The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

camelot1001

Possession - When my children were young they went through a naughty stage of not wanting anything to eat that I had cooked (I think the 3 of them hatched a plan together!). I ended up giving them what they asked for, chicken soup for breakfast if they wanted, cereal for dinner, etc. They eventually got fed up and one of them asked if we could have vegetables again! It is difficult to know what to give your DS, maybe even a couple of digestive biscuits for breakfast, they can't be any worse than some of the cereals.
mrsdwhite - What a horrible time for you, wish I could help.
nursemaggie - It is a bugbear of mine when they ask what your date of birth is, especially when you have already keyed it into the phone! I hope you get logged on soon.

Just had Sunday dinner and I'm stuffed! Roast ham, creamed leeks, carrots, broccoli and yorkies, DD had a baked pot too. Really enjoyed it.

kidcat

Possession we had similar issues when DS16 was at school, it seems to be a teenage boy thing. I think the school dinner set up is not welcoming for alot of kids.
Someone posted a recipe a very long time ago that I made a few times, it was for breakfast muffins things, without flour. They were lovely and froze really well meaning they are easy to get one out when needed. They were a low carbohydrates recipe.

nursemaggie

Hi Mrsdwhite I know you have to tell someone and from experience family either judge or do not believe you.

I expect your MIL judged you and probably not her son. Your DH cannot go on like this seems to me he is working 20 hour days without breaks that is the way for him to get sick. Don't be surprised if he wakes one morning and cannot get out of bed. It will just be his body making him have a rest.

Can he shut the pub if there is no staff. If I was him I would tell the boss I could not open the pub without staff. I would guess your staff are affected by the stress and it is making them sick too. His employer will have to supply agency staff out of their money not yours.

Don't feel guilty it is not your fault. The problem with your DH's job is you had to marry his job as well. Life should not be like that. I know just what you feel. I feel DS could not have done right in our situation. My brother is not speaking to us either because he says I am being stupid it is all DS being too lazy.

He is applying for jobs hundreds of them, even down the sewers which is the last thing he want's to do. He does not even get an email acknowledgement. He just never hears a thing.

Your DH will find another job as long as he does not leave this one before he does. If you have a break you have had it in the job market.

You will be homeless too and be said to have made yourselves homeless. I know it sounds like a trap but you are in one. I hope your DH gets another job before he becomes sick.:grouphug:

nursemaggie

I see my lost post turned up it definitely was not there before.:wall:see I found it.

Softstuff

I can't see a problem with a scone for breakfast Possession. It's quite common in America, but they call them biscuits.

Can't remember if I posted this recipe here, but it's the easiest scone recipe ever. Made and in the oven in less than 5 minutes.
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/paula-deen/cream-biscuits-recipe.html

Add the cream gradually, you might not need it all. They freeze really well too and are delicious with a little cheese melted over.
I also found this recipe recently, which might be ideal for him. I've not made it personally but have made others from her site that have been lovely:
http://thefoodcharlatan.com/2012/02/01/big-fat-crescent-rolls/
She also has a "breakfast recipes" section you might take a look at. I find different nationalities breakfasts far more pleasant myself. My favourite is Turkish breakfast: bread, feta, olives, tomatoes, cucumber, honey, eggs. Far more pleasing than cereal.

MrsDWhite, it's a shame I'm not nearer, I'd come help (experienced, hard working... cheap :rotfl:). Hope the situation improves for you soon.

NurseMaggie, I believe over in Australia, Telstra have the poor customer service crown. Some of the stories I hear about them make you :eek: I think some people in "Customer Service" need reminding what the title means.

SpikyHedgehog

((mrsdwhite)) crossed fingers you can at least have a week of no people off sick so you & DH can get some rest and spend time with DD

Possession, I do not understand why so many high schools are doing away with lockers!

I saw an idea for 'hot pockets' of calzone the other day http://www.thekitchn.com/recipe-spiced-lentil-sweet-potato-and-kale-whole-wheat-pockets-181100 - since these have no sausage or cheese in them, probably not what he wants but the writer says she makes a batch, freezes them and then takes one out to take to college & it's defrosted by lunch time. I know when I've done calzone before, they're pretty sturdy for shoving in a side pocket of a backpack.

I made sure that last year I put the Christmas cards and advent calendars in the small plastic box that fits in my wardrobe rather than in the loft. After having to get the boxes down to find the advent calendars and then having them all stacked in my room from 30 Nov to 24 Dec when we actually decorated...

I had a long talk with DS2's student manager at school last week, and he feels more positive knowing we're all working together trying to help him, and managed to do most of his homework this weekend! Just one piece left to do, and that's not due in till the 8th as that's when his wretched 2 week timetable gives him that teacher again.

He used the computer earlier to do his geography and history, so I wrote all my Christmas cards out as I sat next to him. Most will either be hand delivered or go in the Scouts' Christmas post, but 7 have to be posted and they've all had Christmas stamps on - last years Christmas stamps

fuddle

25 days eh? Oh crumbs!

