The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

Popperwell

Afternoon All,
Lots of trying times...but for the grace...

AOT I could have taken more images at the concert and wish I had. Unlike theatres the centre and performers were happy to give permission for me to take them. I don't interfere with others who watch and never use the flash. Its all publicity.

It takes approx 30 mins for me to get to Coxhoe and because its the same distance from Tyneside to the centre it could be a half way house...and we may see more performers from further North which would take me over an hour to travel to and I would have difficulties with buses.

I was sorry to hear your trip away had made you sad. So many of us carry such personal hurt. I hope there is some way this can be released and the pain lifted.

NuttyP, good news about Mum and her holiday, much deserved. As for your problems at work, am tempted to say "Unbelieveable!" Now we hear that the person was not "Under Age" you could go the other way and say to avoid future investigations you will ask everyone for proof of their ages. But you are good enough to be used/called in at short notice when they have problems and are short staffed as in the member of staff who is more of a problem at present.

With all the troubles I don't want to go on about my times where things seem to be going ok(I'm sure something will put a spanner in the works)I just wish some good times for you and yours wherever possible. We all need some good things in our lives even if its something simple like was mentioned earlier about giving a car park ticket that still has time on it to another driver.

I'm getting ready soon for my concert with the Osmond Brothers Jimmy, Alan and Merrell.

Then my looooong trip to Alnwick tomorrow. The last really big day out I suspect this year and my longest to date, quicker by train but I'll save money on the fares and that will either mean the day is inexpensive or I have money that can go towards the special foods on sale from local food producers and as it is so far North there could be stalls of those further North that do not come down my way.

I just hope that the weather is kind...as we have been promised.I will take my knapsack and shopping trolley just in case there are some goodies I can bring home with me.

monnagran

Oh Gailey flower, You have had a tough time and you've been so brave. I bet someone's told you that you are a strong woman and will survive. That used to make me very cross. When you are in overload the last thing you want to be is strong. What you really want is to be weak and frail and have someone wrap you up in a blanket and look after you, right?

Well, as soon as you get the opportunity wrap yourself up in a blanket or quilt, make yourself cosy and imagine all your friends on this thread gathered round you, holding you close and supporting you - and feeding you sips of gin, or at least cups of tea.
This goes for you Kidcat and SQ, and Jem, and Nutty and anyone else who has too much to bear at the moment. Just know that you are held close in our arms, our thoughts and our hearts. All of you.

AOL: I was so sad to hear of your problems with your DS. I can empathise with you as I have had difficulties with my own DS1. He only seemed to contact me when he wanted money and I can't remember the last time I had a birthday or Mother's Day card from him. Things got very bad and I suddenly thought that if it was any other relative I would have done my best to cut them out of my life and get on without them. So I laid the law down to DS1 and told him exactly how I felt and that if he didn't feel like behaving as a good son then I was done with being being a good mother and I would not be having anything to do with him in the future unless things changed. I surprised myself and really shocked him. I won't say that things are peachy now but they have certainly improved. I'm not suggesting that anyone else does that, I felt like the worst mother in the world but he is an adult now with children of his own and probably had never considered how his behaviour was affecting me.
So AOT, you are worth much more consideration than you are getting and my feeling is that instead of waiting for your DS call the shots about when he will and will not see you, you should take the power back into your own hands and make your own decisions about not seeing him or getting into contact with him. Try not sending cards at Christmas or birthdays and if he asks why, tell him. It's not easy but you should be doing the ignoring, not being ignored. You have done your bit for him and if he can't be grateful at least he should be civilised and polite.
There. That's the bossy part of me. Feel free to ignore me!

x

PRINCESSX87

Thank you Lyn.

I was so ashamed to say anything on here. Although its not directly an issue with us. Our little family unit. But I am very protective of OH.

OH brother is always in trouble one way or another. His parents found that out the hard way when he was younger. (Something medically wrong I believe) But what angers me is the "OH brother does no wrong" attitude. :mad:

He is an adult now & and has only himself to blame. We've decided to keep our distance from it all. We don't need the stress of other people's worries. We have enough of our own. :rotfl:

paidinchickens

Hi peeps

Long time no see. I have been lurking though.

I think something must be in the air as having a sh1te time here as well.

Gossips seem to be in full swing round our neck of the woods at the moment. I wish they knew what harm they cause people, especially the weak and vulnerable.

