The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kidcat

Well done mrslw getting your house back must be such a relief.

Having not seen what has been said or by whom to whom is difficult to comment on the other really.

Wc my nan had the same problem when my grandad retired do she sent him back or to work as crossing patrol and signed him up for voluntary stuff. School governors etc worked a treat.

PRINCESSX87

Just a quick message from me.

I’m due at the hospital in a little over an hour to have sedation and these teeth removed. To say I’m scared is an understatement. I cant stop crying, shaking, worrying, panicking. But I am I really trying to remember that I will be fine.

Not sure how long it will be before I start posting again. The paperwork suggests that I should be back on my feet again by Saturday. I am hoping its before than, I believe a slow recovery happens when you have no choice but to sit & do nothing!


Lyn, I have no idea who would be so nasty. I have only ever had anything good to say about the members in this thread. We’re NEVER going to always agree on topic’s but that’s life, However, To turn around and begin sending spiteful & nasty message to people isn’t right. I do hope that the person is reported.

I idea of a group on Facebook would be fab. But I do wonder about our wonderful members on here who are not on fb. They would miss out - Unless the same messages, topic’s, ect was posted on here too.

If anyone would like to add me on FB. Please feel free to PM me. Might take a couple of days to respond but I will

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PX87 hugs and more hugs lovie for your visit to hospital today,know that we're all there with you and for you holding you in caring arms and giving you the strength you need to get this thing over and done with. You're facing your demons in a dignified and positive way today girlie, I'm proud of you and you will be fine, you're allowed to be scared, it would be a miracle if you weren't but you will be out the other side of this before you know it. Good Luck and we'll be very glad to hear that all is well when you can post again, Love Lyn xxx.

Mrs_Chip

Good luck Princess, I know you are very fearful, but really things will be fine! I was very frightened when I had an op (major), but within a very few days I was feeling so much better and realised that the fear was in itself far worse than the actual thing I was frightened of.

Fear is our powerful protector, just sometimes it takes over. Being frightened is natural, if we can learn to accept and contol our fears life becomes so much easier!

Take care, you will be back and bouncy soon! xxx

ArthriticOldThing

Oh MrsLW that is just awful.:eek: I know I am a relative newbie on here but I find it so distressing that people can do such things.:mad: I send my support, best wishes and (((hugs))) to the founder member concerned.


Mrs Chip I too remember the previous lot of bullying and also have an 'ignore list'.


mcculloch29, and everyone else, I'm on FB as well but don't use it very much. Much prefer this forum.


(((HUGS))) PRINCESSX87, I hope you get thru the dentist quickly and without too much pain. Keep strong.


Well done fuddle for standing your ground.

kidcat

Good luck princess. I am going in a few weeks so know how you are feeling. I use counting as a coping technique. Take care

savingqueen

Good morning everyone,

Can't seem to get going today, feel just as sleepy as I did at 6.30 this morning! DH is working from home so nice to have some company in the background though he is very busy. I have a big to-do list but am going to pare it down otherwise I will set myself up to fail.

Today is VOUCHER day for a certain supermarket so I am going off to buy a couple of papers soon. Meant to defrost the freezer today but am going to leave it for another time. All the essentials getting done 1st and see what time is left after. Being kind to myself.

DH had a big meeting at work yesterday and he will find out in March about his job, brought forward from May. There will definitely be redundancies and those who are left will have to compete for remaining jobs with new contracts. Feeling quite worried now but trying not to as it won't help either of us. DH and I have had a joint pep talk but underneath we are both worried.

I have my 2nd counselling session tomorrow after a month's gap and I meant to be thinking about goals but just can't so will go back and say exactly that. I really don't know how I meant to after one assessment session.

(((((((Princess)))))) I know you will have left home now but I will be thinking of you all day and there in spirit. Post when you are able and let us know how you are.

sq

kidcat

SQ I feel the same this week, never not tired at all. Hope all goes well for your DH and work. Its the waiting to find out that is the worst part. I found knowing he was losing his job wasnt as bad as waiting to find out.

McCulloch - thanks for posting the voucher list, off shopping in a few minutes so will remember to buy the paper ready.

savingqueen

Huge hugs to the member who has received nasty PMs. (please PM me if you need a shoulder, I won't say anything on here unless you ask me to.) You know the vast majority of us care about each other and want you to stay. Be the bigger and better person and just ignore them. I do feel a degree of sympathy for such people as there will be a reason behind their bitterness. Also have you considered reporting them?

There are posters (and they know who they are) who do not post that often but then pop up with some nice posts to cover their backs no doubt and a few catty ones. I will not be putting people on an ignore list personally as I like to get a full picture of the thread but I do not respond to any of their posts, even the nice ones or thank them ever. (BTW I only thank posts if they are directed to me or particularly touch me, make me laugh etc - I don't routinely thank every post I read)

I still think about the last poster who was heartlessly hounded out of our forum - a place where the vast majority of us keep it a safe and warm place. Please everyone (I am taking to the majority here) stay and continue as we are. Do not let people with nothing better to do than be nasty spoil our doorstep and win.

To the posters who get a kick out of PMing others to upset them - feel free to take out your nastiness on me instead, PM me. As you mean nothing to me, I really wouldn't care.

sq

ginnyknit

Princess, hope all goes well today, be good to yourself when its all done.

Mrs LW I could get there for breakfast and be very appreciative if you gave me croissants :dance: Glad you are getting your home back. It was very kind of you to help her out but it sounds like she needs to stand on her own two feet now. Im glad you let us all know about the bullying, its just wrong on here where everyone is so kind and generous of spirit, I dont know what I would have done without everyones support on here.

Monna, your lifes journey led you to a community where they are blessed to have you and I mean that most sincerely.

Dgs is behaving wonderfully whilst Mummy and Daddy are away. He got a little bit upset last night and must have been missing them but soon cheered up. We have been extra calm and laid back and it has paid dividends. Now Dgs is at school part- time and then has a couple of hours with his childminder we are all able to do our own thing plus he can communicate more which makes life much easier.

The key to hubby retiring is find him a hobby that either takes him out of the house or in my case in another room. Having a man sitting around in your way all day leads to you wondering where you can hide his body. Re- training is a must, all those little habits are magnified - cups left around the house, coats thrown on the couch, asking stupid questions like 'where do we keep X Y Z' can drive you to distraction - no need to ask me how I know, five years retired and counting :rotfl: