Christening gifts?

notanewuser

mumps wrote: »

Well the first quote sounded quite negative to me, it seems to say that if you had a different response to previous gifts you would be "going all out" which seems to suggest the baby is getting less thought due to parents actions. Maybe I read it wrongly, just how it came across to me.

I will have a read.

I didn't mean it that way. I spent a very long time (and a fair bit of cash) buying, wrapping and posting the first 2 christening gifts. We didn't get a thank you and I haven't seen them in the girls' bedrooms, so perhaps my cash would have been better spent elsewhere. I don't mind spending money if I know things won't be shoved in a loft/sent to the charity shop to be sold for a few £s. the book idea seems to strike the right note, I think.

mumps wrote: »

Had a read, not all the replies but your posts. Sounds liks letting your husband sort things out is the way to go. Sorry he is busy but he could order something on line in a few minutes so if it was me I would tell him to get on with it. They don't sound very friendly, is there any background reason for that, I mean did you ever get on, did they just not take to you, or maybe your OH had a previous partner they were close to (this happened to a friend of mine, her husband couldn't understand it as he had never viewed this girlfriend as a longterm partner but apparently his mother just loved her and my friend was doomed to be second best through no fault of her own.)

We get on fine. I think they're just generally pretty thoughtless and because we aren't local (260 miles ish) we're "out of sight, out of mind". I couldn't care less personally, but its always us having to make the effort to see them, to stay in touch etc. It's DH and DD I feel sorry for.

mumps

notanewuser wrote: »

I didn't mean it that way. I spent a very long time (and a fair bit of cash) buying, wrapping and posting the first 2 christening gifts. We didn't get a thank you and I haven't seen them in the girls' bedrooms, so perhaps my cash would have been better spent elsewhere. I don't mind spending money if I know things won't be shoved in a loft/sent to the charity shop to be sold for a few £s. the book idea seems to strike the right note, I think.



We get on fine. I think they're just generally pretty thoughtless and because we aren't local (260 miles ish) we're "out of sight, out of mind". I couldn't care less personally, but its always us having to make the effort to see them, to stay in touch etc. It's DH and DD I feel sorry for.

I know what you mean about DD, it makes it all more hurtful when you feel your child is affected. Books are a nice gift, I wonder where the other gifts are?