please dont judge just let me let off steam!

meritaten

I have had a rotten day. I was asked at last minute to take 5yr old grandson on his school 'trip'. and despite my last horrific experience I agreed as his mums employers wouldn't let her change shift.
we catch the bus to school when I mind him - its 'always' five minutes late but that is ok - except today when it doesn't even turn up! and the next bus is 5 mins late - which makes us 20 mins late for school and 5 mins after scheduled departure time. thankfully they hadn't left and we boarded the coach.
before that when DIL dropped off GS - he was a bit grumpy considering that he had a really nice scheduled day (beach visit). I finally managed to get to the bottom of it when he said 'I wanted mummy to take me not you - I don't like you'. and he was a little s**t to get ready!
then when we were on the coach - he asked me about the girl who drowned from that beach on the weekend - he had heard the news ...........jeez, counselling on the fly! I thought that was sorted when some idiot passed around the HARIBOS, oh dear. I then had a rather hyper 5 yr old! I couldn't refuse - his stupid mum had packed some for him too!
then for some weird reason we stopped at a garden centre - the kids were supposed to have a 'tour' and we were given twenty mins to take them in and then leave them with the teachers. the 'tour' didn't materialise (bluddy garden centre staff said they 'didn't have time' even though it had been pre-arranged')
so off we went to the beach.
I thought he was having fun with friends from class - I sat there for over two and half hours in the midst of all the mums, dads and nans and no-one spoke to me. felt a bit of an outcast as usual - they don't speak when I take GS to school.
after half hour GS wanted to up on the 'rides' - I promised him we would go before we had to catch the bus but the teacher had said there would be games on the beach first. she lied! there wasn't.
we went up to the rides and only two were open so he had fun on them - then peed himself right in front of everyone! he got annoyed with me saying he had asked for the toilet - if he did I didn't hear him.
bought him a choc ice cream after I changed his clothes and of course it got all over him - I used nearly a pack of babywipes cleaning him up!!!!!!!!!!! The coach home had to wait for 15 mins for someone who couldn't tell the time and it was steaming hot! in fact the air con in the coach didn't work!
I was glad to hand him over to his mum!

oh but that's not the end of this glorious day!
my son and his wife really peeed me off by asking for yet another loan (every bluddy week is a bad week for them since Christmas I have 'lent' them over £500) and I exploded! I lent them enough money for the girls to have a picnic lunch tom on THIER school trip - and told them 'That's it! the bank of Mum is now closed'! I mean it too.
I had three bags of clothes upstairs meaning to give them to son to take to Clothes for Cash - but bu99er it - Macmillan are collecting tom so they can have them!

Thanks if you listened to all that! I am not sure if I feel better or worse now. but at least I got it all off my chest!

balletshoes

I tell you, this hot weather does nothing for frayed nerves does it? It makes a stressful situation way worse when you're all hot and bothered.

Bottle of wine chilling in the fridge meritaten? Or is it already open :beer:?

mummyroysof3

Do you feel better for having a rant? We all need one sometimes but is this due to just today or has it been bubbling up a while as it sounds like they might be taking advantage of your good nature to me.

19lottie82

ah OP! i'm sorry but that did make me chuckle a little bit! sorry!

at least in ten or so years time when he start bringing girlfriends round, you'll be able to remind him about the time he peed himself when he was 5 on the school trip!

but yes, pour yourself a wine (or gin!), i think you deserve it!

paulineb_2

Hes just a kid. He wouldn't have meant it when he said he didn't like you. Im sure I said that to my mum aged five and well beyond and I didn't mean it.

The bigger issue is that you feel that you aren't valued by your offspring and you are right to close the bank of mum.

My mum has helped me out financially when I needed it after I was made redundant and I appreciated every single penny but I do things for her as well, even if its just groupon meals, whatever I can, because Im still pretty skint. I don't take advantage and she knows that.

jellyhead

Off topic, but Haribos are safe nowadays, aren't they? My son was given some at a youth meeting and I grabbed the packet and read the ingredients before he was allowed them

paulineb_2

I now feel like starting a thread saying all my exes are complete you know whats and its true, they are.

Some things are sent to try us. Sometimes people don't realise they are being selfish, they need it pointed out to them.

Im not trying to say you shouldn't be upset. You have every right to be upset

But I remember a couple of years ago, I was grizzling about something and my gran hadn't long died of a massive stroke, my mum said to me, just be grateful you are alive

Which sounds cheesy and ridiculous, but its true. Im lucky really, I have a great mum and a great brother and my family are ace

(my dad is not ace but that's another story) but try and get the money issue sorted and try and communicate

Because honestly, if I had my time again over with my gran who I loved dearly and she knew it, I wouldn't have sweated the small, medium and large stuff

Theres always a way to make things better, sometimes we just cant see it.

jellyhead

Try not to get too upset by your GS saying he doesn't like you. I'm sure he does, and it was just disappointment because he was expecting his mum to take him, and was thrown by the last minute change of plan.

marisco_2

What a full on and stressful day you have had meritaten. I expect you will be mighty glad to climb into bed tonight and start afresh again in the morning. Bless you for being such a lovely mum and nan to your family members. I hope they all really appreciate you and everything you do to help them out. Take the time to put your feet up now and relax and unwind

meritaten

Yes, I know GS really loves me - it just hurt a bit! I do understand he would have preferred his mum! who wouldn't? and the girl drowning on that beach really upset him - but I almost laughed when he described it as 'the girl sank'! Its just been a horrible day tbh, when I set out to make it a happy day for him - it just seems it went all wrong!

midnightraven3

waaaaaaaaait a minute, i have raised 3 children, done endless grotty school trips, no one told me there was round 2?:eek:

**wrings hands**