The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

mardatha

Lobbyludd give it as a Friendship Gift and tell her she can return the favour some time in your life when you really really need it.

ginnyknit

Mar I am totally baffled, you make soap :rotfl: and you have bought soap !!!

Lovely to hear from our behind the scenes family who read along and pop in on occasion. Wishing you all a peaceful Christmas xxx

been to see Mum ...yawning smiley - Oh put Big bang theory on low while me and Mum were nattering and I kept getting distracted, whoops. She had made up an egg and bacon pie and I forgot to bring it home

This bloomin cat belonging to my neighbour now lives behind the laptop on the table and is driving me to distraction. She is still a kitten really so gets upto all sorts and we keep telling her she doesnt actually live here but we just get a baffled look off her. Am still not feeding her but she is a terrible thief, and noisy with it - pans rattling, knives knocked on the floor. Threatened to take her home and push her through the letterbox last night when she scattered my sewing all over the floor :eek:

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LOBBY you're a good friend and she will love being given your present, even if she has said don't!!! Tell her that it's not just about christmas, but it's for all those times you've shared, because you love her to bits and because it's making you happy to be able to tell her so!!! I think she'll be happy with that and not mind that you've done it! Lyn xxx.

Pollybear

I lurk on here and I've only posted once or twice but not because I feel unwelcome, I just don't have anything interesting to say. But I've always felt this is a lovely thread. I always click on the thanks button so I don't feel like I'm being sneaky!

ArthriticOldThing

Good evening to one and all. I've not been posting much - but still reading along - as have been trying to get my head around the trouble with oldest DS. Have decided the best I can do is not to initiate further contact but just be here if/when he decides he needs me. I will always love him but feel I cannot take any more of the vilification.


Lobbyludd,Iagree with mardatha, give the gift to your friend and tell her it is a friendship gift. I've done the same when a friend of mine was in the same situation. I think its such an important part of friendship to be able to give and/or receive without embarrassment on either side.


Good luck for tomorrow fuddle.


Lovely to hear from all you other infrequent posters. I find such comfort from reading even if don't post much.


MrsLW - what a lovely and so apt post. You manage to encapsulate so much of what I feel this thread is about, and why I value it. Thank you.


PinkDebster, I don't know how you manage to be so strong - I only cook because I like to eat so cannot imagine how hard your situation must be.


Bought self some new slippers in M&S today and while waiting in queue to pay the lady in front of me gave me a 20% voucher which she did not want. Lovely surprise - there are some very kind people around.


In relation to Christmas trees we used to have a dog who was very fond of chocolate and she would sniff out any tree decorations made of the delicious stuff and eat it - usually dismantling said tree in the process. We soon learned not to put any edible decorations out.


I hope everyone has a good and peaceful night.

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Love the puppy picture POLLYBEAR, always nice to hear from a very familiar name we see every day, thank you, Lyn xxx.

lobbyludd

thanks everyone, great idea.

Pink, can't imagine how difficult that must be, I'm fairly certain I wouldn't be so gracious about it. I hope you have some time planned that doesn't revolve around food, and is about you enjoying things.

good idea ches, although I have to say having lived in the south and the north of england and various bits of east and west, I did get used to the taste of water wherever I was. The water is very soft here, and for a while it just tasted wrong, lacking (I'd moved from a hard water area packed with minerals), but I guzzle it now

monnagran

Such good advice floating about today. Lobbylud: I do know how difficult it is to give someone something without causing offence. I've never subscribed to this 'I'll give you something and you'll have to give me something' attitude. Sometimes I like to give someone something just because I know they need it and I feel like doing it. It's self indulgence if anything. Nothing upsets me more than them feeling that they then have to return the compliment. I do like the odd little thing that comes unexpectedly with the comment, "I saw this and thought of you." Goodness, how prickly we can be. We spend our time tiptoeing about on eggshells trying not to upset anyone.

Mar: Coals to Newcastle or what! Now, if I could only find soap made out of Kale or even sprouts it would be turning up on your doorstep pronto like.

Had to laugh at the stories of cats and Christmas trees. I have 2 photos of one of our trees. The first one is of the tree in all its glory. The 2nd one is of an absolutely wrecked tree but if you look very carefully you can just see a pair of ginger ears hiding among the branches.

Well, I found the furniture in the breakfast room, which, Fuddle, is a room that the upper classes use to use specifically for eating their breakfast in. My BR Room contains, apart from the aforementioned furniture, my shopping trolley, my vacuum cleaner, a tumble drier, a box of cleaning materials, a basket of teatowels, a pile of dried clothes waiting to be ironed, a much smaller pile of clothes that have been ironed and are waiting to be put away, an iron, a broken ironing board on its way out to the garage, 3 empty plastic crates on their way in from the garage, an old, dead TV, a Kenwood Chef banished from the kitchen for taking up too much space on the worktop, a huge amount of shopping from the cash and carry waiting for someone to find somewhere else to store it, a box of rotting apples completely hidden by a pile of old duvets donated by someone for the homeless and on their way to the church,(so that's what the smell was), a sewing machine is having a nervous breakdown in the corner, and sundry other bits of detritus too revolting to name.
We eat our breakfast standing in the kitchen or sitting in the lounge with it on our laps.
We also have a dining room that has never been dined in, but that's another story.

Where are you Flylady? and why have you failed me?

My bedroom is pristine. Just don't try opening any drawers or cupboards.

Why can't I be like Mrs LW and convey a wealth of meaning in a few beautiful, well-chosen words? Why do I have verbal diarrhoea (yes, I did look it up)?

Answer comes there none.

x

ginnyknit

Can any of our doggy owners help me. DD bought her OH a dog a few months ago when he was doing his Uni course and at home a lot. Now he has a job he really couldnt refuse and she is left looking after the dog and DGS between her shifts. Her Oh has trained the dog to walk to lead well but in the house she is a maniac. She is a 30 week old lab/staffy cross and wonderful but very boisterous and jumps at DDs face a lot. DGS has her under control - of course and she doesnt jump at him. Dd is upset as she isnt coping and wanst to keep the dog. I have offered to have the dog all this week as Im at home so much and hope that I can train her a bit. I had dogs all my life until 7 years ago and think I could do some good but need a few pointers. I know I need to bring my knee up when she jumps and generally be calm with her but has anyone any other ideas. thank you all x

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GINNY she needs a proper training class once a week to establish with the dog that she does what your DD tells her to. Most obedience classes will put in basic manners which is all she needs to learn. If it's any consolation Docky is nearly 10 and he still won't come back to me when I call him so I can never let him off lead on a walk. His Dadi however has him like putty in his hands and Docky will do ANYTHING for Dadi because Dadi always gives him a yummy fing for being a good boy!!! and he will walk to heel off lead for Dadi too!!! We did 5 years of training classes with him and he's still a HOOLIGAN!!! but a nice one. Some basic controls will come very quickly and rescue your DD from her doggy tormenter!!! Lyn xxx.