The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

ivyleaf

Big (((HUGS))) burtha, you are allowed to be scared and upset about it all, you know! Don't feel you have to hold it in, we're here whenever it gets too much. I wish I lived near enough to give you a real hug and to come with you when you go for your scan.

So many littlies doing great things atm, lovely to read :T
CornishChick (((HUGS))) to you too. You're doing great xx
so clever of you to make those targets, I wouldn't know where to start. I'm useless at fancy dress so can't advise you there Always hated fancy dress parties.

nuttyp

Morning all, burtha I really feel for you - I know I feel exactly the same about when it comes to myself. I have a tear in my bowel, and my only worry is will I have to have 'bag'. Stupid really. OH has said he doesn't mind as long I can get better.


I have been to the dentist today, I have a new lady who is lovely..... there you go I said a dentist person was lovely. I had to be there for 8am, they needed to replace a filling. it has become sensitive so that's been done. Just have the frozen face, and tongue for the next few hours and the fact I had to pay just over £50...... Both DD are out this morning at a spa, bargain of £15 each and includes a mud treatment. They are meeting me later for a cuppa and a catch up.


We took buddie for his walk this morning and a chocolate lab came running out of a house, so I instantly picked up our baby. He is a tiddler compared to this dog. And the lady just shouted shes ok wont hurt a fly. Now how do you explain to a puppy who is now 3 inches tall, tail between their legs and ready to attach that is friendly. He has no idea he was scared. So I carried him - his poor heart was beating like ive never felt. He even hid his face in my scarf!!
So he came home and had some puppy milk and a big cuddle, hes know destroying his kong toy....... so maybe he is ok.


Take care everyone, will catch up with you laters x

ivyleaf

Tch, was halfway through posting when OH got up so I went to make his coffee, thought I'd get my cereal while i was there, came back and realised i had been mid-post.

Anyway! Welcome Candlelight, lovely to see you on here. It is indeed a nice thread.

(((HUGS))) nuttyp, I have a lot of tummy problems so can empathise. Glad you like your new dentist though Poor little Buddie! It sounds as if he's getting over his fright now though.

ginnyknit I hope OH's eye doesn't feel too bad this morning, poor chap

Savingqueen Glad you had a quiet weekend! you must all have been so tired with all you've had going on recently.

kidcat - Good luck with finding the right car for you x

monnagran -Missing your posts, but I suspect you're very busy Hope you and the Rev are well.

Have to take a pair of trousers back to Evans today. They are comfortable, and a good fit round my waist, but I've regretfully decided they really are too wide across the hips. They're cut to fit a pear shape - I can only conclude that I'm more of an apple than a pear these days! I think the next size down would be uncomfortable round the waist after I'd had them on for a while.

Nargleblast

Burtha - arrange a date for that scan. Then you will.know what you have to deal with.

nuttyp A colostomy bag is no big deal. Think how you clean yourself after going to the toilet. Some kind person moves the hole round to the front where you can see it more easily. And because you would no longer have the ring of muscle to retain your waste products, a bag is necessary to prevent a messy situation. And you would soon get used to managing a stoma, and be able to get on with your life. Who knows, you might not even have to have a stoma, it depends on what they find when they operate.

savingqueen

A good morning to one and all

Burtha, you know we will all nag you relentlessly until you make that appointment so best do it asap! it will play on your mind until you go anyway so deep breath and go and get it over and done with. I am so proud of how you cope and cornishchick you too. There are some incredibly brave and inspiring people on this thread, makes my worries seem so teeny and indeed they are in comparison.

Nutty - you are another incredible woman. I know several people who had stomas fitted, some were temporary and others permanent. Yes of course they need getting used to and do change your life a little but if they solve an awful medical problem they are well worth it. Everyone I know who had one found the stomas didn't interfere much with everyday life (and in fact gave them a better quality of life) and no one knew they had one unless they choose to tell them. You may not need one anyway or just a temporary one while the op heals.

Oh and well done at the dentist! So sweet how you look after buddie, I can see him cuddling in to you!

We have lovely weather here, makes me feel so much happier when the sun is out Have the towels on an economy hot wash, takes about 3 hours! Then we will pop to the shops, need some basics and a trip to the pet shop for flea and worm drops. DS7 loves going in there - as do I as they have bunnies and other little furries and lots of fish tanks. DS10 moans if we take too long in there... a stereotypical tweenie!

Baking also on the cards. After not wanting to bake/cook for ages, both boys are keen to get in the kitchen. DS10 helped me make sweet and sour chicken last night and was a genuine help. Only thing was the rice got neglected as it all took so much longer and it overcooked.

Best go, promised DS7 the use of the PC as he needs to do some research for school work.


take care everyone x

burtha

Thank you ,just a wobble ,so much going on and to many balls to juggle ...feel a bit like I want to be that scary 2year old who throws themselves on the floor in a paddy screaming why me ,...but in fear of the men in white coats coming to get me I better not lol .so normal service will go on
So going to spend the day sorting bedroom's ,the excitement ,have just filled up the bird feeders ,the birds are almost as bad as the kids carnt seam to fill them up either , had to have strong words with the chickens too told them to get there act together and hurry up and give me more eggs :rotfl:
On that note better go dd reqesting egg sandwich lol x

FairyPrincessk

Morning all,

So many of you being so brave through so much. When I had very serious medical difficulties about ten years ago I used to try to focus on not worrying about what hadn't happened yet. It was nearly impossible sometimes, especially when awaiting results, but on other days it helped me to remember to focus on what I have now. No matter what happens tomorrow, today is one of my precious days. Hugs to all of you.

