A bit embarrassing but need some advice

pearl123

He's 47. It can be an around an age when some men have erectile problems. The tiredness is not going to help either.

lee111s

He may well have hormone issues. Being overweight, tired and no libido could all be symptoms of low Testosterone/higher than normal estrogen.

sharp910sh

Maybe he is cheating....

DKLS

mumps wrote: »

I worked with a guy who couldn't bear to have sex with his wife after witnessing her giving birth to their son. Their marriage broke up eventually. It does happen but I think it is rare but that is just a feeling, I don't know if there are any statistics but some people might be a bit embarassed to talk about it.

Men used to be banned from the delivery room, they should be given the choice to be in there or not, my mate was forced in by his wife, very complex and messy birth later, he was later diagnosed with PTSD! ended up divorcing her year later.

harrys_nan

sharp910sh wrote: »

Maybe he is cheating....

Was that comment needed ?????

FBaby

I think he is must what he says very tired. You don't feel the same at 47 a you do in your 20s. My partner and I are in our mid 40s and often talk about how much tired we are now. We considered having a baby together but we both know we couldn't cope with the demand of it. The issue of the extra weight and stress from work is probably having a big impact.

I would suggest concentrating on losing weight and being more active to regain mental and physical energy.

Robin_TBW

harrys_nan wrote: »

Was that comment needed ?????

Someone had to say it.

To be honest though, sometimes things just get a little bit samey. Life gets a bit scheduled and stale and the sex life can be a part of that. I've got bored of sleeping with an ex before and I'm 25! I don't necessarily mean you should start to dress up or anything, every 30s+ couple seems to do that and I just don't get it. But it being with the same person and knowing you can have it whenever you want removes some excitement. People on diets krave things, when they know they shouldn't have something it makes them want it more and makes it all the more satisfying during those moments. Sex is massively repetitive and he's had about 19 years more experience of it before you as well so maybe he needs something a little different. Mix it up a little, something simple... send him some dirty pictures when he's at work or something.

mumps

DKLS wrote: »

Men used to be banned from the delivery room, they should be given the choice to be in there or not, my mate was forced in by his wife, very complex and messy birth later, he was later diagnosed with PTSD! ended up divorcing her year later.

I agree, I have big age gap with my children, with the first dad was definitely not allowed in delivery room, second he could stay, third he was encouraged to stay, fourth he had to stay. I like to labour alone in dimly lit room, midwife popping in occasionally to see how I am. The horror from hospital staff that I didn't want him there for the whole production was quite unpleasant. He was happy to go with what I wanted and in the end he arrived just in time to see the delivery but without me feeling I had to chat or interact with anyone for the hours, and hours, leading up to the main event.

It is funny how it starts off wich a rejection of rigid rules and end up with ................. a different set of rigid rules.

heartbreak_star

I too agree he should see his GP - has he been tested for an underactive thyroid gland?

HBS x

Gloomendoom

Robin_TBW wrote: »

send him some dirty pictures when he's at work or something.

Really? The stress of looking for a new job isn't likely to improve his libido.