What is the importance of father in our family?

sachishah

As, we know we all called our father the head of the family. But, it' not enough, we need to know what is his important in our family? I ask this question with very good purpose. So, give your views as many you can.

Alikay

Depends on the role a man takes in his family, I guess. My dad was (he's now dead) as important as my mum. Not the head, not the deputy, but one of two parents.

My husband is the same. He's brought up our 3 children and cared for our foster children with me. I tend to do some jobs, he does others, but the responsibility is shared.

Orlando_Virgin

sachishah wrote: »

As, we know we all called our father the head of the family. But, it' not enough, we need to know what is his important in our family? I ask this question with very good purpose. So, give your views as many you can.

My Dad is brilliant, he's been raised quite militant like, so he's not the kind of Father who'll say "I love you son" he'd rather show it by decorating your room or helping you out with your car. He's got a brilliant sense of humour as well.

I can't really talk to him about emotional issues or women, or especially buying new things, as he always says you don't need it, "what you want that for?" is his favourite saying!

That being said, he's been married to my Mum for 30 years now and he clearly loves her to bits. Despite his upbringing yo ucan tell he values her opinion as much as his own and I think it's a key factor in their relationship working. He does a 50/50 share of all housework. Funniest thing is when my Mum just buys herself stuff regardless of what he says and she's the only one who isn't bothered!! He is as loyal a person as I have ever met so he sets his standards incredibly high as to what he expects from a friend. I think it limits him.

So in short, from my Dad I think I learnt, financial control, loyalty, respect, trust, to work hard at everything you do, oh, and how to play football!

Had to learn how to pull women on my own though!:rotfl:

fluffnutter

sachishah wrote: »

As, we know we all called our father the head of the family. But, it' not enough, we need to know what is his important in our family? I ask this question with very good purpose. So, give your views as many you can.

A father? Or your father? TBH, I'm struggling to understand what you're on about.

POPPYOSCAR

No we did not call our father the head of the family. That is a very outdated view.

His importance in the family is the same as the mother, to work together and create a stable family environment.

margaretclare

I don't know. I never knew my father. He didn't want to know me, from the time I was born. So....

The Victorians used the old Roman term 'paterfamilias' which encompasses what you seem to be saying. I heard it said on a TV programme last night about the last days of Queen Anne Boleyn - if the king couldn't rule his own family then he couldn't rule the kingdom.

Nowadays things have moved on considerably. We don't accept the need for a 'head' of a family and the head always having to be a man. For me, and I would guess for most modern women, it has to be an equal partnership. Having said that, I do strongly believe that children need two parents, simply because bringing up a child is just too big a job for one person. As I said, I never knew my father, but several people had an input into my upbringing and they all played different parts in it. My grandparents, my aunt, and my mother. I'm grateful to all of them.

LannieDuck

The man as the head of the family is a very old-fashioned idea, although sadly still prevalent in many cultures. IMO, the man and woman (or man and man / woman and woman) together create a family unit of which they are (both) the head.

victory

My father was not the head of the family or called that way, both parents worked and both parents provided financial stability, a roof over our heads, looked after us etc.

affordmylife

I must be very old fashioned then as I still see the father as the head of the family.

my own father was the breadwinner although joint decisions were always made and still are. my mother is no push over believe me.

in my own family my husband is most definitely the leader, the organiser, the breadwinner.

again we make joint decisions and share childcare/household chores etc but I firmly believe a man is head of his household.

I like having someone to depend on I guess.

sammyjammy

fluffnutter wrote: »

A father? Or your father? TBH, I'm struggling to understand what you're on about.

Looking at the OPs other two posts they seem to be of Indian descent so possible English is not their first language.

lostinrates

affordmylife wrote: »

I must be very old fashioned then as I still see the father as the head of the family.

my own father was the breadwinner although joint decisions were always made and still are. my mother is no push over believe me.

in my own family my husband is most definitely the leader, the organiser, the breadwinner.

again we make joint decisions and share childcare/household chores etc but I firmly believe a man is head of his household.

I like having someone to depend on I guess.

My husband is the bread winner too, and I like depending on him. However, I like to think he can equally depend on me.

Dh might be the breadwinner, but I am the organiser.

We are not parents. But I would hope we would have approached parent hood with the same mutual support and reliability as we d the rest of our lives.