The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

Pooky

Morning all

Jem - I hope you get some answers today on why your son was left in that area all day without you being told. If he'd be more happy in a home invironment then maybe homeEd is the way to go (I seem to think you mentioned it before?) is it worth looking at what home Ed groups are in your area so you can maybe meet up and have a chat with others and see if it's right for your family?

Stiltwalker - I hope having DH home is the relief you need for you and your back. It will take some time to adjust to being together 24/7 but you'll get there. DH and I have been home together now for 4.5 years since his accident and lots of people comment on how they couldnt put up spending so much time together but we love it. (although obviously we'd prefer the underlying cause for it could be different)

Molly - I'm very much looking forward to grandkids too. DH and I haven't been able to have children together and went through a few years of fertility treatment before his accident, whilst I still hankered for a baby for a long time, I've now got to the stage where I'm thinking grandkids would be even better (although DDs, if you're reading.....not yet!)

Fuddle - fab news that the move is going ahead! Hope your new life in a new county will be everything you all want into be

Raining here, but muggy. DD1 is full of cold and won't get up (I don't blame her, half day at college and nearly 4 hours commute for 3 hours work wouldn't appeal to me when feeling poorly either).

Kidkat - I'm going to crochet you a superwoman cape

Molly41

Pooky / Stiltwalker - My husband also works from home a lot as he is my carer and his employers - 3 mobile phones - are excellent as regards their flexible working and give him time off for appointments etc. I miss him dreadfully when he is not there - in fact my illness has bought us closer together - the only positive out of a bad situation. Hope you enjoy your time together x

Wet Molly and Poppy this morning so no snuggles on my bed. She is currently sulking in the bathroom - dont ask me why she is in there?

Very misty and mellow this morning x

PRINCESSX87

Morning everyone.

My back is in total agony. Infact nothing seems to be working at all to ease the pain.
I managed a slightly better sleep - until I moved.

I had some sad news last night.

One of our family dogs (Who lived with my dad ) Rocky the boxer, Died yesterday. No warning, No pre-sickness, Nothing. Just collapsed on the floor. My dad scooped him up & rushed him to the vets, But it was too late. They think he had a heart attack. He was nearly 12 years old, Very much an old boy, But as far as we was all concerned fit as a fiddle.

It’s hit my brothers & dad very hard. As they have had many years of rough play, kick about’s ect. I think the women are going to miss he’s (Only a mother can love) ugly chops!

This is very much the hardest thing a loving owner can go through. Many people just think, it’s a dog ect. He was / is part of the family therefore it feels like we have lost a best friend.

Today I’m having a quite one, Do the odd shuffle around the house.

Hard_Up_Hester

AOT, my son in law has the same sort of arthritis, he changed his diet and take hemp, I don't want to hog the thread so pm me if you want more info, the changes have completely changed his life.

On the subject of grandchildren, my ex MIL was a nightmare with my children, I know she loved them but she was very pushy and constantly criticised my childcare efforts. Maybe because of this I've always taken a step back where my grandchildren are concerned. I do spoil them when they visit and spend time with them 1 on 1. But to be honest I don't love them more than I love my children.
Hester

moments_of_sanity

PRINCESSX87 wrote: »

Morning everyone.

My back is in total agony. Infact nothing seems to be working at all to ease the pain.
I managed a slightly better sleep - until I moved.

I had some sad news last night.

One of our family dogs (Who lived with my dad ) Rocky the boxer, Died yesterday. No warning, No pre-sickness, Nothing. Just collapsed on the floor. My dad scooped him up & rushed him to the vets, But it was too late. They think he had a heart attack. He was nearly 12 years old, Very much an old boy, But as far as we was all concerned fit as a fiddle.

It’s hit my brothers & dad very hard. As they have had many years of rough play, kick about’s ect. I think the women are going to miss he’s (Only a mother can love) ugly chops!

This is very much the hardest thing a loving owner can go through. Many people just think, it’s a dog ect. He was / is part of the family therefore it feels like we have lost a best friend.

Today I’m having a quite one, Do the odd shuffle around the house.

