The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

Hard_Up_Hester

Many years ago I had an elderly neighbour who told me she's been devastated when she gave birth to her first child and it was a boy instead of the daughter she'd longed for. But she said as soon as her son was placed in her arms he brought with him all the love needed.
Hester

Popperwell

Morning All,
Another mixed day it seems...

Agreed I'll still take it easy and not rush things. It's a deal! I think I have missed some posts along the way. Oops:onot intended.

Lets see what I remember.

Missed about SIL's arthritis AOT but am sure I have heard hemp mentioned as HUH has(don't be surprised if I look into it too)now I have been reminded.

NuttyP what strength of character to cope with that situation at work. Its so wrong and with the other problem hanging over your head. I wonder just how far up the line its no about...it may be its being hidden and some one in area management is trying to hide their own inadequatcies(sp?)

PX87 Back pain as if I need to say it...it is a killer, wish I had a solution. Its weighing up whether it will go away and working through it or whether its a trip to the Dr for a solution even if its different meds. But often its down to time.

A pet means as much in a home/life so is not just an animal. So it makes sense to me.

Jem I don't know enough about schools/special needs but it sounds wrong, I hope you get some joy on why its happened and a solution to benefit everyone especial your son.

I've tried to set my sourdough culture away again(success I think)so I guess it looks like I intend to try to make bread again. I have also invested in some icing decorating sets so I can do some piping so I guess its only time before I try my own decorated biscuits or ginger bread etc...:)Its getting serious!

Especially when there's only myself. They'll last me a long time.

stiltwalker

Jem - Most Home Ed kids get lot of social interaction - there are all sorts of groups you can join that are very welcoming - one of my best friends home educates her children (now 13 and 15 and both smashing well rounded, social and interesting kids). They have a social group that meets once a month (plus does other activities like parties and musical afternoons, they are doing an Art Award with a number of other home ed young people which sounds way more interesting than the art I did at school. They do gym at a sports centre with an instructor on a Monday and also meet up with other families throughout the week. They do non-school school trips, we have been with them to Eden Camp and done workshops at a local museum (exactly the same as a school party would do, just with a mixed age group).

It is hard, don't get me wrong and although we have considered it, it would not be right for us at the moment as to be completely honest, we need the break from the kids and they from us that school and nursery provide, but it is pretty high up my list of back-up plans if we have problems with the state system. There are all sorts of other considerations, surrounding what and how you'd teach and how DS would take to doing lessons with mum rather than at school, and as he gets older how you would provide opportunities for him to gain recognisable qualifications but don't rule it out on the socialisation thing. I also have friends who have taken a child out of school for similar reasons to you, have home educated an built confidence for a period of time and then have successfully reintegrated them into school (different one than the one that contributed to original problem). We're over the border in North Yorks but I can ask my friend if she has West Yorks contact details if you decide this is something you want to look into. - Helen X

PRINCESSX87

Thank you everyone. We're truly gutted. Thinking it may have been easier if maybe there was some warning? Maybe would could have got him to the vets quicker. My dad burst a Tyre and scratched his car when he rushed into the vet car park. So also has to contend with that too.

The back pain is strange. It just appeared before i went to bed on Monday. Its painful to move, breathe, ect. I'm going to try & hold out until my next appointment with the DR's. I am also going to try the exercises in case i'm just old & stiff!

mardatha

I grew up in the 50s and I never saw pasta or even macaroni. I don't mind cos I don't like it lol

kidcat

jem - I have never spoken to a teacher, head teacher or any LEA official who will say that home ed is the way forward for any child and to be fair they would probably be in the wrong job if they did. They have to believe that they system they are in is the absolute best for kids otherwise they wouldnt bother I am sure

As stiltwalker says there are many ways to get the socialisation into a home ed environment. I have considered it for both my boys and should things go wrong will definitely go that route, however my concern is the effect upon you. Having no respite at all is incredibly hard, last year I had DS15 home most of the time and it is so draining. If I had DS9 home I know I would not cope alone OH would have to stay home and give me time out.

That said school are not meeting your sons needs, and are certainly not meeting the requirement to provide him with a education equal to his peers. The law requires that they educate him, and make adjustments to meet his needs to allow him the same opportunities as the other kids. As a specialist unit they are held to a higher standard and have to go even further than a normal school would, but as such they will also be more closely monitored, its worth contacting the SEND team at your LEA to ask what they are doing with the school to deal with this.

savingqueen

A quick stop by while I drink my coffee and wait for the washing machine to do its magic. Had an efficient start to the morning, got DH's prescription, a doc's appointment for Fri (tests came back with a note to say GP - hope I get some answers then), trip to Sansbugs and few admin bits... then stopped for a cuppa and well...

Police had some sort of traffic ops thing today, some on obvious view, others hiding away ready to catch the baddies - hope they get the imbecilic (sp?) car who beeped me for driving in their eyes too slowly and cutting me up after - actually twas at the speed limit, a comfortable speed for me AND I knew to cops were waiting to pounce. Karma maybe?!

DS6 had yet another wobbly entrance into school, keeps going on about missing the horses he befriended on our hols. I think it's deeper about missing both sets of grandparents especially my mum. He says it's just about the horses when pressed. I am thinking of trying to meet my mum halfway between our homes (3 hour drive and she doesn't) for a few hours one weekend so kids and mum can have some time together. Persuading DH will be difficult and my sister will put a curse on me if I exclude her. I feel so sad for my kids with all this family stuff, DS6 probably hears other children talking about seeing their grandparents all the time.

Okey time for a v quick tidy and peg laundry before I attend my luncheon invitation at my friends and then see if I can squeeze something else in before school run. Swimming tonight, not sure if it's a good idea for DS6 to go or not in his current mood hmmm.

back later to catch up on posts. Got the gist that some of you need a hug and cuppa so sending those now. Brain like a sieve so best I can offer for now.

keep on keeping on
sq:)

Mrs_Chip

Morning All

Sorry about the poor dog Px, always a terrible thing to lose a family pet. I'm not sure if it's better to go quickly or have warning (goes for humans as well), but whichever way is sad. I'm still sad about Little Al and he was only with us a few weeks!

SQ - there is a thing called Gransnet.com, you could go onto the forum and see if there is anyone there in your area who could act as a stand-in Gran for the times you cannot get to see your mum - sounds a bit strange at first but when you think about it there must be lots of people in the same situation, these days families are so spread out. I know that a couple of the ladies that OH drives around treat him a bit like a grandson because theirs are far away or not in contact.

Re pasta - I think I was the first one in our house to cook spaghetti (apart from the stuff in tins), this was back in the early 70's. Mum might have cooked macaroni before that, but certainly nothing savory. The spaghetti came in lovely dark blue paper wrapping, and seemed very exotic.:)

Possession

In the 70s we had macaroni cheese and spaghetti bolognaise. My dad's speciality was curry.

kidcat

princessx - (hugs) losing a family pet is so hard and lots of people dont understand the effect it can have.

Pasta - I never ate at all growing up - my mum has never once cooked pasta for anybody. My dad has never tasted it but apparently doesnt like it he says!