Wedding Dilemma

The_Hurricane

Hi All,

I have an issue that is starting to cause problems within the family. My cousin is getting married and sent me an invite to the wedding, however I've just started a new job and I'm in training at the moment and my holiday request to get the day of the wedding off was declined. Therefore I had to notify my cousin that I could not attend, however I do intend to still give him a gift.

Declining the wedding invitation has not went down well with my cousins or my immediate family some of whom have taken it quite personally. To make matters worse the company I work for have now accepted my holiday request so I have the day off. The wedding is in three weeks - what do I do?

Thanks in advance.

notanewuser

The_Hurricane wrote: »

Hi All,

I have an issue that is starting to cause problems within the family. My cousin is getting married and sent me an invite to the wedding, however I've just started a new job and I'm in training at the moment and my holiday request to get the day of the wedding off was declined. Therefore I had to notify my cousin that I could not attend, however I do intend to still give him a gift.

Declining the wedding invitation has not went down well with my cousins or my immediate family some of whom have taken it quite personally. To make matters worse the company I work for have now accepted my holiday request so I have the day off. The wedding is in three weeks - what do I do?

Thanks in advance.

Go to the wedding. I can't see a dilemma......?

Gra76

Get your morning suit ready and tell your cousin and immediate family that you've been told that the company has reconsidered and decided they will now let you have the day off. If you really want to come across as a hero, tell them you had to beg for hours to get it....

paulineb_2

Tell them you can now go because the company you work for authorised your holiday. People need to understand that if you had taken a sick day you could have put your job at risk, particularly as you had already asked for a holiday and been declined.

newcook

Speak to your cousin and let them know that work have now allowed for the day off and if they would still like you to be part of their wedding day that you would love to be there.

browneyedbazzi

Get in touch with your cousin and say that your employer has now agreed to give you the day off - say that if it isn't too late to add a place for you at the reception you would like to go along.

duchy

What's the problem - tell them the truth - You asked for the time...it was declined but when you explained how important it was to you -they relented and yay you can come after all (OK maybe that is a slightly more positive spin than the bald truth but it makes everyone happy)
Either they will be thrilled you can make it after all -or politely tell you it's too late to change the numbers.

Counting_Pennies_2

Personally I would not bother going.

They book a wedding on a working day, you tried to get the day off work in a new job. You inform them you are unable to get the day off but would like to get a present, and they get all funny with you.

I personally would save the day off for a time for you.

paulineb_2

Some people work shifts that make every day a working day, I did so for a number of years, not everyone works Monday-Friday 9-5.

peachyprice

I can't see the dilemma either. Go to the wedding, unless you don't actually want to go now, in which case just don't.

duchy

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

Personally I would not bother going.

They book a wedding on a working day, you tried to get the day off work in a new job. You inform them you are unable to get the day off but would like to get a present, and they get all funny with you.

I personally would save the day off for a time for you.

Some people work Saturdays -we don't know it's a weekday wedding.