The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

fuddle

I get to Aldi at about 9.15 and struggle to get a space because all the other Mum's have got there before me, having done their school run. I think Aldi is going from strength to strength. DH himself is a convert, he says the same - how can we not shop there when we're getting so much more for our weekly £40? I walk in there, list in hand, and know I won't stray far away from my budget.

Using frozen veg has been a big money saver here with frozen green beans being adored and scoffed as if they were fresh - the rest (veg not from Aldi BTW) not so popular but they do get eaten.

The nightly 'supper' is also a money saver because it means I can cut right back on the portion sizes and fill them up a treat before bed - also stops DH craving crisps and biscuits while watching TV so now no need to buy them

I'm in a confident and happy place re: my meal plan and finances now and 90% of it is because I can get more for my money at Aldi (even if I have to wait for a parking space )

Popperwell

Yes I am in a different place SQ and though of a sensitive nature(and I'll have my moments)we all do, much more positive, stronger and more my old self.

Don't beat yourself up, you do plenty for others too and sometimes we need time for ourselves emotionally. Want a hug too?

I like to sometimes just take off suddenly but if I was having someone call though I would welcome them, I prefer some warning.

Did I say? I saw Paul Jones of Manfred Mann(60's group some months ago)many of you are too youngwell he's doing a show locally at a community centre(smaller venue)with his wife(cheaper ticket)easier to get home if buses become difficult. But he's on the circuit talking about how important faith is in their lives. I can put up with that.

So that will fill another night in October.

gailey_2

Its weird as you guys know from past.

when going get tough we managed.

but hubby losing his job friday thrown me for six.

payday in 10 days time wont be full amount.

Theres no much we can do this weekend.

so we tried to be jovial.

as daughters birthday tommorow.thankfully had brought some 2nd hand toys, books and clothes last few weeks to give her.

mil was rushed to hospital friday night shes come out today but still needs more help then shes willing to accept.

A person I value as freind has hurt me.

we havent told anyone yet freinds or family cant face it.

told white lie to mum that hes on holiday as he was due to be off next week.

hes got job interveiw tue hoping for best but all eggs i one basket.

tommorow need contact cab , acas , job centre.

He probably be able to get some agency just not sure that makes us worse off.

My gums playing up again need to go dentist but defering as know its going to be costly.

thur all of us bar hubby came down with vommiting bug still dont feel right hoping good sleep tonight make me feel better.

its been crappy few weeks. lady speeding at school nearly knocked over my child at school crossing luckily pulled her back but was scary.

Trying to stay upbeat and positive but finding it hard.

Hopefully tommorow regroup make shopping list, start meal planning .
we have freezer full bread. we have probably another 7day worth of meal solutions.

dident do amageddon shop just been buying reductions every week so store cupboards running low.

next few weeks need to do reduced food budget of £30 a week so going to involve some skill.

we have no savings and were doing well on debt repayments.

this week going to try sell some stuff and hopefully some stuff shifts.

dont think weathers helps rain and cold makes me feel doubly sad.

shegar

Popperwell wrote: »

Remember, my fly spray was 82p in Wilkinsons and I did not pay what the others cost(around £2.50)and its worked fine.

Whilst its up to you all what chemicals you use in your homes , but I will not have fly spray in the home, its dreadful stuff to breathe in:eek:, its full of all bad chemicals............I just get a fly swat and use that , we havent got many flies at all, did have when it was 25 degrees and over.............If they gave fly spray away I wouldnt use it and thats a promise............

Weve had cloud this afternoon but no rain and its not cold ...........Heating wise im ready for the cold weather, hubby is still in lots of pain with his poor back, may have to go and pay private to get some treatment for him ,, Ill give it a week or 2 as yet, sheila

shegar

GAILEY....So sorry to hear of all your problems, just not fair sometimes when everything comes at once, no immediate cash, no savings, ill health , job worries, and now the weather has turned very gloomy....I do hope things turn out better for you soon , also hoped it helped a bit by putting writing your post , you seemed so depressed in your post, try keep chin up, your a survivor girl.........You got loads of good advise and freindship on here.........

Its gonna be dark earlier tonight , need a lamp on pretty soon, hubby been put to bed with painkillers, volturol rub, heat pad, water bottle,:eek:, yet he is still in pain.........:mad:......Sheila

Mrs_Veg_Plot

Hi gaiely

It is nice to hear from you again even if it is bad news. If I remember rightly you were always organised in the face of a crisis. Good luck with hubbys job interview. How is the baby?

gailey_2

Thanks guys.

