What I didn't know until I had children

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poet123 wrote: »

And that you now have much more to worry about which is completely outside your control.

Oh yes!
When i'm lying awake waiting for him to come as I can't sleep until he's home.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

That butter is good for greasing up stuck heads... although is not always the right thing to do lol

Imagine the scene....

DD1 (4 at the time) is in bed (I thought she was asleep) so settled down to watch TV (enders!) when i heard SCREAMING on the baby monitor (Think hanibal the cannibal has walked into your room and started to cut off your head kind of screaming)

So upstairs I run, crashing into the room thinking "oh my gosh whats happened!" to find DD had shoved her head through the bars on her bed. I started to panic, rang OH, rang my mother, contemplated ringing fire station. Dash downstairs, grabbed the butter and shoved it round her ears and tried to pull her out (Didnt work!)

Eventually stood back in a "ohh cr!!!!!!p" and happened to notice the bars were wider at the top than the bottom... thats right people, DD had shoved her head through the bars and then crouched down.... so lifted her head up, she popped out the bars nicely but then had to have a bath because sily mummy here had covered her in the contents of the fridge trying to grease her head lol

anderson8

That my child is the smartest, cutest, most advanced.....
How bad I would feel disciplining him.
The bad days are forgotten as soon as you get a cuddle.

Mr_Toad

That if you have a girl you will never ever, ever, own enough towels.

If it's a boy that putting washing in the machine without checking the pockets for rocks, sticks and sundry other machine destroying contents is a must.

poet123

Mr_Toad wrote: »

That if you have a girl you will never ever, ever, own enough towels.

If it's a boy that putting washing in the machine without checking the pockets for rocks, sticks and sundry other machine destroying contents is a must.

Fast forward to teens and early twenties with four gym mad boys and M&S doesn't have enough towels. :eek:

pineapple123

Some elderly person once said to me when I was pregnant you'll have 18 years of worry, I have to admit its more than 18 years.

amus

poet123 wrote: »

And that you now have much more to worry about which is completely outside your control.

Must admit this worries me, especially knowing what I got up to as a teen! It's ok when they're little, you pretty much have complete control over what they do, but as they get older....

marisco_2

amus wrote: »

Must admit this worries me, especially knowing what I got up to as a teen! It's ok when they're little, you pretty much have complete control over what they do, but as they get older....

I haven't reached this stage with my two children yet. I do remember though my dads approach to gradually pulling back and letting me stand on my own two feet and make my way in the world. He reasoned that he had done his best to bring me up in a way that meant I used common sense, thought things through, respected myself enough to know how I deserved to be treated by others and how I should treat them. I had also always had it instilled in me that I could turn to him at any time for advice and guidance should I need it. I plan to raise my boys in a similar way and hope that this works as well for them as it did for me all those years ago.

CherylOB

The sheer amount of guilt involved with being a parent.

Guilt when you say no and you have to look at their sad faces.

Guilt if you say yes and you know you shouldn't have really.

Guilt when you can't buy them something that they 'really, really, really' want..

Guilt when you can cos you shouldn't be spoiling them..

And days like today, when it is the third attempt at sports day (others were rained off) and you just can't have the time off work.

marisco_2

CherylOB wrote: »

The sheer amount of guilt involved with being a parent.

Guilt when you say no and you have to look at their sad faces.

When you have to do this it is normally for their own good. It is also good preparation for real life. Not everything you want in life happens automatically or comes instantly

Guilt if you say yes and you know you shouldn't have really.

Sometimes you place trust in them or take a leap of faith and it pays off. Other times you spoilt them when maybe you shouldn't but hey they are only little once so occasionally why not.

Guilt when you can't buy them something that they 'really, really, really' want..

Again a good life lesson. If nothing else it teaches them that some things have to be worked towards and saved for.

Guilt when you can cos you shouldn't be spoiling them..

Every now and then it does no harm at all.

And days like today, when it is the third attempt at sports day (others were rained off) and you just can't have the time off work.

Awwwww this one hit home with me. I have tried 2 attempts to get to my youngest sons sports day only for it to have been rained off. The day it did go ahead I had a commitment that I couldn't get out of. I made sure he knew I had tried my best to be there and made a point of asking him all about it when he got home that day.

Sending you a ((hug)) as you sound a bit down. We can only ever do our best as parents. The guilt you feel and all the second guessing can be exhausting at times cant it.