Christening gifts?

notanewuser

jellyhead wrote: »

My children aren't christened, but just wanted to add to the thread that my stepdad's family all 'do' christenings, even though they're not religious, and my stepdad gets exactly the same gift for each baby because there would be 'ructions' if he didn't.

I think the keepsake box that you initially bought is lovely. Some people don't seem to 'do' thankyous for gifts, and from what I remember from previous threads these inlaws of yours are a bit rude. I think I'd just send the same gift for each, and try to rise above the lack of thanks.

The idea of a book in which you write a message is nice though (and cheaper, lol!)

Thank you. It's only when there are things like this to think about that it winds me up now.

I love the book idea. Think I'm going to go for that.

[Deleted User]

I know you don't wish to give a 'religious' gift but generally a children's bible story book is always a good gift for a baptism (I remember reading mine over & over) especially if the pictures are are interesting

notanewuser

joolzred wrote: »

I know you don't wish to give a 'religious' gift but generally a children's bible story book is always a good gift for a baptism (I remember reading mine over & over) especially if the pictures are are interesting

Thanks. These babies have more than enough religious relatives to see to that.

mumps

Hi, it is obvious that you don't get on with in laws, well that is how it sounds to me. Why not let your husband deal with the presents. I don't think I would want a gift for my child's baptism which came with, mmmmm how can I put this? With quite a negative vibe. I am not being critical, I don't know the background and your feelings might be well justified but none of it is the baby's fault, and same for next baby.

notanewuser

mumps wrote: »

Hi, it is obvious that you don't get on with in laws, well that is how it sounds to me. Why not let your husband deal with the presents. I don't think I would want a gift for my child's baptism which came with, mmmmm how can I put this? With quite a negative vibe. I am not being critical, I don't know the background and your feelings might be well justified but none of it is the baby's fault, and same for next baby.

Why do you think the gift will have a "negative vibe"?! I'm not planning to write "given begrudgingly on the occasion of your christening" in the books!!! Of course nothing is the baby's fault - have I said that it is? I love my nieces and nephews unconditionally, hence they all get 'welcome to the world", birthday, christening and Christmas gifts, no matter how badly/rudely/oddly their parents behave.

DH is up to his eyes with work at the moment, so this is falling to me. I just wanted some ideas of appropriate gifts, that's all!!!

(If you want some background reading, it's here.)

ETA: we do get on, broadly, but their behaviour/attitudes bewilder me!!

amus

If they didnt buy for your childs naming ceremony why go through the hassle and bother buying for them?

notanewuser

amus wrote: »

If they didnt buy for your childs naming ceremony why go through the hassle and bother buying for them?

Because (as I said in my opening post) I bought for their older siblings and (as I've said in my last post) it's not the babies' fault!!

mumps

notanewuser wrote: »

(ETA, we never received any form of thank you for the 1st lot of gifts, so I'm not really on a mission to go all out this time round.)

notanewuser wrote: »

Why do you think the gift will have a "negative vibe"?! I'm not planning to write "given begrudgingly on the occasion of your christening" in the books!!! Of course nothing is the baby's fault - have I said that it is? I love my nieces and nephews unconditionally, hence they all get 'welcome to the world", birthday, christening and Christmas gifts, no matter how badly/rudely/oddly their parents behave.

DH is up to his eyes with work at the moment, so this is falling to me. I just wanted some ideas of appropriate gifts, that's all!!!

(If you want some background reading, it's here.)

Well the first quote sounded quite negative to me, it seems to say that if you had a different response to previous gifts you would be "going all out" which seems to suggest the baby is getting less thought due to parents actions. Maybe I read it wrongly, just how it came across to me.

I will have a read.

Had a read, not all the replies but your posts. Sounds liks letting your husband sort things out is the way to go. Sorry he is busy but he could order something on line in a few minutes so if it was me I would tell him to get on with it. They don't sound very friendly, is there any background reason for that, I mean did you ever get on, did they just not take to you, or maybe your OH had a previous partner they were close to (this happened to a friend of mine, her husband couldn't understand it as he had never viewed this girlfriend as a longterm partner but apparently his mother just loved her and my friend was doomed to be second best through no fault of her own.)

amus

notanewuser wrote: »

Because (as I said in my opening post) I bought for their older siblings and (as I've said in my last post) it's not the babies' fault!!

Its not but its not your kids fault they didnt buy for them either. I would keep my money and spend it on my own kids. They have after all.

Dunroamin

notanewuser wrote: »

Because (as I said in my opening post) I bought for their older siblings and (as I've said in my last post) it's not the babies' fault!!

TBH, the babies will have no idea of whether you buy them a baptismal gift or not so you can leave their feelings out of the equation.