So sorry to hear about your beloved dog. They are never 'just a dog' to the vast majority of people who own dogs. I have 2 and when it's just them and me all day we have some very meaningful conversations.......however, despite several lessons and me talking through the process with them they haven't learnt to make the tea yet! :rotfl:

Just think of all the fun times you and your family have had with your boy and that doggy heaven does exist x

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PX87 i'ts so hard to lose a much loved pet, I hope your family are coping with the grief and that you are OK too.

MOLLY I'm so looking forward to being Oma, little Lentil has changed how I see the world and added a depth I never knew existed. I think life will be so very much richer for having another generation and things like Christmas will have meaning again. If I'm honest they have become just another day as the family grew up. I'm looking forward to easter egg hunts, pantomimes, school nativity plays and harvest festivals, the magic of having the christmas lights turned on and waiting for santa so much of the magic coming back seen through a childs eyes, it's going to be fab!!! Love Lyn xxx.

jem132

Fuddle do you have a recipe for the syrup please.

I was speaking to thee head and she says home ed would not be good for him as he wouldn't have enough social interaction.

I've got a meeting at 11 with the other mum and school her child was in the same situation at the other end of the building as they say they formed an alliance and ran off so had to be separated yesterday today they are back in separate classes why they couldn't of done that yesterday??? We have to be there when they meet??? I do know. This mum she lives near me!!

maryb

Molly41 wrote: »

I was once asked by a very silly woman, when I was expecting my fourth baby, how I would find the ability to love my fourth child. I told her that love is like sweet peas - the more you pick it, the greater and sweeter the blossom. Im very much looking forward to Grandchildren (if my children are blessed with their children). I do think I became a midwife because of my love of babies - such a miracle of life x

I remember worrying when I was pregnant with No 1 if I would be able to love the baby enough. Then with No 2 I worried that I couldn't possibly love another as much as I loved DD1. Then I realised they bring their own love - and I was too old by then for any more- DD2 was a late miracle as it was when I was pushing 42

alfsmum

Morning Peeps, another dull start here but yesterday turned into a beautiful day so here's hoping we get more of the same.

PX87, so sorry about your dog but sounds as if he passed away quickly and painlessly after a long life in which he was well loved. Also sorry about your back. One exercise I was given always seems to help| lie on your back, draw your knees up and grasp them with your arms to cuddle them to you, then gently rock side to side. Seems to stretch everything without putting any weight or pressure on the offending parts.

POPS and anyone else poorly, hope you are feeling better. Fuddle's elderberry mix sounds great and there are loads of berries about at the moment.

MONNAGRAN, go easy on the plums! I stewed a load at the weekend and am cautiously working my way through a dish a day with a generous dollop of yoghurt. Can't bear to waste them but dread the results of eating too many :rotfl:

MRSLW, try not to combust with excitement before little Lentil arrives. My DDs are 16 and 18 so it will be a while before we hear the patter of tiny feet. Not that we'd mind a surprise grandchild but they both want to complete their studies and enjoy their freedom for a while yet. Dd18 is already planning her household for herself and the lovely BF and wants a kitchen full of red utensils. It will be a while until that comes to fruition as she is a student nurse and he is a council apprentice. Seems like only yesterday she was starting primary school and playing with toy kitchens!

Trying to be very OS these next few weeks and work our way through the contents of the freezer as it desperately needs defrosting. Didn't help that I found some frozen yoghourt at less than half price in Mr T's clearance freezer yesterday. Managed to jam it into a drawer. There were several more pots so if they are still there today or tomorrow, I may succumb.

Happened to see a bit of old newsreel on TV last night, showed a bunch of folks tucking into bowls of pasta. Some of the folk were senior citizens and the footage was probably from the fifties or earlier so I asked DH if his Mum ever cooked him pasta when he was growing up in the sixties and seventies as I certainly never had pasta, pizza, curry, any of those foods which are now so run of the mill. He says his Mum hated cooking so it was mostly beans on toast, Heinz tomato soup and variations on roast dinner. I must have been in my twenties before I tried pasta. Anyone else the same or was I deprived?!

nuttyp

Forgot to post earlier, tomorrow should be ALDI voucher day in the mirror newspaper. Don't forget to get 2, one for tomorrow and then next Thursday shopping. I will 'try' and get all the stuff that can be stored for the month.