Just need to get this all of my chest

Faith177

jackieblack wrote: »

Supermarkets deliver.
Don't waste any of the precious time you have together at the supermarket

I have a real thing about people coming to the house or being net the house I won't even let the gas man in to check the meter. I have the blinds drawn so the window cleaner can't see in

I'll give it a go though

fluffnutter

Faith177 wrote: »

I have a real thing about people coming to the house or being net the house I won't even let the gas man in to check the meter. I have the blinds drawn so the window cleaner can't see in

Seriously, you need to see your GP.

Faith177

fluffnutter wrote: »

I doubt that's helping your mood. Plus he might feel sad that you don't feel able to confide in him.

I don't think he really notices he is too busy we don't get much time to speak we mainly text so it makes it easy to pretend I'm ok.

When he's home he is still doing stuff connected with work or getting calls from his staff so I think he notices most things.

I would love to confide in him but he's never home to help so don't see the point in worrying him or anyone else when their not about

Faith177

fluffnutter wrote: »

Seriously, you need to see your GP.

I have an appointment to see him next thurs (earliest I could get) to discuss something else so might talk to him about it

Last time I just ended up on Citroplam for a few months and that was it

fluffnutter

Faith177 wrote: »

I don't think he really notices he is too busy we don't get much time to speak we mainly text so it makes it easy to pretend I'm ok.

When he's home he is still doing stuff connected with work or getting calls from his staff so I think he notices most things.

I would love to confide in him but he's never home to help so don't see the point in worrying him or anyone else when their not about

Hmm, could he try to improve on his work/life balance? Why is he taking calls from his staff when he's not working? What does he do?

fluffnutter

Faith177 wrote: »

I have an appointment to see him next thurs (earliest I could get) to discuss something else so might talk to him about it

Last time I just ended up on Citroplam for a few months and that was it

Anti-depressants are a great starting point. Push for a 'talking cure' too, e.g. therapy or CBT. You might have to wait but I really think it might benefit you.

And tell your husband to start paying you some attention. You've only been married two minutes - this should be the happiest time of your life!

Faith177

fluffnutter wrote: »

Hmm, could he try to improve on his work/life balance? Why is he taking calls from his staff when he's not working? What does he do?

He is a pub/ resturant manager looking after about 15 staff.

The staff ring him to let him know about any problems that have happened so he know for when he goes in the next day as they may not see him depending on the rota's.

Faith177

fluffnutter wrote: »

Anti-depressants are a great starting point. Push for a 'talking cure' too, e.g. therapy or CBT. You might have to wait but I really think it might benefit you.

And tell your husband to start paying you some attention. You've only been married two minutes - this should be the happiest time of your life!

I had one session of therapy last time and I found it draining but in a good way brought out a lot of stuff i had buried away.

They were meant to schedual another appointment but I never heard any more

lee111s

Get a dog...it'll give you something to get up for in the morning and a sense of worth knowing you're responsbile for its life. It'll make you want to clean the house, give you plenty company when you're alone and also will get you out of the house and enjoying the outdoors to alieviate the boredum of being home alone.

Faith177

lee111s wrote: »

Get a dog...it'll give you something to get up for in the morning and a sense of worth knowing you're responsbile for its life. It'll make you want to clean the house, give you plenty company when you're alone and also will get you out of the house and enjoying the outdoors to alieviate the boredum of being home alone.

I have two dogs :rotfl:(plus several cats)

Their part of the problem at times. They have just broken yet ANOTHER fence panel in my garden last night so just had to buy a brand new fence!

At the moment it is too hot to walk them until it gets dark as they are huskys and their not keen on the heat at all.
I don't walk them often but again it's me on my own and there is only so much time I can spend alone with my thoughts without driving myself into a mess