Shamus dfw diary- a long long road

shamu95

well was having a good day but now best mate says have ruined everything and has walked out- why can things never stay good

SortingIt_2

Why does your best friend walked out?? Don't understand??
Know what you mean about why things can't stay good. I had the day off yesterday and I think having the time on my hands made me think too much, I have never felt so low as I did yesterday, can't seem to shift the mood. Just such a BIG mountain ahead of me and feeling lost right now - OH was really good bless him, printed me off a little certificate saying 'somebody loves you' with a smily face etc on the pc and told me to keep hold of it to remind myself that he is there etc - soppy but I needed it. I don't know, sorry to go on, just having a down funny five.

What are your plans for today? xxx

shamu95

How sweet is your OH. That is just so nice.
My Oh thinks im cheating on him as a guy from work rang at 4am this morn. ME and OH work at same place so he could just ask the guy-who rang as he was drunk and pressed my no by mistake. So OH not speaking to me.
my best mate walked out as i asked him if he would still have time for me when his other friends came back off holiday. As as you know its been a very bumpy road and i thought everything was sorted now-but he just got up and went. Says i was nasty and i dont know what to do now

Shineyhappy

Oh Sham,

I am sorry to hear about your friend being silly. I am sure he was just being a bit temperamental. I always find with male friends its best to leave them a few hours then text them asking if they want to do something. Men seem to prefer to act like nothing has happned. Strange things that they are.

Hi Sorting It,

I hope you perk up. Try not to get too down and when you do, make a list of all the things you have done that have helped and been positive. I find that that usually picks me up a bit.

shamu95

Thanks shiney happy- men are strange.
Think sorting it has got a great one tho.
Sorting it-we are climbing the mountain together!xx

SortingIt_2

Hello,

Thank you both - sometimes I don't know what I would do if I didn't have this site. OH is great but sometimes I really don't think he totally understands how I feel and I can't expect him to really seen as he doesn't have thousands of pounds worth of debt! I do feel lucky to have him, he has been so supportive and a real sweetie right when I need him to be! I think his favourite words right now are 'I'll fix you' -bless!

I agree with Shineyhappy, men are a strange things and probably is best to leave your friend and maybe text him tomorrow, wouldn't be surprised if you get a text later.

Re OH - when on earth would you get time to have an affair!!! More to the point he works with you both, does OH not think he would have found out of noticed if something was going on. Numpty!! Just let him have his funny five minutes, you have done nothing wrong and its not your fault that the guy accidently called your mobile.

If debt isn't enough stress - don't need anything else adding to it! I am sure things can't get much worse, just seems to happen every so often though. Life sure can be complicated! xxx

shamu95

Sorting it- ur man sounds like a real gem- i am so pleased that you have such great support- my Oh constanly rubs my nose in his special offers. I know i prob sudnt say this but it maybe would be better if he was an ex.But cant face al upheavel at the mo.
Friend and i are texting and i so hope that all will be ok there. He is so what i need in an OH at last.
I hope Oh believes me on the affair thing as cant deal with that on top of everything-however strange things have happened and i am still feeling positive about everything.
I think all this 'bad' stuff is making me so much more determined-as soon as i get rid of this debt i am going to have a lot of options and a lot of choices to make.

Sorting it i hope you are ok-i am always here if you want to PM me or msn or something

SortingIt_2

Hi,

I am so glad you are still feeling positive on all of this. I am sure OH will get over it and if he doesn't he is a fool! I hope you manage to sort things out or begin to feel differently but can't blame you for saying would probably be better if he was an ex. I would be SO upset if my OH was doing things like rubbing my face in it re offers etc - you need support not smugness! I guess I am very lucky with my OH and should remember that.

We will get there - may take a while but like you say once free of it we will have far more options. OH and I want to buy a house but obviously there is no way I could consider it so he is going to look into getting a mortgage himself after christmas - we would both rather pay money into something for our future rather than to our landlady (nice as she is) as it a waste really.

Thanks for the offer of PM - I may well do that tonight if not feeling better. But suprising after posting on here I do feel so much better, it's nice to have that support of those who understand and makes you realise that you have friends (even though not met) when you need them :-)

Better get back to work, roll on 4pm when I can go home... mind you still won't be home til about 6ish but hey its work, it pays well and thats what matters right now!

xxx

shamu95

Morning all,
Well a complete varied morning. OH has sent me a text saying i can transfer £4000 onto 1 of his cards which is 0% till may. However we havent really spoke to one another and hes doing it as he wants me to not be stressed and tired.- so i must redo sums again
Had to have a word with the playgroup manager- she said id made everyone feel guilty about not being able to take someone with me on a trip- i literally only made a little comment-not a major complaint or anything.
I have now wrote a letter saying that we will not be going on the trip and i am seriously considering quitting my job at playgrup as although i desp need the cash i dont want to work for people that have such a low opinion of me.

SortingIt_2

Morning,

Thats great news re OH - seems he is finally noticing what you are going through! He probably feels a little guilty too and although not the best way to apologise, maybe it is his way/start to you guys talking properly again??

RE playgroup - only you can decide. Maybe see how it goes over next few shifts, don't make any drastic decisions. I am sure it will be yesterdays news soon!

Meant to ask, have you worked out plan etc re extra money from not paying your dad back?

SO glad it is Friday, no overtime this weekend so plan on relaxing and catching up on some much needed sleep!

xx