Wedding Dilemma

ognum

Why can't people talk to each other! Phone your cousin today, explain everything you have said here.

Tell your cousin you would like to attend but understand the problem with numbers etc. Say you will happily come to the service and then just attend in the evening if there is a problem.

JUst talk!!!!

FatVonD

Gra76 wrote: »

If you really want to come across as a hero, tell them you had to beg for hours to get it....

Better still, tell them that you quit your job so you could go once you realised how important it was to everyone :rotfl:

Mojisola

The_Hurricane wrote: »

My cousin is getting married and sent me an invite to the wedding, however I've just started a new job and I'm in training at the moment and my holiday request to get the day of the wedding off was declined. Therefore I had to notify my cousin that I could not attend, however I do intend to still give him a gift.

Declining the wedding invitation has not went down well with my cousins or my immediate family some of whom have taken it quite personally.

I think some people confuse "wedding invitation" with "royal summons" - which you can't decline.

Person_one

Do you want to go?

I wouldn't after they'd got all ar*ey about you having to work, what did they expect you to do, resign for the sake of somebody else's wedding?

Some couples have a massively over-inflated ego about how important their weddings should be to people who aren't them.

whitewing

Pootle along to the church/registry office and then along to whatever else you can get in to. It may be a bit of a wast of holiday now from your point of view but at least you'll be in the photos.

The_Hurricane

I do like my cousin and he didn't get narky with me directly, he just expressed disappointment as did other family members.

On a personal level I don't like weddings, I'm single at at 29 it has become a bit of a stigma and it is something I don't feel great about either.

I've decided to contact my cousin and ask if I can still come - thanks everyone for your advice.

daisiegg

The_Hurricane wrote: »

I do like my cousin and he didn't get narky with me directly, he just expressed disappointment as did other family members.

On a personal level I don't like weddings, I'm single at at 29 it has become a bit of a stigma and it is something I don't feel great about either.

I've decided to contact my cousin and ask if I can still come - thanks everyone for your advice.

Definitely contact and ask if it is still ok to go, though, as you say. I had a cousin who never actually responded to our wedding invitation directly at all, but we heard though her dad and other family members that she was going to be working abroad so would not be able to attend. She then announced (again not directly to us but through word of mouth, by asking someone for a lift to the wedding) ONE WEEK before the wedding that she would come. By this point it genuinely was too late to add her on and we had to make it clear that unfortunately she would not be able to attend. So I would not just assume, even with three weeks to go, that it would be ok for you to attend without checking first. It could be that they invited someone else in your place when you said that you could not attend.

floss2

The_Hurricane wrote: »

I do like my cousin and he didn't get narky with me directly, he just expressed disappointment as did other family members....

Thats maybe because they really did want you to share their special day, and to get together with your extended family?

I know that I and my brothers were disappointed that 2 particular aunts & uncles were unable to get to my wedding due to holiday & illness, because we hadnt seen them since my mums funeral 5 years earlier.

ognum

The_Hurricane wrote: »

I do like my cousin and he didn't get narky with me directly, he just expressed disappointment as did other family members.

On a personal level I don't like weddings, I'm single at at 29 it has become a bit of a stigma and it is something I don't feel great about either.

I've decided to contact my cousin and ask if I can still come - thanks everyone for your advice.

please let us know how you get on and we will all keep our fingers crossed that a potential partner is lurking at the reception!

Savvy_Sue

daisiegg wrote: »

I had a cousin who never actually responded to our wedding invitation directly at all,

My own parents failed to respond to my invitation: I had to phone my Dad about a week beforehand to check whether or not they were planning to come, so I knew whether he'd be walking me down the aisle or not. He seemed genuinely surprised I needed to ask, although I pointed out Mum hadn't spoken to me for several months ...