I stood up for a certain person recently who has been slandered beyond belief and now the "click" avoid me after confronting them :p long may that continue :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

One in particular could be rented out to the council as a gritter she spreads so much

Oh well hey ho it will be them on the receiving end one day so they will know how it feels.

Problem is when your up to your neck in your own problems it saps what little strength you have doesn't it ????

Will go into our troubles another time as I think I've moaned enough already :rotfl:

I'm trying to be a Worzel at the mo but the only problems is I can't find my focused, organised or cleaning lady head anywhere :rotfl:

Seriously we have no choice but to pull in the belt as the bills have just stacked up. Phhht £399 school bus pass I would be better off sending him to school via !!!!!! Turpin.

Our plan at the moment is to work through the freezers as some of the stuff in there must have been in a while ............ while = a year or two :rotfl:

Off to pop onto the pet site to see where the cheapest dog food is at the moment we stock up when A1di have their £5 off £40 and at £6.99 a sack it's the cheapest I can find.

PiC x

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PX87 sweetie, I'm not one to judge anyway, none of us are, people have things happen in thier lives that are difficult to deal with let alone share, it's really a brave and courageous step to actually tell us what is a hard thing to put into words. I'd be less of a person if I couldn't hold out my arms and say it isn't anyones fault, all you need is to be cared about and hugged and made to feel safe and secure even if the arms are a long way away, you know the feeling is there for you and anyone else who needs some TLC and soothing words. We really are all here for each other and we do all of us care when one of our number is distressed and world weary, it's only right to try to help carry the load a little if we can, so never feel ashamed of what happens, we care about you too, in equal measure to everyone else who's having problems and events in life that make them unhappy!!! Chin up pet, Love and Hugs Lyn xxx.

Popperwell

Going to admit that I still do not always pay attention to the dates on some of the food I have because I believe in the look, smell and taste test but that if well cooked and piping hot many nasties can be killed off so I understand your using items 1-2 years old...

The bacon I used last night was fine but the date said best before 25th March 2013. I'm still here.

I am old enough to remember when food did not have dates on it and you used common sense.

PRINCESSX87

I think the problems these days are: Everything is so P/Cand full of worry.

I was speaking to an elderly neighbour a few weeks back andshe was telling me how food & food prep was so different 50+ years ago.People couldn’t afford to waste food / money therefore if something was out ofdate so to speak, but the taste test proved okay it was consumed.

jackel

hi gailey keep peddling - it's all up-bank but you will get there.

hi everyone else who it sems have troubles which are unsurmountable - you keep peddling too.

hi to all of you who are giving helpful advice - you are all a great lot and deserve all the luck in the world.- jac x

shegar

Pooky wrote: »

Well done Mr Gailey! Clever boy!

I seem to have spent a fortune today, DD1 picked a sensible coat though and sensible boots! I got boots for DD2 too and new slippers for everyone. My hair dryer went fizz, fizz bang this morning with a puff of smoke too so another expense!

My dehumidifier arrived yesterday and I plugged it in for 2 hours to see what it was like...got just over half a pint of water out of it!!!!! I was shocked as we don't get condensation. I got it mainly to help dry the washing and help take the moisture out of the bathroom after we'ved showered. Its only around 4.5p an hour to run but I will only have it on during the day and our solar panels will provide most if not all of that cost

You can get a cheap £5 hairdryer from Tescos.......................

Well done on your dehumudifier, I had years back in my damp council house , when I had the boys small.....We didnt have heating, just an open fire and I use to dry my washing in front of the fire evenings so that the clothes horse didnt take the heat away during the day............

It was brilliant , made the place feel dryer and not damp.......They say if you open all internal doors it will pull the damp/water out of a 3 bed house and it did that ok, before I had the machine my metal framed windows dripped with water in every room but that soon dried all the windows up, you will appreciate that in the coming months.............................

MONNAGRAM....Brilliant post, enjoyed reading your kind words of comfort....

Put hubby to bed at 6 , got 2 days left then ive got a week on my own, wow I need it badly.............Nights are pulling in fast , but its still very warm..............Sheila

Mrs_Chip

Good to see you back, PIC, sorry you are another one with the pooey end of the stick ATM .

Well done Mr G!

I put some mealworms down this afternoon, just to check, and they disappeared. The Shrew 3 showed itself, so just before I wend for a bath I put the trap down again. When I came back about 15 mins later, the mealworms outside the trap were gone, but nothing inside, or so I thought. I picked it up and opened it over the worktop and Shrew 3 jumped out and went behind the bottles at the back of the counter. So now I don't know where it has gone :mad:.