The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

savingqueen

I need to do lots and just cba for the last hour or so. I have done stuff earlier and will pop to supermarket soon with a list of his lordship's specific requests. I did have a really busy day yesterday, up extra early to sort house and other bits before I picked up an old friend from the station and then dashing about playing taxi after I had dropped her back. Had a lovely catch up but embarrassingly had a bad "indigestion attack" when she was with me which needed me to change into comfy clothes, undo my bra, take strong tablets and sit and breathe quietly for a bit until it eased off. Every time I start getting back to normal ie rushing about etc, something happens, headache, stomach ache etc. I have changed my lifestyle and try to get a balance but sometimes you just need to get things done to a deadline. I am hoping loosing some weight will help too.

oh well, one last quick cuppa and better go shopping
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ivyleaf

kidcat Thanks so much for your ISA suggestion I will mull it over for a while, I think. I wish interest rates were better though.

So cute, your kitty carrying your OH's glasses about :A

I will be thinking this Sunday of those of us who don't have Mums or MILs they get on well with, and also those who did but have now lost them.

savingqueen

ivyleaf wrote: »

I will be thinking this Sunday of those of us who don't have Mums or MILs they get on well with, and also those who did but have now lost them.

Thanks ivyleaf, I meant to say the same. I hope I didn't
sound insensitive, I know there are lots of mums and MILS who will be very much missed and that MD may be a sad time for different reasons.

On that note, a dear friend lost her mum last summer and so will have her 1st MD without her mum and I would like to do something as a mark of support but not sure what. I thought maybe make her lunch (not on the actual day) and raise a glass (well cuppa probably) to her mum but don't know if that would upset her. I will gently ask her I think. Or maybe just a card?

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mcculloch29

Just a quickie, saw this on FB, it's a visual representation of communication and autism. I think it's brilliant.

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fuddle

I have to send something to Mother for mothers day as if I dont I will offend and bring a whole load of carp into my life. Question is what for a woman who has no self respect or respect for her home and only thrill is something with a high alcohol content - and I have to post it.

Speaking of which I was on the phone to mam last night. Its sisters birthday next week and mam said sister told her not to remind as shes waiting to see if I trip up in sending her a gift... now I really dont want to go to the cost and effort of buying a gift. Its leaving a nasty taste I can tell you.

SDG - the ring! Yey!!

Monna - the months are ticking. A skip, a skip, a skip but er, will you be able to let go as Im sure everything will have a purpose... one day I am not helping huh?

I met with my lady who wanted to me to batch cook for her today... shes a prepper! Her food stores are great. She wants wholesome HM grub and a home help. I get to see her 3 hours every Wednesday. I am thrilled to get this package - right up my street only thing is shes gluten intolerant so will have to get used to that.

Mince and cheese scones tonight.

We should be swimming but the children people have made errors in their behaviour and are being punished so the treat is withdrawn and they are tidying their room.

Council tax bill came in (not too bad but we also do it over 12 months to help) and so did road tax. The car passed its MOT retest and the garage didnt charge a retest fee. The tyre has an advisory on it so that will need replacing soon.

Im having dementia training on Friday so looking forward to extra knowledge to help me with a lady I go to in the mornings. Ive got it so she feels like I am her servant just so she will accept help without hitting me and I see to it that breakfast resembles afternoon tea as best I can. I feel like Im struggling due to lack of knowledge but common sense says to me that if someone is confused then to just go along with any semblance of their normality as possible.

Looking forward to shutting the curtains, children in bed and crocheting this evening I must say.

Possession

Ivyleaf I believe ISAs are one of the things that have had a boost in today's budget, if that will make any difference.

monnagran

Ivyleaf: I've also been investigating pre-paid funerals and had, in fact, filled in all the forms and written out a cheque -mopping my streaming eyes as I did so. However, the Rev, who was doing it at the same time, wanted to pay for hers monthly and had to contact the providers directly. Every time she rang she was told that they had a high volume of calls and if she left her name and number someone would get back to her. Of course, nobody did get back. Eventually someone did ring and the Rev wasn't here. I gave them a time when she would be in but nobody rang back. She went back to hearing about the high volume of calls they were receiving. Again, they would ring back. No, they didn't. By this time she gave up and I decided that I really didn't want to deal with a firm who was that disorganised and tore up my cheque.
I will take Kidcat's advice and pay the money into an ISA.

Mothers are not always those who have borne a child. Many women, unmarried or childless, have loved and cared for a small person who did not emerge from their bodies. The simple fact of giving birth does not make a mother.
I was very moved by a plaque hanging in the Adoption Society where I adopted my boys. It was from 'The Prophet' and began, "You may house their bodies but not their souls." It was a lesson to me and I have seen too many 'mothers' who have not only tried to house their children's souls but who have crushed them, either by neglect, malice or suffocation. I have every sympathy with people who have great difficulty with Mothering Sunday either because of a difficult childhood or because they have never come to terms with the fact of their own childlessness.
My heart goes out to all those women who have made the world a better place because they loved, and were important in the life of, a child born to someone else. They are truly mothers too.

Here endeth the lesson.

x

Edited to add. A poem I have written out for my two and lodged with my will.

Not flesh of my flesh, or bone of my bone,
But still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute
You didn't grow under my heart
But in it.

ginnyknit

Monna, you brought a tear to my eye, how beautiful. xx

Fuddle I was once part time housekeeper for a retired nun called Cecilian. She wrote to my childrens headmistress to see if she knew any of the Mums who might like a job looking after her. I was told she was caustic and cantankerous but I took the job. I gave her the respect she deserved after a lifetime of serving God and others and acted as a maid. No one knew how we got by and tbh no one cared but I enabled her to stay in her home with a terribly debilitating illness and she only went into a care home for the last 4 days where I continued to visit her. I was treated as well as I treated her and it made little difference to me how we achieved it, I gained a great deal from the time we spent together.

Its a little different for you as an employee of a company but if you and the lady get by and she is calm then you have acheived something good. xxx

VJsmum

A quick update

I showed OH a print out of Aspergers to see what he thought. As I suspected, he thinks I am overreacting. He can see some of the signs, but then I guess we all can. He can't see as many as me as he thinks she is just a drama queen. We have agreed to out it on the back burner while she does exams but keep an eye and think about it again afterwards. That will be very close to her 18 birthday though, but there isn't anything I can do about it now,
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Thanks again for all inputs, I really appreciate it,. X

paidinchickens

Morning everyone and happy first day of Spring!!

Monnagran how lovely x

DH has finished building the penthouse for the foster cats, Baggage loves it!! She's racing round up and down, through the tube like a loon. It's always the small things in life isn't it?

The only problem is we're wasting too much time watching her



PiC x