:xmastree:

So many decorations already up on the way to school this morning. It did make for an enjoyable walk though. Holding off here but my log reindeer (National Trust charity purchase) is peering around the tree in my front garden. He makes me smile looking at me. We don't do outside decorations and because of the UPVC door we can't have wreath so this is our bit of Christmas outdoors.

I have just had a cheese and ham toastie for breakfast (toaster bags are fab!) and I'm not a bit feeling guilty about it as it's along the lines of continental breakfasting isn't it?

I have a date with the ironing pile and then kitchen floor. I will zoom around the house tidying as much as I can in 20 minutes then I am crocheting until the sausages have defrosted.

I am making roast tomato sauce with sausage meatballs and garlic bread but will cook all the bits together as the toms are roasting. Then just reheat and assemble at tea time. Means the oven is only on once then.

We enjoyed our trip to Weymouth yesterday but it was marred by a phone call as we were driving there. Quick run through: sis called on mam to fill in form that I had arranged to stop the bailiff process due to severe circumstances. Mam doubled over with back stomach pain, ashen faced and respitory difficulties. Sis rang ambulance. Technicians needed her to get into the ambulance. Mam refused. Technicians raising a concern to crisis team because of choices she's making/or not able to make, self neglect etc. Sister left as nothing she could do. I called an old teacher of mine, very strong lady, I actually got to work with her for 3 years too. She's now retired and friendly with mam of old. (Mam works in same school as I went to/worked at) Said teacher managed to get into mam's last night and has said to her in no uncertain terms that she will accompany her to the doctors and that because of the state of the house, the crisis report, GP records and community alcoholic team involvement she will be fighting for rehab place. Mam is accepting of this idea apparently but I detect she is submissive because of the strength this teacher has and the respect that she has for her. A group of 3 retired lady teachers are going to gut my mam's home for her. Sister and mam are furious that I have involved other people. I am not too happy I have done this myself but hold my head high because it will either work or it won't. Either way I have tried again to help mam and again, when reflection comes I hopefully won't feel guilt. I will also be able to hold my head high with these people if and when the worst happens knowing that they know I have tried to help as much as I can given where I live. My intentions are to get mam help but also I am wanting to protect myself. I sobbed a lot yesterday. I felt an overwhelming desire to crack and breakdown. I felt tormented and it took a while to get me to calm down. My girls should not have to see their mam like that.

Today I am ok. I will just go about my business waiting for the next instalment. I am relieved to be on a week holiday.

SDG31000

Hello everyone


nursemaggie I am furious on your behalf. At this point I would get your MP involved and refuse to budge until something is done. I would also check the official complaints process and give them h*ll. I really wish you and your DS the best and hope it is all sorted quickly.


Here's hoping for a fully staffed week mrsdwhite

I'm so glad that you have the new car kidcat I hope that your DS2 gets the right diagnosis and all the help he and you need. I think you are a wonder and have no idea how you manage to do all you do. xxx


Possession Could you make up something like breakfast muffins with bacon, cheese, egg in for example and freeze them. I know that The Takeaway Secret book has them in and how to reheat them. My DS1 would never eat breakfast, but would eat some banana cake during his mid morning break. I just kept slices of it in the freezer for him to take when he wanted them. Good luck xxx


Well the SDG house is feeling a lot poorer at the moment, but the vast majority of the Chr*stmas presents are brought. We did a mad rush around town on Saturday. We saved on parking by having to take the car into Kwik Fit for a new tyre. It looks like it needs another two of them fitting as well. Thank goodness it's a company car.


I'm in work this afternoon and have to remember to get DS2 an Advent calendar. He wants a Lindt one as at 15 he doesn't do cheap chocolate anymore. He might have to settle for whatever I can find.


All the elves I knitted on Santa's behalf have been delivered and I know tow of them have been well received. Is it sad that I lay awake in the early hours worrying about them being up to scratch?
I'm now attempting to knit a lace scarf for my friend Emma's Chr*stmas present. I'm going cross eyed reading the pattern and trying to remember what line I'm on. Oh well, she won't mind the odd hole in the wrong place.


I'd better go and do something useful.


Bye for now and much love to all xxxx

juliettet

Possesion, my new favourite lunches are a copy of breakfast 'muffins' I saw on pinterest. They are similar to crustless quiches. Very filling. You make them in bun tins and freeze them. Put in a buttered roll and they are defrosted by lunch. Nuke for 20 seconds if liked.
Also I saw on pinterest arm knitting? Coming from a long line of knitters and crafters this gene has passed me by. Has anyone tried this?

kidcat

Juliettet they sound exactly what I made and are gorgeous.

Softstuff am saving your scone recipe

Spiky I forgot to keep my cards out of the loft this year and am regretting it now, so glad you are getting your son sorted.

Sdg at least you have the comfort of knowing you won't need to brave the shops again, all the shopping centre we were near yesterday were so packed it was difficult to see that anyone would need to shop again.

Fuddle hugs, I hope things work out for you, maybe your mantra for this week needs to be I am only in control of how I feel and can only change me. This should be such a happy time for you and your girls, I hope it settles soon.
As for a wreath we had a upvc door at the last house and we had a hook that stuck to the door to hang out from, it was one of those don't leave any mark type thingies