The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

Popperwell

I just lost a long post but because my post was blocked. Never happened before so this is a test...

ifonlyitwaseasier

Popperwell, try to post without smilies, it seems to be a MSE wide problem.

Mardywotsit says "hello but i'm stuck and can't post!!"

looks like an issue with MSE not her being naughty or banned


and smileyt says hello (as they ahve the same issue)

kezlou

aw ginny i'm so sorry, i was so selfish whining that i missed your post.

Your poor little boy, what an awful thing to happen. I'm so sorry for your loss (((((hugs))))))):(

ArthriticOldThing

What an awful to have happen Kezlou. I hope you've been able to recover your composure and confidence a bit now. As others have said, lets hope you don't have to be in her company again. The fact that the children all chose you is wonderful. Shows clearly the loving person you must be.

I'm not too good today. Had another very bad night with legs then got a shock when learned that my oldest Godaughter (32) has had a stroke and is in hospital in very bad way. She is paralysed all down one side. I feel so helpless. She lives at the other end of the country from me so I can do nothing but pray for her and her family. Don't really want to do anything at all now.

Will have to go and have some lunch now.

[Deleted User]

KEZ walk to the nearest mirror my pet and take a good look at yourself, objectively and you'll see who we see on the thread. You will see a lovely kind, compassionate, loyal, big hearted, warm and loving woman!!! The best, most supportive and generous Mum and friend there could possibly be, YOU ARE NOT IN ANY WAY RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS WOMANS UTTER BAD MANNERS AND AGRESSION!!! I've put that in big writing because it's very important that you understand it. You were just there, she is so totally in the wrong and so completely out of order I am not surprised that all the children ran to you both to give and get comfort. Bless you poppet, all you did was be there , it probably would have happened whoever was there and needn't necessarily have been you, she would probably have broadsided anyone who took her eye. Don't upset yourself totally, a horrid thing to happen to anyone but so not your fault in any way, we love you just as you are!!! Hugh, hugs and more hugs, Love Lyn xxx.

AOT just read the sad news about your niece and wanted to say that her age is a great help in this situation and the treatments they can give for remedial for stroke victims have advanced so very much of late that the prospects of recovery are very high indeed. My youngest DD is a doctor and during her training spent some time on a stroke ward at the hospital she was working at and was truly amazed and impressed at how much can be recovered by patients these days, the treatments are very effective so be hopeful of a good outcome lovie, it really isn't the sentence it used to be. Please let us know how she gets on, my thoughts and prayers are with you both, Lyn xxx.

Pinkdebster

Thank you all for the crochet advice. I need to do something fairly soon or we will be swimming in granny squares.

I just wanted to give a hug to Kez and Ginny for both your sad days yesterday xxx

kezlou

AOT ((((((huge hugs chick))))

Honestly a friend of mine had a really bad stroke a few year ago and you see her now. Shes an artist, working at uni as an admin, she has always said the hospitals are fantastic and the support now is amazing.


Thank you taurus,lynn and fairy princess

Its hard going through everything and i really do appreciate you reading through my post. I honestly put it up thinking if i post it on here, then it might help me to see it in black and white. If that makes sense.


Fairyprincess my OH is the same, can't satisfy them completely no matter what we do. Sometimes i find just letting them have a rant help clarify the situation. When my OH gets frustrated he feels the needs to point and pick at me about the littlest. Then a few days after everything is back to normal, nothings changed i.e meal plans. He was just annoyed with something.
Sometimes we get hurt by the people we love the most because were the only ones they can truly feel comfortable ranting at.
I know its sounds awful but at the moment i wouldn't change anything, instead leave everything as it is and then chat about it in a few days time when things start to calm down. If that makes sense.


Taurus any time you want to chat hun, i'm here

Lynn still feel awful though, those poor kids seeing me like that.

You know what i haven't done a bio here!

What can i say i'm 30 yr old sahm, have two fantastic children both boys aged 13 and 9 yrs and even bigger child whos 35 yr old :rotfl:
We live in the north east and i do a lot of crafting, im trying to garden but this year failed miserably. Really enjoyed trying though!
My boys have a range of problems from aspergers, asd, add, adhd, dyslexia, dyspraxia, allergic rhinitis,slow development, hypermobilty, very witty and funny

Myself i have suffered from depression since i was about 7yrs old. for years i been able to battle it on my own but i'm at the point where i have to go back to the professionals. I'm clinically depressed so back on medication. I suffer from anxiety and sever panic attacks. As well this i also have hypermobolity and osteoarthritis. OH is a nutter and is on the sprecturm to.

Between us were the odd bunch who love our children being off school. shocking i know. We go off mooch and around places on the off chance. But were traditional in other ways we love home made food, we make the majority of our food and things around the job. Whilst having all the joys of modern technology! I.e my kindle and the pc.

Popperwell

Lets see...
ifonlyitwaseasier thank you for the warning.
In short I guess I was echoing what has been said to Ginny and Kez.

Such sad posts...on the use of a name instead of Mum, I'd say you do what is comfortable and works for you and
yours. I have heard children use the name of a parent instead of Mum/Dad. Some issues to be dealt with there it seems...not sure what that's about.

FPK you work within the income you have and buy the best quality that you can ethically as I do but it helps if you are told what is needed so everyone is happy. Hope your poorly cat is soon fine.

I've called off my plans, the weather is dull, wet and windy. I have a painful back of my right heel when I walk(well even resting it isn't much better)tried some movelat and painkillers so far.

Will try and make do with my game of bingo and a soft drink tonight so will just listen to the radio and perhaps cook a meal later and perhaps get away from salad for once...

AOT Since posting I see you have with your sad news...keep us informed and we will hope for better news.

[Deleted User]

FPK your best starting point in the food planning area would be to establish exactly what your DH would like to eat, that makes life much easier than trying to rule things in to the equation. When you have your list and know what he won't eat it makes it much easier to meal plan. I have a big shelf full of vegetarian, vegan and wholefood cookbooks and will very happily feed you ideas and recipes if you need any inspiration. It needn't cost you a fortune either as most of the vegan food is made with what we would consider basics anyway. If you aren't fully vegan you can cheat a little and use ordinary ingredients and honey. If I can help in any way don't hesitate to ask me, I would love to !!! Cheers Lyn xxx.

[Deleted User]

KEZ honey, the kids saw your hurt and your restraint at not retaliating in kind when you were under considerable duress from the other woman, that is an extremely positive thing for them to understand, an invaluable lesson in this topsy turvey world we inhabit. They weren't upset because of you lovie but because of your being hurt and distressed. You are so sweet to worry about them, they will be stronger for seeing you dealing with a very difficult confrontation in a completely non aggressive way, Love Lyn xxx.