Son Going To Nursery School

ognum

StressedOutMummy wrote: »

Whoa, hang on there.NO - it is not about me at all! I want my son to go to nursery and interact with other children. What I object to is a staff member hauling him out of the class with disdain in front of other parents and children.

Your son is unlikely to have felt disdain, that was your reaction.

Spendless

ognum wrote: »

Your son is unlikely to have felt disdain, that was your reaction.

I think she means the staff member. OP can you describe what happened?

StressedOutMummy

I took him to nursery, fine- not a backward glace. 3 mins later a staff member comes out with my son ,with a sour face saying in very loud voice that he has wet himself.I don't that is professional.Especially in front of peers and other parents, bit of discretion would have been appreciated.

ognum

StressedOutMummy wrote: »

I took him to nursery, fine- not a backward glace. 3 mins later a staff member comes out with my son ,with a sour face saying in very loud voice that he has wet himself.I don't that is professional.Especially in front of peers and other parents, bit of discretion would have been appreciated.

Young children wet themselves frequently, I am sure that all the other parents are aware of that.

I still cannot understand why this is a reason for you son not to return.

Janepig

StressedOutMummy wrote: »

I took him to nursery, fine- not a backward glace. 3 mins later a staff member comes out with my son ,with a sour face saying in very loud voice that he has wet himself.I don't that is professional.Especially in front of peers and other parents, bit of discretion would have been appreciated.

How far did she have to come to fetch you, or were you hanging around outside? Why do you think the other parents are going to be critical of you or somehow look down on you? I don't think there's a parent anywhere whose child hasn't had an accident in "public". My DD wet herself at the checkout in Asda when she was five, big puddle on the floor, people having to move back so as not to paddle in it!! Mortifying. But I still go back to Asda!!

I agree with Ognum - I think there's an element of you looking for an excuse not to have to put your DS in nursery.

Jx

barbiedoll

Oh, you shouldn't let scary teachers put you off! There was a teacher at my son's nursery, a large middle-aged woman, she put the fear of god into all of the parents.

One morning, I took my son into the classroom, when a little girl and her twin brother came up to us. The boy put his arm around my son and they both walked off, leaving the little girl alone. She immediately went up to my son and smacked him around the face. The "scary" teacher had seen this and she took the girl firmly by the arm and told her sternly that her behaviour was not acceptable and that the children were not allowed to hit each other. The teacher then went out to the playground and called the mother of the twins over and proceeded to tell her, in a rather loud voice, about her daughter's bad behaviour. The mother was mortified and apologised and said that she would speak to her daughter later. This was in front of all of the other parents who had dropped their kids off at nursery.

I found out later, the twins' mother was a teacher at the adjoining primary school!!

Don't take it so personally!

FBaby

Most children wet themselves at that age, most parents would think nothing of it, even less the kids. Are you sure you are not being a bit sensitive?

In any case, it seems a small incident to decide that nursery is not for your son in comparison to the fact he seems very excited at the prospect. Instead of using it as an excuse to deprive him of the fun, how about giving it a second chance, keep an eye on that staff member.

StressedOutMummy

You are probably right F-Baby. I am too sensitive when it comes to my son! I asked HV to see me yesterday and she says I am doing all the right things and to take him back after half term.

ognum

StressedOutMummy wrote: »

You are probably right F-Baby. I am too sensitive when it comes to my son! I asked HV to see me yesterday and she says I am doing all the right things and to take him back after half term.

Well done on your change of heart, I'm sure you son will have fun, maybe some more wet pants but it doesn't matter it's all in learning, growing up and being independent.

jellyhead

Did he have a spare set of clothes on his peg? Just wondering if the reason they told you about it was because he needed to change?