I had a nice and pleasant weekend. I got some sewing done, a bit of cleaning and had a clear out of work papers. I now have a pile of scrap paper that is about 20 inches high. Some of it may have to be recycled before the wrong side of it is used as I'm not sure I can get through that much!

Can't remember what tea is tonight, but I suspect it might involve taking something out of the freezer so must check when I go down to hang the wash out. I made one of the chocolate cakes from one of the M Patten books last week. It is just about gone. It was better with a hot drink, otherwise it was a bit dense iyswim, but it filled the hole. Must decide what to bake this week. I finished the Nella Last book--it was an excellent read. Her ability to take what she had and make a lovely life out of it is inspiring.

A good friend is coming to stay with us over part of next weekend, so very much looking forward to that. He has just moved to a new town and his partner has been messing him about for the better part of a year now, so I think some comfort food and a gathering of good friends is in order.

Unfortunately the friend I had a break with a few months ago has gotten in touch again. She sent me a very long letter saying she didn't want to talk about the problems but inviting me to a gathering she has every year. She then followed it up by very publicly inviting me in a group email. I've not discussed the break with anyone, although I'm sure people have noticed, so I feel it was a little off for her to single me out amongst the many people invited. I don't feel comfortable going, and I feel she is trying to stir things up. I've politely declined to just her and am hoping that keeping things polite and simple will allow us to keep things quiet but cordial. If anyone else asks why we aren't going my OH and I have agreed we will just say we have other plans and keep it at that. I don't know if I'm doing the 'right' thing or not. I know we both made mistakes in our friendship and I know I did my best to make amends. I also know that I'm not willing to revisit the past anymore, maybe that is harsh but I feel I've given it my best shot and its time to move on.

Right, best get that washing on the line and get back to my writing.

ginnyknit

Burtha, you are allowed to rant and rage here or just get stuff off your chest hunny. Keeping it in is bad - ask me how I know - its really bad for you! Be angry at the tumour :mad: We will be here for you all the way x

Cornish you made me giggle over the beef burger

Oh's eye isnt looking too bad considering the knock it took.

Am just waiting for the plumber to come and fix by immersion heater :jthe electrician that answered the emergency call was aamazing, she rang round on Friday night and tried everything to get the new element bless her. I will not give in and go onto gas like the rest of the estate, I have been all electric for over 20 years and dont need the upheaval apart from anything. The immersion is like a huge vaccuum flask and was last working Thursday night - dgs got a bath on Saturday night from it and its still lukewarm today.

hugs to all

shanks77

Morning to everyone hope you are all well.
Camelot welcome hope you enjoy yourself here there are a lot if wise, brave, funny and strange people on here so am sure you will find a place for yourself.
Bertha everyone has a wobble now and again and in your position I am not sure I could face it with the same dignity and bravery that you have shown so if you want to shout, kick and scream go right ahead there will always be someone here to hold your hand and wipe away the tears xx
I am still on hols this week so enjoying the rest. Got my kitchen painted while I was away (by my ex so still OS) so got it back in some order. Catching up with housework and friends and have a washing load on as we speak. I stupidly stepped on the scales this morning :eek::eek::eek: not sure who screamed louder me or the scales so on the diet wagon I go wish me luck.
Catch u all later xx

fuddle

Burtha the unknown is always worse than the known sometimes huh?

Lyn the SC book arrived over the weekend. Thank you so much. Real, good basic home cooked recipes and an education on what the SC does and needs to be successful. It has a moussaka adaptation and I have my eye on the celery soup as I will have some left over from my stew later in the week.

Thank you for the feedback re: the wool. I will take a pic later (I have a house to get ready for the inspection tomorrow) and carefully wash it. One of the lady's I visit had her daughter over from America. She homesteads and teaches spinning/drop spinning/natural dying. I am really inspired to be honest.

I finished my crochet cushion cover during my breaks this weekend. I am really pleased with it. Its to go on our bed. 100% lambswool and earthy brown. It will go with my plaid blanket.

We made the fudge this morning. I went down the condensed milk route and did it in the pan. I read you could test readiness by putting it in iced water so we did that. Such a success. We can't believe it :rotfl: hand made christmas gifts on the cards for those who will appreciate them.

Two of the youngest carers (very funky kids) have taken up crochet! I no longer have to hide my projects in the car for fear of 'old fuddy duddy' name calling. I'm not used to being fashionable :rotfl:

SC has the gubbings of fajita's in today. I'll just slather some salsa on tortilla's and fill with the mix this evening. There will be enough for DH to take some to work tomorrow.

Right, must shift myself. I think I need to wander over to flylady. I think it might help me make a cleaning/room rota to keep on top of things.