it clear he's not to drink or he'll be grounded/have no pocket money etc.

maman

I may be old fashioned but there's no way I'd want my child to be drinking at 15. It may seem strange but drinking out on the street like that makes it worse somehow. I think I could maybe cope with the odd glass at home on special occasions.

But I do know your boy is right. It does happen, people do give/buy their children alcohol and condone it. I took my DGD (17 in September) to get her hair done for the school prom. The hairdresser was reminiscing about her prom when they'd had 'after' parties that went on way into the night and everyone was drinking. Fortunately it went over DGD's head but I was horrified that anyone would throw a party where they knew everyone was under age and have alcohol.

You sound like you have a good relationship with your boy so I'm sure you can talk it through with him.

Soot2006

He could also have lied.

Perhaps it's time now to determine some rules of going out? E.g. when he should be home, where/what he should or shouldn't drink, etc ...

laurajane1

we do get on well, i will speak to him about it maybe its pressure from others ive decided he can go out but i dont want him drinking alcohol. He's got plenty of time for that when he's older, but it doesnt get any easier as they get older

pigpen

He needs a time to be home and a rule on absolutely no alcohol.. and no, they did not get it from their parents.. there is either a disreputable shop nearby OR some of the group are over 18 OR they got an adult to go in to a shop and buy it for them!

You are being a bit naïve!

maman

pigpen wrote: »

He needs a time to be home and a rule on absolutely no alcohol.. and no, they did not get it from their parents.. there is either a disreputable shop nearby OR some of the group are over 18 OR they got an adult to go in to a shop and buy it for them!

You are being a bit naïve!

You could be right BUT there are definitely parents out there who buy booze for their children. I've met them.

laurajane1

i know of parents who buy their kids alcohol i'm not naive, some parents even let kids smoke and give then fags. I have seen it happen on several occassions!!!

pigpen

maman wrote: »

You could be right BUT there are definitely parents out there who buy booze for their children. I've met them.

But they don't buy cider and they don't have their children sat beside a water course drinking it in a public place asking to get arrested!.. They keep them in their back garden or down their own street at least usually.

I've met one such creature.. she doesn't deserve the title 'parent' .. her son (22) is now in prison and the other 4 in foster homes.

laurajane1

Or maybe the kids take the alcohol from home without permission, lucky i dont have any at home!