The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

stiltwalker

Evening all - welcome back PIC, Shegar, hugs lovey. Same to anyone else who needs one.

Both my parents came down today, they were going to stay til after lunch but ended up staying til DH finished work as DS was a poorly boy (yucking up! but seems fine now, fingers crossed). My wonderful mum did all my ironing (and there was a mountain load as I've not been keeping up with it for weeks), while I started on the kitchen. The house has just descended into tip-dom in the last few weeks and months while the kids have got harder and harder to sort. Today I have cleaned out both fridges, cleaned the oven and the hob and scrubbed the sink - good start to sorting the place out - once DH finishes on Tuesday we are both going to have a concerted effort to get organised but at least I feel that I have made a start.

Ok, take care all - X

jem132

gaily well done for seaming positive and well done to your dh for getting the job x

kidkat you really are super woman lol

well today has been a positive day iv had enogh of ds9 real school they sent him to a special unit for his needs and it seams they have abandond him there .other kids get transported there and back by there own school he does not they have not been to see him or anything so i have decided to look for the boys a new school he has made me promise i wont send him back there .
he will have his statment in a few days stating he can remain in mainstream the support and i can name any school i want him to go to and they have to take him apparantly ??? so i need to find a school with a place for year 3 for ds7 .that will be my task for next week .

me and dh have made our second trip to ikea in as meany days but have finaly started our kitchen regig for a fraction of the cost of a new one yay .

i will finish it tomorrow

had a strange note from the postman one of those cards was posted threw my door when you have a sighn for letter

it said to owner/occupire
address
letter to sighn for marked urgent


who would be sending me letter marked urgent to sighn for but not addressed to us i find it very strange .????????

meanmarie

Black dog has been on my back for the last while, just couldn't do much this week so haven't been reading....has taken me 2 hours to catch up.

Hugs to all of you who are in trouble and strife for whatever reason, I have no excuse for being down, which makes me feel guilty as well.

Kidcat, I can never understand how you manage to do so much.

Gailey...nice to see you back, although sorry that you have had a bad time, glad that Mr G has got another job, hope that it works out well for him.

Shegar....another one who amazes me....I don't think that I could handle half of what you do, hope that you can have a good rest last week.

Stiltwalker....hope that both of you being at home will make your life so much easier.

The Alzheimers has now kicked in and I can't remember who else I meant to mention....reading 15 pages meant that I forgot half of what I read.

Sleep well and stay safe everybody.

Marie

burtha

hi.. wow all of you have managed to do so much today, puts me to shame ...haven't the energy or the pain issues sorted yet and its sooo annoying , always have been too independent for my own good so finding it hard to take any help.... house looks like a tip , had no kitchen for 4 weeks then just as it was all coming together had car smash, so still living out of cardboard boxes , got to the point now that I just don't care, DH has been off today :jso he fixed in dryer ,cleaned woodburner /flueliner and did ds10 school run ,so I only had to do dd11 school run ( cheaper than £450 bus pass !!) ....first physio apt made today for early next week ,so looking forward to that, need to get back to work asap ....sorry I sound like a total wimp

mcculloch29

Hello all,

Just a quick pop - in, gosh some rough times for many. Time to count my blessings too.

Burtha, goodness, you were in a car smash and injured, you need physio, what's wimpish about that?
I would rather be the one helping than being helped also, but life is what it is. I hope you continue to recover and are able to ask for assistance if it's needed. Another NE located Toughie, I see.

I have got another p/t post working from home, for the same company as I tutor for, but in a different role.

Just a few hours a week, but certainly welcome.

ginnyknit

Burtha give yourself time to heal and as long as things are getting done it doesnt matter who is doing them. these bus passes are ridiculous, your not the first to mention hundreds of pounds costs.

To all in need hugs a plenty, too many to mention but my thoughts are with you.

