I don't like people in my house!

Goldiegirl

My dad was very ill when he had shingles, so I do understand that it is very debilitating.

If people come round when you are feeling ill and outstay their welcome no wonder you are finding it stressful.

Maybe you could say to the visitors that you've enjoyed seeing them, but you really need to rest now, and have a sleep ..... They might get the hint that it's time to go!

Once you are feeling better, perhaps you could arrange to meet people out of the house, like in a cafe etc, rather than have them come to the house.

I do understand where you are coming from on this. Unless I'm very used to a person, I find it quite stressful having people round. I think I worry too much about whether they are enjoying themselves or whether they are bored etc.

mrcow

PasturesNew wrote: »

Glad nobody comes round - it means I can lounge about in a T shirt and thong, with yesterday's socks lobbed towards the washing machine and not worry about it

Eewww.

Far too much information.

tayforth

mrcow - I love your sig.

zaksmum

tayforth wrote: »

mrcow - I love your sig.

It is good. And very true.

marisco_2

mrcow - re your sig. If someone is lying in their grave able to say anything it is not too late, they are not yet dead. Grab back those chances. Start banging on the coffin lid

fluffnutter

katy721 wrote: »

I have lived on my own for about 3 years now, and really enjoy having my own space.

This is OK.

katy721 wrote: »

This issue is getting so bad that it is ruining relationships

This is not OK.

Miss_Poohs

I don't mind visitors for a while, I enjoy a wee chat, what I can't handle is when folk want to stay over, it's just not my thing. We all value our own space in our house. My neighbours are lovely people very pleasant but they virtually have a revolving front door, I don't know how she does it, that said she looks like she thoroughly enjoys it, I'd be stressed out of my tree lol.

Hope the shingles improves soon I'm told its not nice.

dibuzz

I don't like people in my house. I feel uncomfortable and don't know what to do or say even if I know them well.
I get nervouse and tongue tied and by the time I get the courage to ask if they want a cup of tea Im also thinking it's too late to ask now they will think I'm odd so don't do it.
They must think I'm just mean but its anxiety more than anything.

seven-day-weekend

I have a friend who always says 'Do you WANT to come in?' if you ever knock her door. I don't think she is being unfriendly, I think she is genuinely asking, do you want to come in or are you in a rush to get away

I like people coming to see me on the spur of the moment although I get stressed by planned visits. I think the reason for this is if they have just called in without warning then they can't expect me to have the house neat and tidy and loads of biscuits for their tea. If it's a planned visit then I have to make sure I do these things.

Wellyboots6

It is mainly the staying over that is the issue. I can almost enjoy a quick !visit!
My house is very small and so i do things in certain ways which having someone else round disrupts. Even something daft like having another pair of shoes in the way bugs me!
I'd like to eventually move in with someone so am hoping if i moved into a house new to is both then this would help, but how can i be sure?
The shingles is just making me even more irritable than usual, think I've actually got off lightly with it!