The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

moments_of_sanity

Morning All

I always read this thread (several times a day if I'm honest) and love how you all give each other such wonderful advice and are there for each other.

When I posted recently about having CFS and the possibility that I could take voluntary redundancy you all gave me wonderful advice, telling me we would manage no matter what and as I hated my job so much it was probably for the best.........well I have bitten the bullet and accepted the offer from work to leave. I will get 5 months pay as 'compensation' and am strangely not worried about it at all.

Thank you all so much for your words of wisdom, I feel much calmer since confirming by email that I will accept their offer. You are all my voice of reason! :beer:

floss2

fuddle wrote: »

...Do what feels right but please do the sums over and over before you consider independence. I worry that the good upset people are allowing emotion to cloud their judgement, possibly acting with angered blind sight and dare I say it, a little selfishly?

They are good people with good hearts and I suspect would be very cross with me suggesting that but if breaking away means you have a very reduced income, then I feel they are not thinking about you two as people but more a possession and one they must hold onto regardless.....

I completely agree with this - TBH the sound of people wanting to set up their own branch of the church strikes me as a bit hypocritical - they should be accepting the changes to come, helping and being Christian to you & the Rev, not thinking of keeping "their" Rev to themselves, despite the wishes of those in higher office.

floss2

moments_of_sanity wrote: »

...Thank you all so much for your words of wisdom, I feel much calmer since confirming by email that I will accept their offer. You are all my voice of reason! :beer:

It is sometimes a surprise to realise how much one has been under stress about something and when that thing ceases to be part of ones life the unexpected relief can be quite beneficial!

Hopefully your health will be more settled without the thought of having to go to work in your mind.

moments_of_sanity

floss2 wrote: »

It is sometimes a surprise to realise how much one has been under stress about something and when that thing ceases to be part of ones life the unexpected relief can be quite beneficial!

Hopefully your health will be more settled without the thought of having to go to work in your mind.

I don't think I had realised how much stress it was causing me, it will be sad to leave the good friends I have made behind but I have to do what is best for me and my family

Pooky

moments_of_sanity wrote: »

Morning All

I always read this thread (several times a day if I'm honest) and love how you all give each other such wonderful advice and are there for each other.

When I posted recently about having CFS and the possibility that I could take voluntary redundancy you all gave me wonderful advice, telling me we would manage no matter what and as I hated my job so much it was probably for the best.........well I have bitten the bullet and accepted the offer from work to leave. I will get 5 months pay as 'compensation' and am strangely not worried about it at all.

Thank you all so much for your words of wisdom, I feel much calmer since confirming by email that I will accept their offer. You are all my voice of reason! :beer:

:T yay! Your health has to come first and we'll all be here to keep you company whilst you're taking things a bit easier.

moments_of_sanity

Pooky wrote: »

:T yay! Your health has to come first and we'll all be here to keep you company whilst you're taking things a bit easier.

Thank you, it is going to be very scary though as no idea what I will do once I start to feel better! :eek:

Pooky

Don't worry about that bit yet, life has a way of making its path very clear when the time comes.

I need to go to my Inlaws house to pack up their garden. Their house sale completes tomorrow and all the furniture has gone into storage and they are staying with friends for a few days but didn't have time to sort the garden! (they did but just didn't bother) there's lots of fruit trees in big pots, some fruit canes and lots of lavenders, they only want one of the trees so said we can take what we like. Typically it's rained really heavily over night so I can imagine how heavy and soggy these pots are going to be....nice!

Good luck to all those waiting for GCSE results this morning, DD2 will get her maths, English and statistics results. She's gone to stay with a friend so they can pop into school together, I shall be on tenterhooks until she calls.

fuddle

m-o-s It's great to read that you are feeling positive about the future and you're happy with the direction it's taking you in.

Come on in a play when you come to read. 'tis great company

moments_of_sanity

fuddle wrote: »

m-o-s It's great to read that you are feeling positive about the future and you're happy with the direction it's taking you in.

Come on in a play when you come to read. 'tis great company

Thank you, I do feel very positive. DH was made redundant 18 months ago and has struggled to find work but it looks like he may have a temp (although permenant, if that makes any sense) job within the next 10 days.

I love crafting, especially cross stitch, I can sit for hours stitching so looking forward to have more time for things like that. I would love to have my own craft shop from home so will be giving that some thought but not sure if it will materialise but who doesn't love a pipe dream

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MONNAGRAN and The Rev, you are both sensible and experienced ladies, I'm not going to add to the stress by giving you an opinion one way or the other on your difficult situation all I will say is that with emotions riding high no one involved will be able to step back and look objectively at what is best for either you two or the group of churches involved. People upset by the dilemma you are in will be grasping any likely straw of an idea to try to get the decision they want. The sensible thing would be to wait to see what other position is offered to the Rev and where, also who will be coming to replace her in your parish before making a decision of any kind. I can sit here out of the mele and be calm and detached, not easy when you are in the thick of it. People in the congregation are currently unsettled and distressed, change does that to anyone, however, acceptance and a couple of months to get used to a new person will calm things and stop thier anguish. I'm sure you'll do whatever you feel is the right thing, I don't envy either of you the next few weeks but know I'm always here if you need to say 'it' to someone not involved, and I'll always help if I can, stay buoyant folks, Love Lyn xxx.