Son Going To Nursery School

StressedOutMummy

My 3.4 year old has a place for nursery in Sept but I don't want him to go. I don't think he is ready. My sister thinks I am being silly - what do you think?

quietheart

Why don't you think he is ready?
I felt the same with both of mine.

Gillyx

Why don't you think he is ready? Maybe nursery school will help with the reasons you think he isn't ready?

Kayalana99

Let him go for a week and see how you feel/he reacts? I would at least give it a trial and see how it goes.

End day your DS can stay out of school untill 5 so thier is no rush but I think it would be wrong not to try he might love it!!

emmy05

as you said in ur post - you dont want him to gp - before sayin you dont think hes ready. dont hold him back from interactin with other children an adults an broadenin his horizons because of you.
yes it is a big step for both of you, but the nursery will keep you informed of all his steps each time you pick him up. give it a go, youll be surprised and proud of what he achieves at nursery

ciderwithrosie_2

I think you have to be totally honest with yourself here - is it because of your son, maybe you feel his development is delayed or he's not fully potty trained yet or is it your feelings of wanting to keep him a baby for longer? I only ask this as your sister (who obviously knows you and your son better than most) thinks you are being silly, so why do you think she said this?

Personally, I think nursery school is an important step in preparing them for formal school and making your child more social and independent. It is also an opportunity for you to do something else (other than being mummy) for a couple of hours, perhaps meeting with friends or going to a class/group activity - that's if you don't have to go to work of course.

lindsaygalaxy

Personally, I think nursery is also very important in preparing them for school and developing their independence. If it makes you feel better my son will only just be 4 when he starts school this year. As a parent I think he should stay in nursery, as a teacher I think now most children start at the same time socially its easier for them.

Loulou2010

If he's not ready for nursery then chances are you will feel he's not ready for school next September. You won't be able to delay that. Nursery plays a big part of preparing them for school. My ds' nursery have taken them for visits at each of their schools and invited teachers to come and see them at nursery. The nursery will be used to children that aren't used to nursery environments and also used parents that find it hard to let go.

jellyhead

I felt the same with both of mine, one who had special needs and one who was just 'young for his age'. Both are summer birthdays so they started school at just turned 4.

If you're worried about toilet training yours won't be the only one in a nappy. There won't be many, but there will probably be a few. When my youngest started nursery there were 6 children out of 60 still in nappies in September and all but one were out of nappies by christmas. Neither of mine talked either, but they started to talk during their nursery year. They both went to toddler groups and my youngest also went to a playgroup where he was left for 2 hours, so it wasn't lack of socialisation, it was just that they weren't 'ready' to talk before they went to nursery.

As has been said it definitely is easier if they all start as newbies at the same time. My eldest went to school late and he was the only easter starter.

If it's an LEA nursery it's now or never here, so if I hadn't sent mine to nursery they wouldn't have gone, and would have gone straight into school at 4. Unless you are planning to home school I think they really need nursery. Both of mine seemed like babies when compared to their peers but they both benefited from nursery and I'm glad I sent them, even though I didn't want to.

susancs

I felt the same as you do with both my children, as did a lot of my friends with their children, so please don't feel you are being silly. It is natural to feel apprehensive about your child starting nursery "school" as it seems a big step for a little child. I am sure your son will enjoy nursery and as well as learning lots through play, will make lots of good friends. My eldest is now 16 years old and is still very good friends with most of her nursery school classmates (despite some being at different secondary schools). I have a lot of good close friends that I made all those years ago at the Nursery entrance (where many of us were tearful after our little ones went into class).

Brokeattheminute

Our daughter is the same age and starts nursery school in Sept as well.The way they work in her nursery school is they take 6 at a time and over a few wks phase them all in.On the 1st morning they are only there for an hour and the parent has to stay with them.The 1st wk thy only do 1.5 hrs going up gradually by 30mins every wk.If he isnt potty trained yet nows the time to do it over the summer holidays when its nice and warm and he can run about in his pants and if hes any accidents the pants will dry quickly on the washing line.It took us a few wks to potty train our daughter and she only come out of nappies there in June.