Nasty old bag!

securityguy

Pro tip: don't use Facebook. Think how much happier you'd be.

Saturnalia

Why should the rest of us stop using it because of one person who won't behave? I like seeing pics of my nephews when I can't see them in person.

securityguy

Saturnalia wrote: »

Why should the rest of us stop using it because of one person who won't behave? I like seeing pics of my nephews when I can't see them in person.

There are other ways to share photographs which don't provide the option to leave comments and don't seem to invite the same amount of hassle. Most of the people I want to share photographs with are Apple users, so I simply have iCloud photostreams which I share through, which also reflect into a website for those that use other devices. No comments, no "social" aspects, much less stress. I presume Flickr, as an example, would work well for the the non-Apple-cultists.

Tiddlywinks

You need to step back and let you sister get on with it. She has decided that she will ignore and rise above the behaviour so she doesn't need you to constantly gripe about it.

Yes, you are angry BUT you are allowing yourself to get angry.

Your sister has made a choice about how to live her life by accommodating her MIL - you should be happy that she has found a way to be happy... Not adding misery by being negative.

sassyblue

fiestafantastic wrote: »

Can I make a suggestion? If your sister changes the privacy setting of the pictures so the MIL doesnt see them then she cant put comments nor can she see her grandchildren grow up. Quite frankly it would be the price of her and why should she take the joy out of these family get togethers. You will never beat her at her own game, your sister can only insulate herself from it.

It's a good idea but what if MIL found that out? She'd no doubt make another drama out of it. Daft old bat.

Best to leave her comments on the page ignored or if you want.... the comment she put l would answer 'erm, we are your family aren't we?'

Definitely look up narcissism, and let her tantrum away alienating more and more people.

Tiddlywinks

Saturnalia wrote: »

Besides, Sister does well out of it. She has no need to work and she's kept at a very good standard of living. I'd imagine if I lived like her, a silly cow in another country making daft comments wouldn't bother me too much either!

Ouch!

'Does well out of it'?

'Kept at a very good standard'?

Your view of your sister's life seems odd to me...

Girlzmum

I actually have a lot of sympathy for the OP, my sister is the one who lives out of the country and her In Laws seem to go out of their way to make her life bloody awkward. It is so frustrating to see someone you love being hurt intentionally on a regular basis and it has gotten to the point where she doesn't want to come home as much because she knows its just going to cause a fight.

Lil_Me_2

On the odd occasion my mother has made a catty comment on FB I've just deleted it. The last time she did it she noticed I'd deleted it and asked where it had gone and I told her what I'd done. She's not stupid, she knows why it was deleted without needing to explain in detail. She's not done it since though!

duchy

Instead of telling SIL how to run her FB- and as you are the one with the problem with her MIL and not her.............. why don't you simply block her MIL so YOU can't see her posts ? Your SIL is an adult and makes her own decisions about who she blocks on FB or not.

Really it's not your problem -unless you choose to make it so.

Saturnalia

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

You need to step back and let you sister get on with it. She has decided that she will ignore and rise above the behaviour so she doesn't need you to constantly gripe about it.

Yes, you are angry BUT you are allowing yourself to get angry.

Your sister has made a choice about how to live her life by accommodating her MIL - you should be happy that she has found a way to be happy... Not adding misery by being negative.

I'm not sure where you are seeing any of this? The only place I have "griped" is on this thread, where I specifically said in the first line of the first post that I wanted a rant. You could have closed the thread there and then if you felt that was wrong.

I haven't spoken about this with my sister or anyone else IRL and I am not going to - I came on here because it is an anonymous safe space where no-one knows me or any of the others involved and their feelings aren't going to be hurt by me blowing off steam here. So how is that "adding misery" then?

I guess you like making unfounded accusations designed to wind people up.