Dirty pictures of himself??

Lstewar206t

Hello...

Me and my partner have been going out for nearly 5years. And had a great relationship so far, I trust him and hes always been pretty shy around girls, and meeting new people.

Anyway I recently found pictures on his phone of him naked in poses, like he was sending them to someone, Hes always been shy and would never send me anything like that, even thou we have talked about it before, so I don't know why he has them, Ive found no texts but they could of been deleted.

He doesn't know I know but just feel so hurt that he may of sent them to someone, behind my back. We have a good sex life although we don't live together. he has constantly got his phone on him and sometimes doesn't let me see, but I don't really ask.

Please help, what do I do???

Troutwrestler

I would just ask. Your going to assume the worst anyway ( well I would) so jst ask...IMO it will be pretty obvious by his reaction if he's up to something or not

Valli

Lstewar206t wrote: »

Hello...

Me and my partner have been going out for nearly 5years. And had a great relationship so far, I trust him and hes always been pretty shy around girls, and meeting new people.

Anyway I recently found pictures on his phone of him naked in poses, like he was sending them to someone, Hes always been shy and would never send me anything like that, even thou we have talked about it before, so I don't know why he has them, Ive found no texts but they could of been deleted.

He doesn't know I know but just feel so hurt that he may of sent them to someone, behind my back. We have a good sex life although we don't live together. he has constantly got his phone on him and sometimes doesn't let me see, but I don't really ask.

Please help, what do I do???

With all due respect if he is taking pictures of himself, naked, it is almost certainly to send them to 'someone'.
Add in the fact that he sometimes doesn't let YOU see what's on his phone and it sounds suspicious.

So...

(assuming you are female)

he could be sending them to another 'lady'; he could be sending them to another guy.

What do you do?

You don't mention 'love'.

You now probably no longer trust him.


You could -

Either drop him now without finding out what's going on or ask him, outright - face-to-face (so you can see his reaction/body language).

I would be asking him because I would be concerned about my own sexual health, because chances are he has been sending those pictures as a prelude to meeting someone for some 'fun'.
Then I would probably finish it anyway.

marisco_2

You need to approach your partner and discuss what you have found. Let him explain what has been going on. His reactions and responses may or may not put your mind at rest. You will at least know where you stand though, and can then make a decision about your future.

Norma_Desmond

I'd be furious and really have to ask him about them straight out; it's not as if the photos could have been in any way accidental after all.

building_with_lego

I assume that as you've 'found' these photos you had felt the need to check his phone for some reason.

I wonder whether something else has happened recently which prompted you to check his phone. Your suspicions are aroused and now you have found evidence of something.

You need to ask him about the picture/s. As marisco says his reaction will tell you what you need to know.

Pechow

What building with lego said. Why were you looking at his phone?

Also, I'd be wary-if he did send the photos to someone else, he may get angry with you for looking at his phone and distract you from what he did that way. However, if he didn't send them to anyone, and you didn't have permission to go through his phone (probably not if he has naked photos on there) then he has genuine reason to be annoyed at you.

System

Maybe taking them turns him on?

stebiz

Send one to your phone (as if he has by mistake) and ask what it is?

xcarlyx

Ask

I wont lie I'd find it hard to trust himmx

Carl31

stebiz wrote: »

Send one to your phone (as if he has by mistake) and ask what it is?

Thats assuming he has sent them somewhere. If he hasn't, then the OP has shown herself to be suspecting him

He may have taken them planning to send them to the OP, but bottled it?