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Possession

Stiltwalker I just had to go back & read because I missed your first post - brilliant about the funding! I'm sure it will make little Miss S come on in leaps and bounds.
DH had his interview and thinks it went quite well, so it's just down to luck now as to how well suited the other candidates are. Keep your fingers tightly crossed please as he really likes the sound of the job and it would be great to have his wage coming in again.

nuttyp

Kidcat please can you clear a space I need to pm you reguarding your last message.

We are now decorating the tree, yay ......

kidcat

nuttyp wrote: »

Kidcat please can you clear a space I need to pm you reguarding your last message.

We are now decorating the tree, yay ......

Done nutty sorry.

Back tonight to catch up

shegar

Well well, what a night that was, flooding was pretty bad along our coast, we didnt get it being a mile away from the sea, but the news went on the local radio all night , updating people which was brilliant if you were in the really bad areas, real good coverage , I fell asleep with the radio still turned on..............My son sent me a pic of the beach near his house , id never seen such waves..................................But the main thing is nobody as died resulting all the bad weather...............:D

Well I got on the phone again this morning to good ole social services :eek::mad:.........After a very long time waiting and talking to people that hadnt got a clue what was going on and to cut a very long story short , ive got a new case worker and she will be visiting me and OH next Thursday :T:T:T:T.................Can you believe it?, god its been along road to get this far , if I hadnt of been for me phoning them again this morning( 3 rd time this week) they would not have bothered to have have got in touch with me , cos Ive explained and repeated the same thing so many times to them....:mad::mad:......I think as soon as you put the phone down to them , they have no intention of doing anything .............................At first though they did say do I want him to keep in the care home for another week, well I said NO,NO, I want to sort the long term out , one say no more respite, then the next say do I want another week.....:mad:.........................!!!!!! .....

Its a bit calmer now , but we still have some wind , its just so dam cold out there , im going to light my fire pretty soon after ive had a shower ....................Sheila

fuddle

Sheila what do you think they can do to help you out? Do you think you might want to venture down the home help route? I did learn this week that social services are the most difficult if agencies to work with. They like cut priced care deals (which means not being able to pay more than minimum wage for the carers delivering the care which has a knock in effect on the quality of the carer that is employed = likely scenario of below standard care/lack of personable skills to do the job and chance of the people receiving the care not at all liking the person that is in their home) and paying for the very basic package for the care needed.

My employers said they don't cut corners but they do try to get away with cutting costs and using a care method that does the job but one that maybe isn't perfectly acceptable for a person but the more appropriate method would incur extra expense.

SS (and the council) have asked my employers for shorter care slots and cheaper prices. Both of which they refuse because of the reasons above.

I think you've got a bit of a fight on your hands Sheila but I think it's one that you can win. It really is going to be about making a big huge fuss, not giving up and not taking no for an answer. Very tiring I know but we're here to listen

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Hello campers, I'm here with DD1 and the beautiful kittencat who was ready for a big hug with Grandma when she arrived. I thought we were in for a difficult journey as the train only had two carriages where it normally has three and the reservations weren't on the seats and we were running late, but it was all very orderly and we arrived here in time, well done the railways!!!

Olaf pig was actually hungry this morning for the first time in a month and hopping up and down in his cage so he had some chopped green beans, a chopped strawberry, a piece of cucumber and some shredded spinach and was making inroads on his bowl as we left for the station, woohoo, I have hope that we might get him through this now!!!

I'm glad everyone is OK after that dreadful weather yesterday, CRAIGY have they been able to salvage any of your roof tiles and get you weathertight again? I do hope so that must have been so scary.

SHEILA I'm so glad you've managed to make them take notice of your need for help, I hope you can make the person who visits understand that you're at the end of your ability to look after dear OH and have done so this far at the expense of your own health, thinking of you both.

I hope everyone is fine today and have yourselves a nice weekend too. We've a concert tomorrow in the Cathedral, it's the Messiah so that officially marks the start of Christmas for us and I so love going to hear DD sing with the choral society. We have mince pies and drinks afterwards in the Chapter House which will be lovely and then a nice gentle Sunday and home again on Monday, Cheers Lyn xxx.

ArthriticOldThing

Thank you everyone for your love, care, kindness and hugs. I've been so in need of them.
I accept he reacts to me as I'm the only safe one to take it out on. His early life was chaotic with his mum being so vulnerable and needy herself and just not able to cope with being parent - never mind a single parent. (She was a very nice person but not strong - we made sure everyone stayed in touch).
So from an early age (6) this boy had to become the 'man' in the house and look after his two brothers as well as her. Its left him very damaged (all the children are in one way or another) and he has always vented his rage and frustration at anyone around - mainly me.
But his abuse has become worse as he gets older (32 now) and I am the only person he has not yet driven away. But I do not know how much more of it I can take.
By the way he will not apologise ever as does not think he is ever in the wrong.


I'm so glad everyone got thru the storm ok. The quayside in Newcastle flooded but down here at the coast it did not seem that wild so we must have been lucky.

monnagran

Hi.

Have been away for a few days so am struggling to catch up.

I must tell you where I have been tonight. It was the carol service in the smallest of the Rev's churches, a very pretty little village church, way out in the country.
It was dark when we arrived and I could see the little lights of torches bobbing their way through trees and along lanes as the people came to the church.
The choir was excellent and encompassed a great range of ages. The children were sweet and the singing was breathtaking. We had carols, anthems and handbell ringing. The congregation raised the rafters when they sang the old carols, and afterwards we all had mince pies and hot drinks before the torches all bobbed their way homewards.
It occurred to me that this evening was no different to what must have taken place 60/70 years ago. Those children would have been singing the same carols in the same place as their parents, grandparents and greatgrandparents and possibly generations before that. When I looked at the scene it could have been 2013, 1973, 1933 or possibly even before that. The timelessness of it all made me catch my breath. How OS is that?

That's all. Nothing of great interest but I was a bit emotional.

x

bluebag

ArthriticOldThing wrote: »

Thank you everyone for your love, care, kindness and hugs. I've been so in need of them.
I accept he reacts to me as I'm the only safe one to take it out on. His early life was chaotic with his mum being so vulnerable and needy herself and just not able to cope with being parent - never mind a single parent. (She was a very nice person but not strong - we made sure everyone stayed in touch).
So from an early age (6) this boy had to become the 'man' in the house and look after his two brothers as well as her. Its left him very damaged (all the children are in one way or another) and he has always vented his rage and frustration at anyone around - mainly me.
But his abuse has become worse as he gets older (32 now) and I am the only person he has not yet driven away. But I do not know how much more of it I can take.
By the way he will not apologise ever as does not think he is ever in the wrong.

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I sadly think you may have to accept that this reaction to you is all part of his ongoing problem. Often people who have been emotionally hurt cast about for someone to hurt back.

It's possible you may have to detach from him to protect yourself, you can still love the person but hate the behavior if that makes some sense to you.

I hope you can find some peace. When we offer our hearts to someone there is always the risk of them being broken.

kezlou

AOT, you are very much his emotional punchbag. (((hugs))

Well today we're off to help out at the kitten fundraiser.
Roped ds1 into doing a stall and ds2 will be with me.

Were running seriously late as the boys only woke up 10 minutes ago!!!:eek:

OH can't take us as he's on a job and the swine has thrown paper everywhere so house looks like a bomb has hit it :mad: