Ever been set up with someone by friends?

marisco_2

The only way to know if you will get on well with someone is to meet up with them in person. Once you have spent some time with him in a relaxed atmosphere you may find he is more open and that you could have some things in common. Some people find it very hard to make small talk with those that they don't know well. This is even more difficult when done via most social mediums. Tone and connotation can be misinterpreted too. Hope you have a great time if you do decide to arrange to see him.

Mayflower10cat

Give him one more weeny chance... Many years ago I happened to be meeting up with colleagues (who were good friends) for drinkies and a meal, which clashed with drinkies with friends who happened to be in London that night. Not wanting to cancel either, we all agreed to meet for drinks see what happened. I'd joked with a work colleague that one of the male friends we were meeting was blonde, tall and very funny, (all that she'd said she fancied) I also added the caveat he'd just come out of a longterm relationship but if she wanted to take a risk, I reckoned they'd get on. The night we all met went really well, in fact they talked to no one else. I don't know the whole story but nothing came of it sadly. Both friends said - 'yes, you were right, s/he was gorgeous, funny and lovely but not the right time, sadly....' So I sort of congratulate myself that the only time I even accidentally 'set up' friends, they did indeed get on and fancied each other something rotten.

Go on go on go on.. One last face to face meeting. What have you got to lose.

Georgiegirl256

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Seriously, I don't think you can fairly assess a stranger by text. If I had based my judgement of my now DH on his phone conversation skills, I would have run a mile. Even now I don't bother ringing if I am away, lol.

Same here! My DH telephone "skills" are awful! He mumbles and does a great impression of a stroppy teenager, he hates talking on the phone, and I'm lucky to even get a one letter text....he can't even be bothered to write 'okay', he writes 'k'.

tattycath

When I was 17 my employer set me up with a date with a customer. Lovely bloke, good looking, interesting-the reality was nice bloke, ok looking, only wanted to talk about car engines and quarries. the saving grace was that I chose where we went on our date and a friend came over to talk to me. he asked if I wanted to see him again and I politely declined.

gibson123

What happened to just meeting someone for a coffee or drink? He could be keeping it neutral so he doesn't offend you, he doesn't know how to react to you, he has no visual clues yet.

totheleft

Reminds me of my friend who tried to set me up.

She's my best friend and is married.

She met a guy at work who she thought was perfect for me. She really made him out to be a right catch and he ticked all of the boxes.

So I thought why not!

Well she gave him my number and we started texting. We got on fine, had long text messages etc...things were looking good. Until 3 days in, he told me he would bust my lip. I didn't think anything of it. Then before our first date, I told him I am going to be shy...he said that he will slap me and break my face if I was...:rotfl:

On top of that, he said he was watching a programme that showed a man killing his wife and if he thought that was fate.

I did tell my friend he said all of this but she said he was joking and that was his sense of humour so I still went on the date though and the guy was completely shy! Plus he was not good looking at all!!

I was quite offended my friend would hook me up with someone like that but I didn't let it get in the way of our friendship. I suppose she wouldn't have known.

I said no to him afterwards though.

FBaby

My fiance and I intend on setting up one of my best friend with one of his. Now we know that neither would fall for them at first sight and even notice each other, however, knowing them well, we do know they share similar values, interests and would then be prepared to open up and be patient, would probably really appreciate each other's company. The question is whether they will be prepared to do so. Both can be a bit awkward and shy when first meeting people, so their true personality doesn't shine until they are more comfortable with the people they meet. Still, we'll give it a try. They will be meeting at our wedding, so with the flow of wine (which they both like and are quite connoisseur of), their inhibitions might go. Nothing would make happier than for it to work. They have both been single for much too long and both deserve to be treating well.

Maybe, just maybe, you need to give this guy some chance to show what your friends see in him.

Tiglath

My best friend set me up with a guy she'd dated a couple of times. We've been together for 15 years now.

lippy1923

I was set up on a blind date by a best friend. I didn't know at the time, it wasn't until we got there that she dropped the bombshell, so I didn't have a chance to back out as he pulled up in his car.

7 years later, we have a house, we are engaged and have our first little one on the way

Don't judge him by his poor texting skills. You never know until you meet.

aliasojo

Well since no-one else seems to have mentioned it, I must be either a bit past it or a bit of a stuffed shirt but I'd not be thinking too much of anyone who called me sweetheart in a text when we hadn't even met.

Reminds me too much of 'alright love' blokes iyswim. (I know what I mean. :rotfl:)

BUT.....you can't judge until you've met him, he might be nice in RL but a prat whilst texting.

Will be sending you good vibes and keeping fingers crossed. x