The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kidcat

Possession they fix ds9 glasses regularly on the nhs sometimes it can be twice a week. As long as they are entirely nhs and you haven't paid for expensive frames apparently.

kidcat

Gailey hugs I promise it will get better. There is light at the end of the tunnel its just sometimes we are focused on something else and cant make it out.

Our @ldi have lots of lines that have been special offers in last few months now reduced. Jars of passata 49p arborio rice 49p. Clearing the stock rooms for Christmas stock I guess. Worth a look if you are passing.

cornishchick

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cornishchick

Gaily i think if most people were honest they are all struggling. But putting a brave face on it.
I know i was chatting to a friend of a friend in the SM last week, and mentioned something she had in her basket was cheaper in another SM, she was so pleased and admitted she was finding it hard to make ends meet, but to look at them you wouldn't know it.

mardatha

Nobody knows what goes on in other people's lives, and Gailey you're just feeling down and worn out with hard times... it will pass, day by day by day until one day you realise things are better.

gailey_2

mardatha wrote: »

Nobody knows what goes on in other people's lives, and Gailey you're just feeling down and worn out with hard times... it will pass, day by day by day until one day you realise things are better.

Thanks just weathers bit glum, we been no where, keeping spending to essentials only so, tired so today just been lazy mope day whilst constant tidying of 2year old and 4year old.

husbands fed up being off.

Feels like way we living now in alternate universe.

We live in affluent area and don't know anyone in similar dire situation as us.

I know it will get better.

taking one day at a time felt positive and energetic on weekend
today and yesterday just back to weekly grind of school runs, cooking and housework. nothing to look forward to this week not seeing family or freinds and no party to attend.

Have long list things we need to buy.

Also xmas be here soon enough.

suppost to look around primary schools for no 2 this term.

I know we would be worse off. just need a good sleep and enjoyable hobby take my mind off things.

Possession

kidcat wrote: »

Possession they fix ds9 glasses regularly on the nhs sometimes it can be twice a week. As long as they are entirely nhs and you haven't paid for expensive frames apparently.

Oh good, I'll take them in tomorrow. He scared me in the car mentioning the glass but thankfully he's got it!

Gailey I know it must be so frustrating and tiring to be always scrimping and worrying. You do so well and have such a great attitude, always making things great for your kids.

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GAILEY love, try to look at life in a different way, look at how well you're managing a very difficult time and feel proud that you ARE still feeding your family, you ARE getting them to school/playschool still, you ARE still keeping your head above water and even though you have down moments, you are only human after all, you keep bouncing back and keep going. There is so much you are achieving that you can be proud of yourself for. It isn't a case of what everyone else can have and do, it's a case of seeing just how well you ARE doing and being aware that most people would have fared much less well without your drive and determination. One day you'll be back on your feet and all this will seem remote but today, just take stock of what you DO manage to do and give yourself a well earned pat on the back pet, you deserve it!!! Love Lyn xxx.

GAILEY we live in a relatively affluent area too, but we choose not to play the posessions and lifestyle game with the others. We don't have the kind of money to go cruising or on holiday 6 times a year or out for new clothes or meals or anything else at the drop of a hat. We make the most of what we can afford and you know what pet? I've actually had people come up to me and say I wish I could do all the things you do, make the jam, grow the veg, look after clothes so they last 10 years instead of 1 season. Your affluent neighbours might just be caught on a merrygoround of keeping up and spending to be seen to keep up. It might just be the inspiration they need to climb off the ride if you let someone know things are tight at the moment and you're having to make choices that are sensible, and you might just find thier respect for you grows rather than them looking down on you, you never know you might even be the change in peoples lives that they can't make on thier own!!!

jackel

Hi all - Mrs LW- a short time ago you posted a tip about making a batch of jackets and keeping them in a poly bag(I think - well that's how I've kept them) in the fridge. Just wanted to say how helpful I have found it. Thanks.
Fuddle - good luck with the move.
Gailey - Don't let it get you down. Loads of folks are struggling but many are good at hiding it(or living on the knock)

Best wishes to all - jac x.

monnagran

Have naughtily sneaked a peek at what you are all up to.
Mcculloch: I spent over 40 years living near the Devil's Punchbowl and loved the tales of Punchbowl Farm. It is even more glorious there now as the tunnel under Hindhead has opened and there is no longer traffic going round the Punchbowl.

Princess: Families! I think the acid test of a family member is -'would you chose that person to be your friend?' If not then I think you are well within your rights to have as little to do with that person as possible. They have forfeited their right to be considered 'family'.

Gailey: You are having such a hard time. I think that we must find a new word to describe the 'benefits' system. I don't know who it is benefitting. Presumably !!!!less folk who have many children that they cannot afford to keep themselves so expect the tax payer to keep for them. If that sounds harsh then I am sorry, but when good, hard working people like you, are messed about with the little bit of help you are richly entitled to, it makes my blood boil. My DS is having a similar problem. He went to the JC this morning because his JS allowance hadn't been paid, only to find that he had been sanctioned for 6 weeks because, apparently he had missed an appointment at the beginning of July. He is completely unaware of missing anything but there is no arguing with them. Not only that, but when he got back to his bed-sit his Landlord was on the rampage because he'd not received any HB for 2 weeks. So I'm having to find the money for his rent to stop him losing his bed-sit. :mad::mad: Thankfully he has a job starting next Monday, but of course he won't be paid until the end of the month.
As for thinking that those people who are spending money in SMs and seemingly having a good time.........don't you believe it. Money certainly makes life more comfortable but it really, really doesn't make you happy.

Well, that's me done. I'll put myself back in my box.

x

Sorry Fuddle: My righteous indignation made me forget your stupendous news. Keep packing that girl! If you can lay your hands on egg trays they are ace for lining boxes of fragile things.

PS The word that has been officiously scrubbed out is not rude at all. I was trying to describe people who live carelessly and with no thought of how they are going to pay for their life style.
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