The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

paidinchickens

Candlelight I was wondering where you have been and I was thinking about Cornishchick today as well. I hope all is well x

paidinchickens

Lyn Must have crossed posts.

I'm glad you had a good day out and great news on the Stepmother not coming. I thought I heard someone say Phewwww real loud from a southerly direction

The lady has some real issues, after the culprit of the poo in her front garden was found to be a cat from round the corner (as it was witnessed by the people who delivers the parish news leaflets) she has been left with a bit of egg on her face after blaming my dogs.

Off to bed with another headache. Pooky your right they're getting worse

PiC x

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PIC I hope she looks good in egg, bet you anything you like it's not the first time it's happened to her!!!

Twoblackcats

I can only echo the comments about difficulties with friends. My "best" friend, who I had literally known all my life and supported through various crisis times in her life (mainly relationship start ups and break-ups) rang me one evening when she was very drunk. She told me that I was lucky to have a good job and lucky to have a nice husband and lucky to have a nice home etc etc. she then told me that I thought I was better than her .....anyway I decided I would wait for her to ring again when she was sober so we could talk about what I might have done to give her that impression. Well I'm still waiting. It did hurt for a while and I still feel a bit sad sometimes but I can see now that it was quite an emotionally draining friendship and a bit one sided. Sometimes I think we just change and move on with our lives and some friendships can run their course - the good news is that some friendships endure and are truly great to be part of.

stiltwalker

Evening all - hugs and love to where it is needed or wanted.


Particular hugs re the friend issues - sadly we have found that people we have been friends with have been less than understanding of the complications inherent in raising 2 children with disabilities. We get quite a bit of the attitude - well why don't you do .... - when quite frankly life is too short! They seen to think we can still drop everything for a last minute night out, when actually we need time to organise an appropriately experienced sitter and hope it doesn't clash with anything for either us or the sitter. We also actually had one friend who when we said 'you ought to come round for a coffee more often' actually said 'well you could come to me' never mind that his house is inaccessible to anyone who needs wheels with narrow and uneven steps and a gate that we couldn't even get the chair through when his car is parked up. These are people I've known more than 10 years and DH has known for more than 25. We find that those in 'the same boat' as us are far more understanding and offer more support even if we don't have the years of history. It's funny who turns out to be a good 'un and who, ultimately, disappoints. I've had to take the view that those who are worth the effort will stick around and everyone else can, quite honestly, b*gger off!


House move going ok - umpteen trips to the tip, stuff to charity, stuff to people in the village, painting going well at the new house, First colour went on on Friday - the pale green in DD's room and it looks great.


Right must get back to finishing my parent report for DD's annual review. Catch you all later - XXX

mardatha

she has been moody, mardy, grey, paranoid to the hilt!!!
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ahem!
..what does mardy mean anyway? It's not a word I've ever heard befre I was it.
IYKWIM.

kidcat

As far as I know mardy is sulky gloomy type behaviours. A bit like the RV probably

kidcat

Stiltwalker so glad the move is going well. Like you we found that people just don't understand the concept of bringing up children with a disability it gets tiresome trying to explain it.

FairyPrincessk

Oh what a relief Lyn! At least now you have a bit of time to make yourself clear. I come from a family of tall men--my 'little' brother is six four--ish and Dad is six seven and a half..you know because what is another half-inch??? Mum is quite small, bordering on petite and I'm on the taller side of normal but have very small features/feet/etc. Mum always bought large furniture etc and I always feel a bit like goldilocks at their dining table--the chairs are huge, but they've got to be sturdy!

I think I've learned something these past few years---'they' always say that if you ignore something it won't make it go away, but there are some things that do! I've had several things in these past few years that a younger version of myself would have worried and fretted over. Recently I've realized that if I can't change it and I've given it my best shot that sometimes its fine to just leave it. A remarkable number of things have sorted themselves out like that and I think the friend situation will as well. It is nice to know that I'm not alone.

I'd be incredibly frustrated if longtime friends treated me like that Stilty.

Good luck to all the house movers, Monna, how are the piles coming?


Had a nice game of scrabble with OH tonight and now its off to bed. No sign of the promised storms, perhaps they'll come serenade me to sleep.

SDG31000

Hello everyone


Sorry for being MIA, but I've had a horrible cold that has knocked me for 6. I've spent most of the last three days in bed and was shattered walking around the supermarket this morning. I've even been eating DH's cooking, which shows how bad it has been. I did manage to make a big dish of mac and cheese with frankfurters in for dinner, as it is DS1's favourite and he is deep into exam mode at the moment. He even gave me the cables out of his pc for me to hide while he is revising. His first exam is on Tuesday and the last on the 19th. I'm a nervous wreak already.


stiltwalker I'm glad that the move is going well


kidcat I'm worn out just reading what you do. Remember to take some time for yourself please.


Good luck with the packing monnagran


I'm another one going through "friend" issues. My so called best friend moved away over 5 years ago and I have seen her once in that time. The only contact I have is through facebook and only because I want to see how her eldest DS is doing. So I have got the running commentary on how often she has come back to Leicester and listing all the true friends. Of course there has been no mention of me and all I did for her, including nursing her through a knee injury, looking after her DS more than she did and going through her second divorce as her support network and the mess she was during it. All while being ignored for months on end and dropped the second anything remotely more interesting turned up.
Now she has broken up with husband number three and is moving back to Leicester. Queue the messages about schools and that if her DS goes to the same one as my DS2 then he will know someone. So far I've resisted telling her that after 5 years they are strangers and that it's not my DS2's job to look after her son, especially not during his GCSE year. I have no wish to get drawn back into her drama and chaos and to be used in the way I was before. I'm hoping that nothing comes of it, but I am prepared to tell her that I have no wish in renewing the relationship.

Sorry for the rant, but it feels good to get it out. I can't grumble out loud at the moment as my voice goes mid argument. The family is loving it.