The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

paidinchickens

Had a good jumble today, as a helper not a buyer so lots of lovely ladies to catch up with. There was one who was trying to tell me she had paid someone else then back peddled when I asked who



Does anyone else get thunder storm headaches? Not that we've had any thunder just built up pressure and a lot of rain.

Early night and a paracetamol for me.

PiC x

wondercollie

I have the headache as I type. It' cloudy, the air is heavy and it will be like this for the next three months.

kidcat

PIC - Yes I have thunder headache at the moment.
Thinking of a couple of painkillers then bed for me, hoping the weather eases soon.

monnagran

LYN: DON'T DO IT!! Did you get that? DO NOT DO IT!!!

I had a French Stepmother-in-law who was a nightmare. Don't get me wrong, she was a wonderful woman who did all sorts of unimaginably brave things behind enemy lines during the war but to live with was quite impossible. When Pa-in-law died she came over and spent a month with us. A M O N T H ! It felt like a year! She then told me that she loved me dearly and thought she would sell her house in France and come and live with me.

Darlings. I sold my house and moved into a tiny cottage in the remotest 'off the beaten track' place I could find. Much too small and inconvenient for someone who liked her creature comforts. She was very cross but it worked.
Lyn, I'm not saying you should sell your house but do not put yourself in this position, not even for a week. Get that letter written, honey.

Not much progress on the packing here. I don't understand it. I'm working really hard but every thing looks worse if anything. If only people would leave me alone!

x

meenlaragh

Hi Mrs LW - just a quick note to say you have made exactly the right decision. You are such a warm and caring person for everyone, you also need to do what is right for you.

bluebag

Mrs LW.

Make your reply a very very firm NO! Don't give a reason, don't justify it, don't get drawn into any discussion about it. And don't feel bad about it either, you have a right to have your no respected.

I truly suspect this young lady's motives. You are too kind and optimistic to do that. There are all sorts of problems looking after someone of that age, and she is not in sheltered housing because she is hale, hearty and fit.

Just say NO!

Pooky

Morning all

Lots of solar flare activity lately which will be causing all these headaches....set to ramp up a level or 2 in the next few days too so be warned.

It's a gorgeous looking morning here, lots of little fluffy white clouds over the channel with lots of big cornflower blue swathes. Warm already, I put the washing out about an hour ago and was amazed just how airless it feels. Day 2 of the local towns air show today so lots more planes to see from the garden. Off to a huge bootfair first, need my sunday morning fix!

Started a new "give away" promotion on my site last night, great response so far and lots of lovely ideas for new cuts......my mind is buzzing with creativity.

Have a happy sunday all.

savingqueen

Kidcat, I agree entirely re buying a mattress. My mum persuaded me otherwise saying they will be ruined by the children with toilet training, vomit etc (sorry guys) and I let myself be persuaded. :(This time I will be choosing a decent one. DH and I have a very good one (bought half price in a sale naturally ) as we both suffer from dodgy backs and other ailments.


Well didn't get much done around the house yesterday but we did have a good day! Both boys were very keen to do some extra schoolwork (workbooks and secondary school selection practice sheets) so spent ages sitting and helping them. By early afternoon they were getting cabin fever and the weather turned from thunderstorms and heavy rain to glorious sunshine so we reverted to plan A which was to go to our town's biggest fete in support of a very good cause. Went for the last hour or so, gave boys a smallish budget and it lasted with change. Much better than going for ages and having to leave early or say no. DS10 put all his leftover change in a bucket for some therapy ponies who are taken to care homes, hospices etc - amazing idea. As DS10 had donated, both boys were allowed into the enclosure to pet a pony - the highlight of the day especially as DS7 is horse mad.


Today we are off to an other good cause, a fun day at an animal sanctuary we have never visited. Its more expensive than yesterday as there is an entrance fee of a few squid but there will be animals to see, bird of prey display, children's entertainer etc.


must go as DH wants his PC back. off to see if my lappy is working....
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kidcat

Morning all, its a lovely sunny day today, which is rather nice after the heavy rains and storms yesterday. I have two loads of washing on the line and another five or six lined up at the machine.
I really need to strip all the beds too, but as there is no more baskets left to put the rest through the machine I think I will wait until tomorrow.

OH been at work since 3.30am and isn't due home until 4.30 at the earliest, which effectively means he will have worked over 80hrs again this week. DD19 is moaning as she wants to be out doing things with her friends but he isn't here to take her. I have pointed out that for pleasure activities she could get the bus etc but I think in reality she doesn't have the cash and is just having a moan to make me feel guilty.
Her student finance is still not sorted due to his change of jobs and benefits in between its really mucked things up. However she hasn't been the quickest at chasing it or responding when asked to so its not entirely our fault.

Am really lacking in energy today, even though I got up later than usual, I can never understand how I can get more sleep but feel more tired:)

Loads of regular posters missing at the moment, shegar and kez to name a couple, hope all is well for them all.

FairyPrincessk

Hi All,

Thought I'd pop in, as I'm feeling a bit down. Things with work have been very tough lately but I've had such lovely and wonderful supportive family and friends that I'm pulling through. They've all encouraged me to enjoy the simple things outside of work and to remember that this time will pass and things will get better.

However, a very close friend seems to have suddenly turned on me. She's been a bit distant these past few months, but she is busy with work and so was I so I just put it down to that. While I missed her and could have used her support recently I knew she had her own things going on. A few weeks ago she emailed me to say she's been upset with me because she thinks I said something to a mutual friend about her. Apparently it had been bothering her for months even though she asked me about it then and I told her that it wasn't the case. Fast forward a few weeks, and the last few times I've seen her things have been a bit awkward. To be fair I've been a bit down, but she's been distant and seems to get cross any time I talk to anyone else (both times I've seen her have been at birthday celebrations).

To be honest, every time we do talk she turns the subject to herself and is often complaining about a mutual friend of ours who I happen to know is also going through a tough time. He is also her boss (but not mine, I'm much closer to him and his wife as friends) at work so its an awkward situation for me and I've tried to stay out of it. This is the same friend she has accused me of gossiping to. I suspect she is also upset that I've become closer to another mutual friend who has been truly very supportive of me. They haven't been as close recently and I think she might feel I am 'stealing him' but it really is because she's treated him similarly and he wanted a bit of space.

Yesterday she sent me a particularly nasty e-mail saying that I've been making her feel 'judged' and that is has been 'ugly' to be around me lately because I clearly don't support her the way I used to.

Honestly, I'm fed up. She's done wonders losing weight, managing work stress and really worked on her confidence this year and while these past few months I've had less energy than usual to cheer her on I still really want the best for her. I don't know what I've done, but I feel like I'm regularly being attacked. Its been such a stark contrast these past few months between friends who really rallied around to support me and her behaviour, which honestly feels as if she doesn't want to be around me if it isn't all about her and how well she is doing and how great she looks.

I sent a gently worded but very honest e-mail back last night and haven't heard back since. She's fallen out with three or four friends in the past few months, and I feel like the worst is yet to come. She's my closest friend in the UK, and it makes me feel a bit lonely to lose her. Most of my other friends are men, and while they are all lovely people it really just isn't the same.

So, I'm burying myself in more OS...lots of cleaning, a bit of work in the garden if the rain holds off and maybe a small sewing project this evening.