Dirty pictures of himself??

SavingPixie

This is why so many relationships don't last. Communication is a major thing needed. Talk to him or you will end up resenting him and pushing him away and it could all be so very innocent. Good luck x

Valli

bylromarha wrote: »

Worries me how frequently some posters jump to the worst conclusion possible.

geoffky wrote: »

Not many men are shy around women...I do wonder...

What made ME conclude something was 'odd' about this was his shyness towards women. So, if he's shy maybe the pictures aren't going to any women; and the Op knows she's not been sent them...

Add in the fact that he IS secretive with his phone at times.

He wouldn't be the first bloke living an openly 'straight' lifestyle while concealing homosexual tendencies. Maybe he's bisexual.

But, like I said - I would be concerned about my sexual health.

And relationships need solid foundations. Right now this one isn't looking too solid; because one of the peop ein it is worrying about what the other one is up to!

They aren't married; they don't even live together - but OP needs to know, and has a right to know, what's what before taking any decisions.

I don't think anyone has jumped to any conclusions - in fact, I think the various different perspectives on the situation will give the OP food for thought.

MarilynMonroe_2

I think you have to ask him, it will always be on your mind if you don't.
He may have sent them to someone but hasn't met them, it's quite common x

unholyangel

DUTR wrote: »

Exactly, I see it all too often on the forum, people moaning about what the partner maybe up to no good, if all is well at home then nobody is ever going to stray, if the restaurant is not serving the favourite dish, the patrons will go elsewhere.

I remember going on the lads holidays when younger, the GF at the time need not worry, on return I could not get back from the airport fast enough.

There are always exceptions to the rule

CustardAndPickles

Judi wrote: »

If I were you i'd say to him tonight, tomorrow or whenever:

"You know the other night when I was messing around with your phone. Well I saw some naked pictures of you on it. Why did you take them? I wasn't going to say anything but its been praying on my mind since I saw them".

I'd not leave it too long before you tell him though. The longer you leave it the harder it will be to bring the subject up.

I think this is a brilliant answer.
OP, you could say nothing, but your mind is already racing and although all the posts on here are well-meaning, we have suggestions ranging from adultery and bi-sexuality to weightloss. He's your partner, you can talk to him, and no matter how awful the answer is, at least you'll know....and it might be nothing awful at all.

neverdespairgirl

DUTR wrote: »

Exactly, I see it all too often on the forum, people moaning about what the partner maybe up to no good, if all is well at home then nobody is ever going to stray,

I'm not sure about that - there are many people who might stray only if there was something wrong at home, but I'm sure there are some who would stray no matter how wonderful their marriages / relationships were.

DUTR

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

DUTR wrote: »

Exactly, I see it all too often on the forum, people moaning about what the partner maybe up to no good, if all is well at home then nobody is ever going to stray,

I'm not sure about that - there are many people who might stray only if there was something wrong at home, but I'm sure there are some who would stray no matter how wonderful their marriages / relationships were.

I'd say in both examples there, it wasn't right in the 1st place.
There is a guy at work he is 60 just got divorced, in his younger day, people just got married and he/she happened to be in each others lives at the time .

But back to the OP there was no mention of 'dirty' pictures of other people on the handset that were observed so that is why I'm on the thinking it is indeed all innocent.
There was another thread not so long back where the OP found "I love you "or a love heart on the back of a disposed payslip, the guy was acting all 'dodgy' going to the bathroom to respond to texts etc, it transpired it was all above board contrary to all the accusations that followed in the thread.

FBaby

I really don't see the point of confronting him about it because if he is up to no good, which is what you want reassurance that he isn't, he is not going to tell you. He'll make up an excuse 'oh, it was for you babe, was just building the courage to send them to you', then you would be no better off, still wondering if he was honest or not. As for him, it would make him realise that he needs to be more careful, hence again, if up to no good, you would be less likely to find out.

What I would do is have my 'warning lights' on. I would just start to be a bit more careful about what he says and does, see whether there are things that just don't seem right. You say he always have his phone with him, but does he suddenly disappear with it without logical explanations? Is he suddenly spending more time on his computer, started a supposed hobby that takes him away from home, although no evidence of that hobby etc... I would give myself some time to find something. If after that time you can't account for any strange behaviour, I would put it behind me and move on.

keystone

It's attention seeking.

Cheers

DUTR

FBaby wrote: »

I really don't see the point of confronting him about it because if he is up to no good, which is what you want reassurance that he isn't, he is not going to tell you. He'll make up an excuse 'oh, it was for you babe, was just building the courage to send them to you', then you would be no better off, still wondering if he was honest or not. As for him, it would make him realise that he needs to be more careful, hence again, if up to no good, you would be less likely to find out.

What I would do is have my 'warning lights' on. I would just start to be a bit more careful about what he says and does, see whether there are things that just don't seem right. You say he always have his phone with him, but does he suddenly disappear with it without logical explanations? Is he suddenly spending more time on his computer, started a supposed hobby that takes him away from home, although no evidence of that hobby etc... I would give myself some time to find something. If after that time you can't account for any strange behaviour, I would put it behind me and move on.

If somebody has to do that , then they may as well throw the towel in now.