The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

paidinchickens

Hot and muggy here.

I promised no longer than an hour at the lottie today, good job as I was too hot to do much. I've then been putting Cinderella to shame in the housework department.

Where does all the dirty laundry come from :eek:

I hope you all had a far more interesting day than me

PiC x

nursemaggie

Where has everybody gone. You all seem to have been rushing round today even if at home.

I will apologise first think this will be long.

I won't list every ones names as there are too many of you. I am half nearly half way through
this thread and I want to thank you all for what you have either taught me or reminded me of.

Went for a hospital appointment this morning stupid new Doctor referred me to the wrong clinic.
I have to go South of Manchester going to be further than The Christy which I went to yesterday.
I wish GPs were geared up to re-referring new patients to the same sort of clinic they have been
going to for the last ten years. They just refer you to the consultant you will never see again
and it takes six months to sort out. It has taken 4 months to get this far.

As I was out and in the right area I went to B&M. Not had one of those before I saw it when I was on the bus
a few weeks ago. It was brilliant. I bought quite a lot of none food so I have not sorted the
receipt yet. I spent just over £30 I think on foodstuffs most much less than half the price in
any of the big SM. Wish I had gone last week they had jars of mincemeat for 10p. DD, SIL and DGS
are over here from Saudi.They love mince pies and can't get mincemeat in Saudi.

They came on Tuesday. They don't have times to come again too many people to see. Can't make them
any now.If my mother was still alive I would have bought her 10 jars my dad could never never get
enough mince pies he ate one every day of his life, apart from when he was a baby and during the
war.

I spent nearly £20 on yarn got enough for 3 cardigans two waistcoats and lots of things for Xmas
presents. Got some with extra knocked off because they were minus their bands and and unravelled
a bit. They're 300g balls so I don't need the same dye lot. I did not tell them that though.

Anyone who lives near a good market (more than one veg or butchers stall these are the sort of
bargins I have had lately. 17 chicken breasts for £10 most big breasts so able to make 10 meals
out of them. I have hundreds of recipes I can make out of a couple of chicken breasts and DS will
happily eat chicken every day if I give him it. 1650g back bacon £6. It is really nice bacon. Bacon
will always add an extra something to nearly any meal. 2 large chickens did us dinner for 5 days
added 2 slices of bacon to the last one for chicken and bacon pasta bake.

The veg is fresher, a bigger choice and cheaper even than Aldi. First time I went I got two huge
cauli for £1. Froze one and they lasted me 4 weeks all together. We eat quite a lot of cauli. I got 6 large peppers for £1, 1500g cherry toms of £1. Best to go towards the end of the day.

burtha

Hi
SQ glad your school know how to do things right, the end of year play is one of my problems at the minute, ds is leaving next week ,so after lots of problems ,our sch is going down hill very fast thanks to the new head ,there is a couple of kids including Ds who are not in the play ,he did ask for a part but only the chosen kids ( 2 teachers kids and the normal 3 others) got the main parts ,most of the other kids if they were lucky got 1line each, Ds was just going to be a stage hand ...again ..... Just so mad at sch ,all kids should have be encouraged to take part ,even if they only come on for the last song ,D's wanted to do it ,but as he is not a star pupil ,he was just forgotten .....they do a leavers year book and his name in not even in it ....you would have thought he must be a horrid child ,but he's not ,he has just leaned to become wallpaper,not be naughty,not be super bright therefore teacher will not notice me ....he has never had a day of sick since the day he started ,just turns up and gets on with it ,hasent any real friends in his class ,happy to mix with lots ,but keeps out of the way ,not really into all the football and stuff so get grief from the boys ,has a couple of girls as friends ,and he get grief for that to ,has been called gay and a lot worse ,and nothing gets done !!! .. So ds has been doing maths for days ,by himself when others practiced for the play ,cause I wouldn't let him be stagehand ,and for the first time ever we walked away from school when others were just going in to watch ,...disgusting....... So on Tuesday is there leavers mass and traditional that all kids leaving take part,so asked if he wanted me to be there,as I always go and his reply was " no don't bother ,I am not doing anything anyway" ...so mad ,crying with anger ,at how they can just dismiss my wonderful, charming, funnny ,happy ,polite, bright little boy ...

