The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

meanmarie

Kidcat....know where you are coming from about homemade versus shop bought cake and pudding, did make a cake some weeks ago but havent got to a pudding yet....will either make or do without and nobody will be in the least concerned!

Fuddle.....so pleased for you you have done so well since moving your family, I trust that you are properly proud of yourself

Feeling tired all the time although I slept well last night, am finding the medication a little nauseating so will be glad when they finish in 3 weeks....by which time I will no doubt have got used to them!

Apparently I am to be fed again soon so will send love to you all, enjoy the rest of your day

Marie

mardatha

Kittie, my husband has had years of angina and 3 heart attacks. His heart's been very erratic lately and he went to the heart consultant last week. The minute the doc read his notes and saw he was on 10mg statins, he told him to up it to 40mg. No pause to think, no reason, no nothing. So he didn't know that hubby had been on 40mg years ago and was ill with it, then got himself fit and the gp cut him down to 10mg.... They are so busy going by the book that they don't even look at the patient's notes - far less the patient!

monnagran

Kidcat: STOP IT! You work miracles all the year, do the work of about 10 people, cope with situations that would make most people weep at the mere thought of it, drive yourself into the ground being all things to all people and then announce that you have failed because you've not made your own cake and pudding. I only made pudding for my Dad and me because no-one else liked it. Until he died he imagined that I had made it. Actually Mr Co-op had made it but he was none the wiser. People will only know if you tell them, and you're not going to do that, are you? And if they know that you have bought them, so what? Nobody is going to love you any less.
Say this out loud every day -"It's OK not to be perfect!" Every day, do you hear?

Steams off into the distance.

x

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kidcat I had a patient once who was running herself into the ground and I told her to start relaxing and to read a magazine, she said `you are saying it is ok to read a magazine` and I said yes, she almost broke down then. Listen to your body, it talks to you but often life gets in the way. Cut corners, we have all done it from time to time. We are not machines, we are very complex humans, lots of systems in our bodies all trying hard to keep us well. Sometimes we just need to rest and sod being perfect. Health first, always

Mar dh`s cardio doc couldn`t understand what we were saying and we couldn`t understand him. We were in there for 20 minutes and he did nothing other than ask a few basic questions and scribble notes. What an absolute waste of public money. I am more and more thinking that health is down to us. Personally I have always thought that and haven`t been to a doc for many years but I also believe that dh is his own person and it is up to him what he does, only now I have to pick up the pieces and get him back into good condition, which I am confident I can do. Already today he is a lot better and I am working on his mind as well as his body

chickens11

Ivyleaf and Kittie Mardather...... Nursemaggie...Meanmarie..Softstuff....Ginnyknit...Monnagran..Ive been on beta blockers for 7 days now, was 2.5 mg a day and im now halfing the pill ....and im on another pill for making my blood less sticky, dr says its the beta blocker thats making me tired , I wouldnt have thought a 2.5 mg pill would have such an effect.........
Ive felt rotten since going into hospital last Monday , I say its either the pills making me tired or my heart is very tired...........
Im waiting for a appointment to come back for the nuclear heart scan , like some of you say it may not show anything........
My foot is doing very well , probaly cos ive been to whacked out to try to walk ........
Im going to spend christmas day at the care home with hubby ,its too far for me to go down there to bring him home then take him back, its 32 miles one way, both my boys in same village 13 mile the other way , and its not right for them to run me about on christmas day as they have young children, any case christmas is only one day , I will get through it..........I will make the best of it, hubby was never a great christmas fan .......
Im now gonna wash my hair and my hairdresser will come at 6.45 and put it into 4 plaits , it will keep tidy for 4 to 5 days then , and I only have to wash my fringe every couple days , one less job to do, I did put a dark auburn in it 2 days before I went in hospital , that usually lasts about 5 weeks although my hair is brown , just love a bit of auburn when the sunshine on my hair...........
Catch you all later, hope you all have a peaceful weekend ....Sheila

gran3

Please, failed because you didn't make your own pud and cake? I'm sorry hun but please see your doctor and tell them exactly what is going on. Tell your OH to book his own bloody hotels , you have enough to deal with. You need help, practical and emotional, please seek it otherwise you will not be in a good place and able to perform the miracles you do with your family. A person can only take/do so much and I think you may have reached your limit.


