I don't like people in my house!

Wellyboots6

Is this odd?

I'm not in the best of moods anyway as I have got shingles and am just generally exhausted, but I really dislike having people visit and being in my house!

I have lived on my own for about 3 years now, and really enjoy having my own space. This issue is getting so bad that it is ruining relationships however as I get very stressy with the other person when they spend too long in my house.

I think I am just turning in to a crazy dog lady!!

Yorkie1

It's about personal space and needing time to yourself mentally, I find.

The longer you live without having to make space for others mentally or physically, the harder it can get to make that space.

The question is whether you feel it's an issue for you, or whether you're happy with the situation.

meritaten

is this related to having shingles? I know how debilitating that can be.
but - there are cases of people turning into recluses because they become to attached to their own 'private space'. You need to sort out which is which.

marisco_2

Sorry to hear you are poorly and feeling exhausted.

Do you enjoy peoples company in general and is it just the thought of having them visit your home that makes you feel on edge? If so then socialise with others elsewhere. Mix and interact with people in ways that makes you feel comfy and relaxed.

In regards to how your feelings are affecting your relationships, start to take things at a pace that you feel happy about. When you have lived by yourself for a while it can take time to adjust to having someone staying in your home and sharing your personal space. Its not just about getting use to them being around and using your stuff. There is also the need to take them into account and accomodating their needs and wishes whilst they are with you. This all takes time to feel at ease about. Open and honest communication and reaching agreement on taking this all gradually can help eradicate any problems cropping up.

PasturesNew

I wouldn't like it either. Luckily for me nobody ever comes round

It's all awkward and I'm leaping about like a rabbit caught in headlights... and they expect stuff I can't give them (e.g. a cup of tea, with milk and sugar) because those things aren't part of my lifestyle so I never have drinks in that other people drinnk.... or like posh coffee, or filter coffee, or even wine (these days).

Glad nobody comes round - it means I can lounge about in a T shirt and thong, with yesterday's socks lobbed towards the washing machine and not worry about it

bestpud

I'm the same and don't like people in my 'space'.

I'm not concerned about it though - I just see it as one of my quirks.

If you are happy and manage to maintain friendships and other relationships without having them invade your home then carry on.

If you're not happy or it is affecting your relationships then I guess you need to work on it somehow.

jenhug

I thought it was just me! I hate having people visit. I just feel so uncomfortable. I am much happier when I visit other people. No idea why, rather glad it isn't just me though!

paulineb_2

Im the same and Ive lived on my own for 18 years. The only people who have been here are my mum, brother and a couple of exes on occasion.

I like my own space, it doesnt mean that Im not sociable, I do see people. But my space is very much mine as far as Im concerned. And its not that Ive never considered living with someone, I did last year but things didnt work out, thankfully because in hindsight if he had moved in it would have probably been one of the worst mistakes I had ever made. For a few reasons.

Person_one

I love it when my friends and family come to visit, but I also love it when they leave! I think that's pretty normal when you're so used to having the place to yourself, and even more so when you're not feeling 100%.

Look after yourself though, shingles attacks when you're not running at your peak, and I know myself that living on your own can mean you fall into bad habits healthwise.

Hope you feel better soon, anyhow.

tayforth

I love having people around! In my house, in their house, in the pub, wherever. I'm a sociable person I love visitors and don't care whether they give me advance notice or just call round.

Growing up, we had lots of cousins and friends around, and the house was always quite busy with people coming and going. My parents were very hospitable and the kettle was always on. I loved visiting others too, especially one particular set of cousins who had a farm, and they'd take us horse riding (their horse was ancient and slow lol) and fishing, and we'd help gather hay and whatnot.


That's not to say that I don't like my own space sometimes - I do. But I love company.


IMHO, everyone is different, and nobody is better or worse than anyone else, or right or wrong. Each to their own

NBOATER

Not keen on too many people in my house either.

My old cat hates strangers in the house, when the removal man came round to do a quote she used the shower tray as a litter tray!

My main hate it noise , have got so noise sensitive even the cat purring at night drives me nuts!