God so sorry you lot got all that ,just don't know what to do next ,dh is still away till next weekend so have hardly spoke to him (long hours) so just have to keep going ,just wish he was back,,.worn out ,lifestyle choices example kids ,chickens,dog's, 3 jobs,food choices,ect ect isn't easy as a single parent and nothing so far has happened that I haven't managed to fix or make safe,but sick of juggling now:(

Anyway better go ,2 jobs tomorrow with a bit of childcare thrown in to sort out still ....xx

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BURTHA you'e had a lot to cope with in the last few months and coping on your own is SO very difficult. It's still difficult when your OH is there but at least them you have someone to talk to and discuss with so it's no wonder you feel the way you do and that life is tedious and hard for you at the moment. Your DS is a lovely lad to take this treatment in his stride rather than reacting to the cavalier treatment he's been dealt and I do so understand the feelings than engenders in you as his mum. I don't for a second think that the school have deliberately ignored him but it more feels like he's 'forgotten' which is very unacceptable, particularly the name not being in the yearbook. Is he the only one? or are there other children missing. If it is only his name then contact the school office and register a request that his name be added on a separate sheet and inserted loose into the book, they can't act if they don't know about it. If it's others too then perhaps you could all sign a letter to request a reprint including the children missed out?

Your lovely DS will be off to a new school in September and can make a place for himself and new friends and a new start and grow in confidence and competence and it's a whole new ball game from there on.

You're burning the candle at both ends for yourself aren't you love? and until your DH comes home is there any chance that you could make life a little easier by perhaps having picnic meals rather than cooking and letting the kids wear one old set of clothes to play in and make that last a week between washings? that might give you just a little breather and catch up space? I hope you can find a way to make it bearable until he's home again and there's always us, we're here and we care and we'll always listen so, chin up chicken, you can get through all this and come out the other side, love and hugs Lyn xxx.

Nargleblast

Burtha - sometimes those parents/children who shout the loudest get heard. It is a testimony to your lad's character that he takes these things in his stride. It is that school's loss, the fact your son has now left. September will be a new start for him and I am sure he will be fine and a lot happier. And as far as the yearbook is concerned, do you really want a yearbook from a school that can't be bothered to make sure every pupil is in it?

ginnyknit

Burtha, my heart goes out to your boy, he sounds lovely. Its so hard for you having to stand back and let him deal with it all when you feel like thumping someone but he will grow into a wonderful man and show them all . You really need a rest hunny, I wish I had a magic wand for all the Mums on here struggling as my DD is too.

Feeling wrung out this morning as the neighbours had some kind of party at 6 am :mad: music, shouting and singing - it carried on till 9.30 then stopped :mad:
I have Dgs today and really dont need to feel like this.

Pooky

Burtha - I know how you feel - DD2s old school offered a reward system of merits, when you got a certain amount you got a bronze/silver/gold/platinum award and at the end of each term the points were added up and if you had enough you got to go on the "treat trip". DD2 is easy going, hands her work in, doesn't talk back, does what she's told so didn't get the "bribery reward" that others got - she ended up missing out on 2 years treats because she didn't have enough merits even though every teacher praised her to the hilt. It's wrong when those who try so hard and do what's required get passed over for someone disruptive.

Ginny - hope you manage a "nana nap" at some point - some people can be so thoughtless with their celebrations.

I was up until very late with a distraught DD2 after a break up with her BF - I then had trouble sleeping mulling it all over....she's besides herself again this morning so I'm taking her for a girly lunch and to buy her a new dress for a party she's off to this evening with her girl friends.

paidinchickens

Burtha I hope things calm down for you soon.

Pooky It breaks your heart when the kids have a break up, when they're in pain there's no worse a feeling, I hope she finds herself a nice new fella while out in her new frock

If all else fails has anyone got the number of a hitman that takes payment in jars of jam, home made quilts and knitted jumpers :rotfl:

PiC x

Floss

paidinchickens wrote: »

...If all else fails has anyone got the number of a hitman that takes payment in jars of jam, home made quilts and knitted jumpers :rotfl:

I think you may have found a niche job for someone there PiC!

kidcat

Evening all. I have been reading and did a long post last night that was lost in the vast waste land of posts. I didn't have the energy to repost so I will stick with a simple congratulations for all the good stuff and hugs for the bad.

Burtha I would be flaming and raging at school. How you have stayed so calm is amazing. Please consider making a complaint to school and the governor. No child should have such an apappalling end to their primary school.

Pooky broken hearts are awful. It's good she is getting out with her friends though.

As for me I am shell shocked. Yesterday I discovered a friend was seriously ill in hospital which was a massive shock. By last night he was in coma on a ventilator. This morning I heard they were trying dialysis to clean his blood and at lunch time the call came to say he had died. He was 36 and full of energy and life. He had four kids.
I can't take it in. One minute I am crying and sobbing the next I am angry and raging.
Complicated relationship we had makes it hard to be of any use. His wife hates me and had stopped is having contact a while back. But in the last month we had rebuilt our friendship and were moving forward. His wife did not approve and was not happy.