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Pooky

Afternoon all


PIC - Thanks - I'm biased but I thought she looked beautiful too (well she always does but you know what I mean)


Being up til past midnight and up again at 5.30am is catching up with me - I'm getting old!!!

Possession

Pooky wrote: »

Being up til past midnight and up again at 5.30am is catching up with me - I'm getting old!!!

Count yourself lucky, when I picked DD up from school today one of the little girls thought you got a pension at the age of 24! I am officially WELL past it, I can tell you.

PRINCESSX87

Afternoon everyone.

Finally enough time today to sit and catch up here with a cuppa. Recently I feel like my I’m constantly being pushed further & further to see how much I can cope with.

So remember, I put on here that my dad had found a lump with the Testicular area? Well its looking very much like testicular cancer! He needs to see a specialist to find out what we’re facing. But either way its not looking good. They believe that its spread to the second one and want things moving quickly.

But, How do you convince someone who is stubborn & terrified of hospitals to face treatment? He swears that nothing will be happening and that the moment admit to themselves their sick, They go down hill quickly. This is the same man who has a headache and refuses painkillers & Broke his arm in 3 places but left it two days “incase” they kept him in.

I am trying to stay strong but inside I am crumbling! I am trying to be the voice of reason with my siblings, but everyone is angry. Angry for him being selfish & stupid.

On a brighter note, I am currently a non smoker of 2 whole weeks.!! I am totally amazed at myself being able to stop smoking right when my world is crashing down around me. But I think if I hadn’t have done it now, I never would.

Hugs to everyone who needs one, Sorry I have been selfish with my post, Just needed to let it out before it drove me bonkers.

moments_of_sanity

Afternoon All, loving reading all your daily entries.

I read this and it made my laugh so thought you might chuckle at it too, really £80 a week is no where near enough. Maybe they should come shopping with us and see what we can achieve with £80 :rotfl:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2634553/Feed-family-four-just-80-week-What-tripe-Ed-Miliband-isnt-savvy-shopper-just-hopelessly-touch-squeezed-middle-claims-represent.html

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PX87 it's so difficult to want to help someone who won't take the help. You can only try to make your dad act on this, you can only advise him to do what needs doing and go for the treatment you can't MAKE him, he is an adult and if he's set his mind against it nothing you can say or do will change that love, no matter how much you wish and want him to do so. If the knowledge that the cancer has possibly spread doesn't make him accept the treatment then I'm afraid he will be unlikely to act for any other reason. Whatever he does or doesn't decide to do it's not your fault. You need to stay strong for your mum, your family and most importantly yourself. His GP and the consultant can only advise him, they can't compel him to act on thier advice. Sometimes these things have no way of being stopped and you have to let them happen. We're always here to listen and help if we can so don't let the burden get too heavy and keep talking to us, you're allowed to say what you feel pet, it's really not moaning, just worry. Keep your chin up and well done with the stopping smoking, it can only be good for you, Love and Hugs Lyn xxx.

fuddle

So many emotions for you to deal with right now PX. Be kind to yourself and try to rid yourself of feeling your dad is selfish for not acting. My dad acted for 4 years with cancer... he had a kidney removed, had amputation but still it chased around his body. He had chemo and radio. He fought and fought but still it got him when I was 10. Nobody was allowed (mam's wishes) to talk to my dad the full extent of his cancer for fear he would not fight any more. He fought a losing battle because he had hope. Now I am an adult I understand, with bitterness, who gave him hope and reasons behind it. Heck, I was not even allowed to say goodbye when I moved to my grandma's house the last two weeks of his life in case I got upset and therefore upset him.

Cancer fighters are so many things... but selfish just isn't one of them eh. I know you are devastated and most probably the anger and hurt is coming out but I know your dad will do what is right for him, not what is right for the ones around him. I hope I am qualified to say all this and that you can understand my gist without being too detailed. Apologies if my words are upsetting. It has to always be about the sufferer and never about the wishes of the suffering because otherwise the sufferer ends up suffering x

paidinchickens

SQ I apologise, my last post was trying to say that I know how you feel and to try and let you know your're not alone but it came out as a ramble about myself. Big squishy hug sent your way x

To lighten the mood I'm looking forward to Maleficent coming to the cinema and I'm sooooo glad I have a DGD to take, I'll probably have to bribe her as she has become a mine craft addict :rotfl:

The money can come out of my chocolate budget as I'm trying to be good

PiC x

savingqueen

sorry not time to post properly as just said goodbye to DS's mate and now cooking dinner for DH (due home soon)and I before we all watch a Harry Potter film at 7.30pm- boys are staying up til 10pm as tomorrow is a non-school (polling) day.


Just wanted to send massive hugs to both ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((PIC and Princess))))))))))))))))))))))))))) and of course anyone else in need.


sq x

Hard_Up_Hester

I look on the bright side where my mum was concerned, we never had food in the cupboard or soap or toothpaste etc, so I always have lots of everything in my cupboards. I wasn't allowed to learn to swim or ride a bike, so ensured my kids did both. My mum married too young, she & my dad were like the couple in Ryans Daughter, she hated work so got pregnant, gave up work, had me & within 3 months went back to work!
She was very disappointed with life her life & the people in it, such a shame, such a waste.

fuddle

I wonder how much of our back grounds and up bringings of the hurtful and negative kinds can be contributed to depression and non treatment of?

I know my mam refused to get 'mental' help and scoffed when I did but I am ok. To think that parents were coping with tough living without help doesn't bare thinking about.

Can I ask toughies if there are any books I can read along the lines of Hannah Hauxwell?