Ever been set up with someone by friends?

*max*

Well, never again, let me tell you!

All started fine, even if a little reluctantly on my part since I don't like generally talking to people I've never met. Friend assured me the guy was great, "perfect for me" - handsome, intelligent...etc. So ok, they give me his number after he expressed an interest. We start texting, all very casual.

Well, turns out he has the personality of a wet sponge. "Hi sweetheart, I'm having dinner". "Hi, I'm bored". "You at work?". Nothing remotely exciting, funny, no potential for interesting conversation at all. Whenever or whatever I reply, he texts back "Cool", or "Ok". I tried!

Argh...I'm feeling a little hurt my friends even thought we'd get on tbh! lol

Any fun stories? Horrific blind dates? Come on...I need a laugh.

Turtle

Nothing funny to add I'm afraid, but I have to agree I'd be gutted if my friends thought I had as much conversational skill as he seems to have!

neverdespairgirl

Have you actually met? OR spoken? Hard to judge a man by text, I'd have thought.

Kayalana99

Yea tbh he might be lovely in R/L :-) Texting doesn't mean anything.

Tbh I used to love texting having little coversations but then my phone broke and I have a crappy thing that takes 2min to write out a simple text... you just don't know unless you try!

My Oh is lucky to get more then three word reply off me now lol.

lostinrates

DH and I met through a mutual work contact/acquaintance.

He didn't think we'd hit it off but DH insisted he introduce us.

DH was obviously right.

*max*

No, we haven't met, and tbh I'm not really keen to now! He's seriously dull, and I think it would show even by text if he wasn't. It's very easy to be a little funny by text - I'm not talking belly laughs, but come on...Unfunny is a huge deal breaker for me! I don't know, maybe I'm too harsh.

ValHaller

Text is just a completely unnatural medium of communication for some. I absolutely detest it. I hate fiddling with the old style telephone keypads (I know qwerty is now available) I hate predictive text I hate the way people will attempt to continue an argument by text. From your examples, this guy comes across by text better than ever I would.

I would say that if you have never spoken to the guy face to face, you are in no position to draw any conclusion about his personality - you can only judge his texting capability.

If you are only looking for a relationship with someone who comes across well by text, then I would say that you are the one who has limitations.

Brighton_belle

Seriously, I don't think you can fairly assess a stranger by text. If I had based my judgement of my now DH on his phone conversation skills, I would have run a mile. Even now I don't bother ringing if I am away, lol.

KateBob

I was once set up by my mum with a lad who decided his opening gambit would be to tell me he'd been banned from his local for sleeping with the landlords wife :eek:
Not entirely sure where he expected the evening to go after that revelation.

On a side note I was kind of set up with my hubby.
I already knew him as part of a large group of friends but didn't know he had feelings for me. Then my housemates boyfriend let it slip by accident!

*max*

Thanks! I have plenty of limitations. I'm not desperate though, and if someone doesn't sound right, even through text, well - shoot me, but I won't want to pursue it.

Yorkie1

My brother and his now partner were got together by mutual friends - 'blind date' last June, their daughter was born last month!

So sometimes it can work out!!