Im normally good at crisis planning

but last 4 weeks been one thing after another.
just feel tired, busy , lots the fight.

I know I need to take a deep breath and take one issue at a time.

I keep telling myself cant control how others behave but can controls my reaction to it.

This weekend been hard as we all been ill so bit sleep deprived.

Mrs veg plot the baby is 2.5 more little man hes good but still not talking.

Middle child is 4 tommorow.


hopefully she love her elclectic array 2nd hand toys, puzzles, books and jumpers.
eldest is in juniors

ts been mixed day booked in eldest and her mate for b&q kids workshop where they made a hedgehog house was cheap and they enjoyed it so well done b&q.

last few weeks problems with hubbys work just been keeping mind off it.

was summer we dide few free day trips and had lovley time trying to forget out troubles.

But now they back in school and weathers turned motivation is dwindling.

sweetcorn in garden doing well potatoes not so well.

still need to start my kitchen garden

shegar hope you husbands better soon.


im getting early night hot water bottle.

hubby needs some time to prepare for interveiw.

hes bit like me with list where the heck to start as his mums taking up lot of time right now.

He wants to focus on getting a new job.

but need to get legal and benefit advice.
see what plan is with remaining debts.

im sure we will get through this just feels bit raw.

took kids pizza hut kids eat free ordered cheapest thing for 4years olds mini party she loved it and got cheap small choc cake as was cheaper than making one as out of cocoa powder.

So tommorow we will try and be ore postive.

I know i need to lift my mood just not sure how.

trying to be supportive and cheer up hubby and say it will be ok.

kids have no idea.

family and most freinds have no idea.,

been living a lie last few weeks until we knew what was happening.

daft I know but more upset about betrayal of freind as she knows im going through crap time guess times like this learn who true mates are.

fuddle

Evening Gailey. Lovely to see you post on here again but so sorry it's with a worrying set of circumstances.

I lurked in tougher long before I posted and remember thinking that for all your adversities in life you were strong and very self aware. You are one proactive lady! just one day at a time and by doing that you'll wade through it all, sorting and fixing the important issues of the moment.

Stay with us eh? I think, as Sheila says, it's good to get it off your chest in a place that will support you and maybe throw up a strategy or two.

kezlou

fuddle wrote: »

I finished DD's slippers

They are gorgeous, how did you make them?

Glad to hear your mums back home nutty

SQ I know exactly what you mean, i'm the same. Really when your not up to it, your best staying in the house.

Great ds2 is calling me, i'm required to watch primeval.
Back in a bit xx

stiltwalker

Ginny - woo hoo and congrats to the happy couple.

Gailey - good to see you back, sad to see it is in such circumstances, chin up lovey, you are always such a good cope-er,and you WILL make it through!! Remember us being pregnant at the same time back on some long ago tough thread - as it turned out we got a diagnosis of a rare genetic condition for our DD and little man has the same thing. He is now cruising the furniture and climbing everything but still a long way off walking and as for talking, he has a (very)small number of words and some Makaton signs but he'll get there in his own way at some point. His big sis started school this time and she's busy terrorising the parents on the playground in the morning by charging them in her walker!! - The other kids get out of her way but the parents are usually too busy yattering so get rammed!!

The kids let us all have a big lie in this morning so that will hopefully help a little this week. Then we had a trip over to PILs after lunch - only 4 weeks now til they move and MIL is getting in a right old flap. Was thinking though the other day that this is the first time (at 80) that she will have had to deal with the practicalities of a move as previously FIL would have done all the stuff like sorting bills and solicitors so I have to feel for her. He's pretty confused over the whole thing - seems to be regarding it as some sort of holiday! but I guess BIL will have to deal with the fallout if/when the penny drops. The slightly nasty side of me thinks - ha - as he has consistently refused to see or believe us/MIL about how bad FIL is as FIL has always managed to hold himself together for BIL's brief and infrequent visits, once he's down there he will have to see what we have been saying for a while. Will be good to be able to concentrate on our little family without distraction for a while but I just know both DH and I are going to worry that they are ok down there and that BIL and is family are making the effort to go and see them often enough - oh well.

Right, must go and print out the instructions for submitting my end of module assignment then I can finally say goodbye to this rotten module - DH says he'll sort it for me when he gets out of the bath, technology is more his thing than mine, I do words so I'll be writing him a resignation letter to have in his pocket on Tuesday just in case the personnel manager decides to get *rsey about his career break (not an unforeseeable situation). Would rather have the security of the career break, but in the grand scheme of things it would not be the end of the world and would mean he only had to work one more week.

Take care all - hugs where needed or wanted - X