Dirty pictures of himself??

bylromarha

Ask him.

He could be trying to get the courage up to tell you what he's up to. You say you've talked about it before - maybe he's wanting to take things with you the next step and is having a real good practice before sending them on.

I'm often on hubby's phone having a flick through - no reason, just because. He does the same on mine. Does it mean we're suspicious of each other or does it mean there's a mountain of trust? Certainly the latter in our case.

I often do things my hubby of 14 years doesn't know about - doesn't mean I'm cheating on him. Just having some privacy to do things I want to have an experiment with...BTW - that isn't just sexually, but in all areas of life. Sometimes, I want to grow in confidence or bin an idea before OH even knows about it as I don't want to embarrass myself.

Worries me how frequently some posters jump to the worst conclusion possible.

DUTR

bylromarha wrote: »

Ask him.

He could be trying to get the courage up to tell you what he's up to. You say you've talked about it before - maybe he's wanting to take things with you the next step and is having a real good practice before sending them on.

I often do things my hubby of 14 years doesn't know about - doesn't mean I'm cheating on him. Just having some privacy to do things I want to have an experiment with...BTW - that isn't just sexually, but in all areas of life. Sometimes, I want to grow in confidence or bin an idea before OH even knows about it as I don't want to embarrass myself.

Worries me how frequently some posters jump to the worst conclusion possible.

He probably is and most likely not, I think the OP should end it whether he is or isn't as what is not clear is why she is snooping around his phone in the 1st place?
Insecure?

My phone is my privacy, I have private pictures of my body parts on my phone, doesn't mean I send them anywhere, I remember I had a lump got scared took a pic, when I got to the Dr's the lump was gone, showed the doc, he asked me to cough and the lump appeared , hernia op now completed succesfully. A few months back I had to look at my daughters PC, her older sister has photo's of herself which she had taken herself, lets just say I don't think she sent them anywhere just experimenting.

If the OP doesn't trust her partner then the base is not stable.

System

I used to take some really dirty pictures of myself....hubby worked away and i'd start sending them on Wednesday ready for his homecoming on Friday.:D He's got a hard drive full of my 'filth'.:o

Mind you, i'm not sure i'd do it if i'd not got a man to send them to. As much as I enjoyed it, the ultimate satisfaction was knowing he'd get turned on by them.

DUTR

Judi wrote: »

I used to take some really dirty pictures of myself....hubby worked away and i'd start sending them on Wednesday ready for his homecoming on Friday. He's got a hard drive full of my 'filth'.:o

Mind you, i'm not sure i'd do it if i'd not got a man to send them to. As much as I enjoyed it, the ultimate satisfaction was knowing he'd get turned on by them.

Beats just living for the kids eh?

System

Beats just living for the kids eh?

Too right!

My idea was.... why be tempted working away when he could have it at home.:D

My 'insurance policy' if you like.;) My sex life is important to me.

DUTR

Judi wrote: »

Too right!

My idea was.... why be tempted working away when he could have it at home.

My 'insurance policy' if you like.;) My sex life is important to me.

Exactly, I see it all too often on the forum, people moaning about what the partner maybe up to no good, if all is well at home then nobody is ever going to stray, if the restaurant is not serving the favourite dish, the patrons will go elsewhere.

I remember going on the lads holidays when younger, the GF at the time need not worry, on return I could not get back from the airport fast enough.

bagpussbear

Lstewar206t wrote: »

Hes always been shy and would never send me anything like that, even thou we have talked about it before, so I don't know why he has them

This could be innocent. Two possible reasons spring to mind:

You say you talked about it before, could it be he was planning to surprise you with some naked pics, but on reflection thought it best not and has not yet deleted the photos?

Also, could it be he has either lost weight, or been doing weights/gym and is gaining confidence as to how he looks and took a few pics of himself, as an ego boost type thing? Some blokes do like to look at their chests, and muscles if they think they look good lol.

Of course he could be taking them to send to someone else, but to me that doesn't tie up given he is shy and couldn't even send them to you.

Or a way out thought - he could be taking them to send to a !!!!!! mag for money?! but again unlikely if he is shy.

Does he allow you to go through his phone OP? if not, then you were snooping and unfortunately this ultimately will cause trust issues in your relationship when you confront him, if it does turn out to be innocent.

But I hope he does allow it, and you can have a good heart to heart and get to the bottom of it.

DUTR

bagpussbear wrote: »

This could be innocent. Two possible reasons spring to mind:

You say you talked about it before, could it be he was planning to surprise you with some naked pics, but on reflection thought it best not and has not yet deleted the photos?

Also, could it be he has either lost weight, or been doing weights/gym and is gaining confidence as to how he looks and took a few pics of himself, as an ego boost type thing? Some blokes do like to look at their chests, and muscles if they think they look good lol.

Of course he could be taking them to send to someone else, but to me that doesn't tie up given he is shy and couldn't even send them to you.

Or a way out thought - he could be taking them to send to a !!!!!! mag for money?! but again unlikely if he is shy.

Does he allow you to go through his phone OP? if not, then you were snooping and unfortunately this ultimately will cause trust issues in your relationship when you confront him, if it does turn out to be innocent.

But I hope he does allow it, and you can have a good heart to heart and get to the bottom of it.

This point was something else I forgot to add to my earlier post, I remember last year I was doing some cycling (I was losing weight anyways) but I remember getting home hot n bothered, took my top off and was very proud of my v shape torso and 6 pack, so cracked the camera out :o

Lstewar206t

I was just flicking thru pics not snooping, he was there beside me. Just didn't let on I seen them.
I really do love him.
The pictures wouldn't be the type of picif he had lost weight as they were "explicit" im just shocked he would take them. I cant stop thinking about him sending them to someone. but how would I find out.
I I did know he sent them to someone eles, it would be over.

Thanks for all the help so far guys!!! I am just so upset x

Tiddlywinks

Let's get back to basics...

Why did you happen to be looking at his phone? If it was because you wanted to see what he had on it then the problem is a trust issue and NOT the photos themselves.

Either way, you need to just have a conversation with your BF - no games, no making up stories as to why you happened to be looking... just honesty.

We can't tell you anything... as we don't know... the only way to find out is to ask him and take it from there.