Please ask for help...................................

silvasava

Arrgh - lost a long post & now can't remember what I said!!

Fuddle- Well done - how great that you have an employer who is recognising your skills.

Sheila - Hugs & do hope things will improve

Kidcat - FAILURE! I DON'T THINK SO You show so much love by trying to do & give of your best. I think Gran3 has it spot on. Hugs Hun

Cold that started last week ended up with bronchitis - antibiotics made me violently sick so 'home dosed' & starting to feel somwhat more human. I had earmarked this week to prepare for overseas visitors with 2 littles arriving on Saturday until Boxing Day - Nothing done yet so b****r it - my homemade goodies will be a bit sparse but no one will starve & the house is warm & cosy I am not going to strress over it.

nursemaggie

Kidcat for as long as this thread has been going you have been trying to work a 27 hour day. There are only 24 and no one can work all of of them.

If you are a failure I don't know what that says about the rest of us. You are crying all the time because your body and your mind are saying enough stop the world I want to get off.

When all your family are grown up and they look back on Christmases gone buy will they remember if you made your own Christmas cake and Christmas pudding no they will not remember the food even they will remember the fun you all had together.

It has taken me 68 years to find that out. cant remember which thread it was one but I have a feeling it was either Kittie, Monna, or GreyQueen that said it.

Do as your body says and put your feet up. Enjoy your family they will be grown up so fast you will wonder where their childhood went. Don't miss it.

Is it worth it for someone who just demands more of you?

Hugs, hugs and more hugs have a good cry and then enjoy some time with your kids. We are all here if you want to talk.

Sheila it does not take a big dose of a statin to knock you out. I won't say what I think of them.

Just got back from the hospital covered in little bruises and puncture marks. It took 8 goes to get some blood from me and then they wondered why my blood pressure was 205/130. I knew I had it all again for the IV for my scan.

I was picked up very early saw the doc at 2pm and got there in plenty of time for my scan. 4 more goes to get a line in for the IV. They are going to phone me as soon as they get the results.

There were chocolates and chocolate biscuits all over the hospital and one porter dressed as a elf. He looked embarrassed.

Softstuff

Kidcat, couldn't stand to see you saying you'd failed because you hadn't made a bloody cake. The things you do each week, I couldn't even contemplate doing and coming out the other side unscathed. And yet each week you get up, carry on and keep doing it. Be kind to yourself, if you want a cake or pud, readymade is fine. It's better than fine if it's accompanied with a nice glass of something and you putting your feet up.

There's times I wish I lived closer to some of you folks, because I'd do what I do with my friend here.... show up with a bottle of wine and a good dose of silliness before seeing what I could help you fix.

stiltwalker

KIDCAT - chick, lovey, poppet (plus a few more affectionate endearments) if you think for just one second that not making cake or Christmas pud is failing well, I'm going to come over and bop you on the nose!! You are a star, and I'm saying this as another mum with kids who are following their own path, I say this as someone who contributes to the wider community of families who are dealing with SEND, I say this as a friend who has never met you yet who cares deeply about your wellbeing. Chill, buy the cake, buy the pud - hell buy the s*dding mince pies as well!! In fact I give you explicit permission to buy Christmas in full stop - I have! I have 4 bird roast arriving on Tuesday from Westin gourmet (including ready made pigs in blankets), I have a veg box plus stuffing from riverford coming on Saturday - the most adventurous I'm going to get is boiling my own ham on Sunday. I *could* have made everything from scratch but I am not perfect and I am not about to burst anything trying to be.


Huge huggles - Hx