The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

Softstuff

Just cobbling in a quick hello, had a bad night last night (not so much me, hubby woke with a panic attack - I think having me in hospital is more than he can manage). Have also had to up my painkillers, so am not as lucid.

Didn't want to read and run though. MrsLW, he is a brave lil chap isn't he? I'm sure though he gets his calmness from knowing how much he's loved and cared for.

Paidinchickens- don't panic yet over the blood sugar. Even if it were too high, it is entirely possible you can fix it with just a few dietary changes.

Fuddle, you can't be responsible for your mums poor decisions, nor can you fix what she's doing. Take care of yourself and your family, you're a wonderful caring person which makes it hard to accept when you can't fix something, but some things are just not possible to fix.

I'm sorry if I missed anyone else with worries, but am sending love all round xx

paidinchickens

Fuddle I know this sounds hard faced but from outside looking in I'm glad you are far away because your such a lovely person you would be doing everything if you were on the doorstep and you and your family would have no quality of life.

Of course it will play on your mind my Mother has played so many mind games on me through my life but it doesn't stop the guilty feelings I have even though I'm not to blame. You can't help caring if that's the nature you have.

Wondercollie Thank you. Yes he is on all kinds of meds, I did read statins and inhalers are one of the worst combinations to push up the blood sugars both of course he's on.

The chemist said he was quite concerned as after having porridge with no sweetener for breakfast his sugar levels should be the best they could be so he suspects it goes a lot higher.

Funnily enough about the walking, we have the four dogs and take them out in two shifts (because of devil dog) but I've started taking them myself as DH is getting so slow it takes all morning to get them out. The Arthritis in his knees makes him walk like a deep sea diver but I will make him come with me from now on. It was nice leaving him at home to hoover instead though

Thank you all

PiC x

mardatha

Porridge will knock BG up, it's high carb. The RV can only take a tiny wee plate of porridge made with water and salt, plus cream. If he takes his normal big plate his numbers go high.

savingqueen

Good morning friends

Had a lie in well only an hour but lovely. Done some chores and chilling out with coffee and toast before I get going again. DH, kids, cats (all cuddled up together on the sofa) and I all in the living room and I feel happy with them just being around. DH actually turned off the TV last night after watching our favourite Lewis together and had a good long chat catching up. We do this less and less and DH agreed we need to spend more time just talking together.

Had a call from school office yesterday to ask me to please bring DS10 some pants. He had forgotten his swim bag but had his trunks on under his uniform and his teacher had a spare towel. He had his Halloween costume on and the trousers are those flimsy nylon type things which are shall we say figure hugging in the gentlemen's area :eek:

Hope you and your DH have a better day today softstuff, just chill out.

Fuddle - just to repeat what everyone else has said - you are in no way responsible for your mum and her addiction. You have done all you could in the past and now you are too far away to do much more. Unless an alcoholic wants to change, there is absolutely nothing you can do to help them. Your responsibilities and priorities lie firmly with your girls. The best thing you can do for them is to shield them from the effects of alcohol abuse. My parents did not always do that for my sister and I and I saw things that my alcoholic uncle did that a child should never witness. You have a new life now and deserve to live in peace with your DH and girls. Of course you will worry and wish you could do more - you are human and she's still your mother. Think what advice you would give to one of us in the same circumstances.

Sending positivity to everyone and hope the weekend goes smoothly.

ivyleaf

Nargleblast wrote: »

Fuddle there is nothing more you can do. There was nothing you could do to solve the problem when you were on the scene, so how can you now when you're some 300-odd miles away? You suggested social services. Your sister is an adult capable of contacting them for advice and help.
It is hard, I know, when there is a blood tie and a history, but your work with your mother's problem is over. Your life is in Dorset, and your OH and girls come first. What will be will be, and you have no reason to feel guilty about anything.

Exactly right!

Rosanna79

Just lost a massive post! What a PIA!


Does anyone use Aldee bread flour on a regular basis? This supermarket is literally 5 minutes walk from our house so it's been very handy to be able to get the ingredients for my bread maker so locally and at a decent price.


Today I nipped in as I needed supplies of this and on finding the shelves empty but yeast still there enqyired as to the whereabouts of the bread flours. A rather rude, indifferent young member of staff without stopping to look simply yelled over his shoulder 'We've stopped doing them'!! Is this really true does anyone know and for goodness sake Why?!

Rosanna79

I also found that the only other local shop selling bread flour was our local Tesco Express at £1.81 for a 1.5 kg bag!! I was therefore obliged to drive down to our local Morrison's where I found Allison's only £1 by comparison so grabbed a couple of bags! I was very annoyed by the attitude at Aldee and do wonder if anyone else has encountered 'attitude' when speaking to their staff? Morrison's seems to be making a real effort at present. Isn't this shopping around exhausting- and I'm retired with a wonderful OH who does the main weekly shop for me ever since I was working! Perhaps fighting off a chest infection / having rather troublesome asthma at present is turning me into a grumpy old woman!!

savingqueen

I find the vast majority of Alldays staff very helpful. Its Tosspots that I have found some staff with a similar attitude, although some are helpful and friendly. I think its sometimes just an individual member of staff or colleague as some stores like to call them (might just be me but that gets on my nerves, they are not my colleagues.) Other times its the general attitude probably heavily influenced by management styles and staff policies. Hope you get well soon Rosanna.

nursemaggie

I think a supermarket is make or break by its manager. I do surveys and regularly gave Morrisons a poor rating. About three months ago I gave my local Morrisons the worse report I had ever given them. Annoying as it is only about 10 minutes away.

The next time I had to go to Morrisons (DS usually does the market and Ald! with me as I have difficulty carrying everything. His knee was playing up so I had to go on my own to Morrisons. It was like a different store all together. Clean, tidy, bright cheerful helpful staff, I could not believe the difference. The prices have also fallen considerably. I never have any of the problems I had before they must have changed the manager. If I am on my own I usually find someone is unobtrusively looking after me. I am only going to Ald! once a month now.

I really must go on line and give them a good report and take part in the £500 groceries draw. It would be lovely to win it would do us nearly a year.

shanks77

Just popped on quickly to send hugs to those who need them. To agree with everyone else Fuddle have had unfortunately had a lot of experience in that department and you have done more than enough.
Mrs LW am delighted that there is nothing serious with Docky was dreading reading to the end to hear what the vet said but breathed a sigh of relief when I read the diagnosis. He will have a wonderful life with you spoiling him xx
Am doing overtime tonight why does it always feel like a good idea at the time? Never mind more pennies for the coffers.
Hope everyone is well this evening catch you all later xx