Had a stupid couple of days where simple tasks have been made difficult by ineptitude by others. Had a script with an addition unsigned and it was issued by one of those travelling caravan medical centres which has now moved 30 miles away, after several phonecalls by Oh (he was home, I was at the chemist clutching the script) and by the pharmacist we got it sorted. other than that everything I have tried to do to be efficient has been thwarted but I will not be beaten :mad: This weekend is going to be a thing of peace and calm, I am determined as its all wearing me down now. We have the big day this week of Oh's emergency MRI results so need to keep him stress free and hope for the best.

gailey_2

monnagran wrote: »

Oh Gailey flower, You have had a tough time and you've been so brave. I bet someone's told you that you are a strong woman and will survive. That used to make me very cross. When you are in overload the last thing you want to be is strong. What you really want is to be weak and frail and have someone wrap you up in a blanket and look after you, right?

Well, as soon as you get the opportunity wrap yourself up in a blanket or quilt, make yourself cosy and imagine all your friends on this thread gathered round you, holding you close and supporting you - and feeding you sips of gin, or at least cups of tea.
This goes for you Kidcat and SQ, and Jem, and Nutty and anyone else who has too much to bear at the moment. Just know that you are held close in our arms, our thoughts and our hearts. All of you.

AOL: I was so sad to hear of your problems with your DS. I can empathise with you as I have had difficulties with my own DS1. He only seemed to contact me when he wanted money and I can't remember the last time I had a birthday or Mother's Day card from him. Things got very bad and I suddenly thought that if it was any other relative I would have done my best to cut them out of my life and get on without them. So I laid the law down to DS1 and told him exactly how I felt and that if he didn't feel like behaving as a good son then I was done with being being a good mother and I would not be having anything to do with him in the future unless things changed. I surprised myself and really shocked him. I won't say that things are peachy now but they have certainly improved. I'm not suggesting that anyone else does that, I felt like the worst mother in the world but he is an adult now with children of his own and probably had never considered how his behaviour was affecting me.
So AOT, you are worth much more consideration than you are getting and my feeling is that instead of waiting for your DS call the shots about when he will and will not see you, you should take the power back into your own hands and make your own decisions about not seeing him or getting into contact with him. Try not sending cards at Christmas or birthdays and if he asks why, tell him. It's not easy but you should be doing the ignoring, not being ignored. You have done your bit for him and if he can't be grateful at least he should be civilised and polite.
There. That's the bossy part of me. Feel free to ignore me!

x

Thanks for kind words too true.
Its toughh being the strong positive one.
I felt entitled to be bit mopey and bit somber this month been stressful month with no so great conclusion and not so great safety net. we fallen far dident have any protective gear as dident expect this feel vunurable and exposed.

Feel bit like ma boswell in bread with out cheating hubby, cash in the bread bin or moaning abour r avril or billy,

Im pleased hes got job just still worried about short term and how we get by on reduced salary,

Also worry until he starts about references.

burtha

thank you....hopefully this is short term only , too used to running around like a headless chicken so standing still is unheard off I take my hat off to anyone who is dealing with long term health/other problems ... better go and take the little dog to bed, her snore's is worse than DH

Popperwell

Sleep Well Burtha...:)
I've to get ready for a long journey to Alnwick...am charging a camera so I can take images whilst there tomorrow and composing a blog entry about the concert I saw of The Osmonds tonight. They were ok but I hardly saw any of it because people did not stay in their seats and blocked the view for many of us so I was disappointed.

In many ways I would've been better staying at home...:(

savingqueen

Morning all

think will separate my post into mini*-posts as can't remember everything lol!

shegar - so sorry to hear about Rosie's health and possible visit to the vets, such a difficult decision to make. I want to say more but can't seem to find the right words. You've not had it easy lately have you with your health and your DH's. Hugs to you all. Have to say though your posts do make me laugh, you do have a way with words. Keep on keeping on...

nutty - well done on getting through the disciplinary, not easy. How they could possibly consider taking any action against you when your colleague with alcohol problems is the real issue. I wonder if they are just going through the motions, "telling you off" so to speak because someone said they should and no better reason. I think all will come good for you, shame we don't have a crystal ball to show you. Glad your mum and DD got off on their holidays.

Pooky -we have a dehumidifier (and an awful condensation problem) and it produces buckers of water. I get a strange sense of satisfaction/fascination watching it fill up. Thinking about buying a second smaller one for downstairs, we really need it and I shouldn't really be carrying the current one downstairs, not supposed to do any heavy lifting (ever )

* I use the term mini lightly

sq:)